How Do I Overcome Fear Of Failure?
Summary: There is no such thing as failure! It's just your idea. The external influences have trained you to think of life in terms of success and failures. Success and failure should not be contingent on what recognition you get in the world. Your success is determined by how joyfully you lead your life, regardless of what situation you are in. Whatever situation comes your way, you can use it as a stepping stone, and use it make yourself stronger and better. Sadhguru narrates a beautiful tale of a farmer and Shiva to illustrate this.
article originally published on isha.sadhguru.org
The Idea of Success & Failure
Sadhguru: There is no such thing as failure. Failure is an idea because success is also a stupid idea. Instead of trying to change the world, change the idea. If you just change that, everything is great. If you were a beggar on the street, today, if you could walk into the restaurant and eat a dosa, this would be the height of success, isn’t it?
For one who is seeing this life as a stepping stone for a larger possibility, there is no failure.
Every idea, thought, emotion or value that you have is picked up from somewhere and it rules you from within. This idea of success is not even your idea. It is somebody else’s idea of what success is. Your religion, your society and your culture have trained you to believe that this is it. Don’t become a slave to somebody’s idea; that is the first and foremost success. Success and failure is not in the volumes of money flowing into your life. Success and failure is not dependent upon the recognition that you find in the world. You are successful with life if you know how to walk with joy even through hell.
A Stepping Stone
For one who is looking at the simple events of this life itself as the goal of life, for him there is failure and success. For one who is seeing this life as a stepping stone for a larger possibility, there is no failure. Whether you have a good deal or a bad deal, whatever the situation is, it’s very useful – you use that for your wellbeing.
Once, there was a farmer who was tired of various natural factors ruling the quality of his crop. So, one day he called Shiva and said, “I am tired of all the natural nonsense happening. Obviously you are not a farmer. I know from history that you were a hunter. You don’t know what it means to farm so why don’t you leave nature in my hands? I am a farmer. I know when it should rain, I know when there should be sunlight, I know everything. You don’t know because you are just a hunter and a crazy ascetic. You are definitely not a good farmer. Everything is happening at the wrong times. You leave it to me.”
Whether you have a good deal or a bad deal, whatever the situation is, it’s very useful – you use that for your wellbeing.
Shiva was in one of those moods, so he said, “Okay, nature is in your hands.” Then the farmer planned his crop. So he calls out “Rain!” And it rains. He pokes the land with his finger and sees, “Okay it’s soaked up to six inches,” “Stop!” Then he ploughed his field and planted maize seeds and waited for two days, “Rain!” then “Sunlight!” One day he was working in the field so, “Cloud!” Everything just happened the way he wanted, and a beautiful maize crop came. He was overjoyed.
When it was time for the harvest, he wanted to see that no birds come. He was surprised about that because when he said, “No birds!” – no birds came. He went down to his fields to harvest the maize but when he looked at the crop, there was no grain on the plants. Then he thought “What the hell is this? What did I do wrong?” He couldn’t figure it out because he had managed everything – rain, water and sunshine – properly.
He went back to Shiva and asked, “I did everything right but there is no grain. Did you sabotage my crop?” Shiva said, “I have been watching; you were in-charge so I didn’t want to interfere. The rain was great, the sunshine was great, everything was fine but you stopped all the winds. I used to always send fierce winds which would threaten your crop but because the plants felt pushed and threatened, they put their roots deeper into the earth and so grain happened. Now you have a great maize crop but no maize.”
The Only Goal
As the maize crop used the winds to strengthen themselves, various situations in your life can either be used to make yourself stronger and better or you can sit and cry. This is the choice you have. Everything, it doesn’t matter what happens, even the most horrific event in your life can also be used for your growth and your wellbeing. The small events of your life – your business, your marriage, your children – all these things are just a stepping stone. This is not new to you because in Indian culture they put this into people for millennia. They said, “Your life is about mukti. Your marriage, your business, your social life, these are all just the means to get there. Either you go with it or you go without it but whether you are a sanyasi or you are in samsara, your only goal is mukti.”