What you need to make your marriage successful is not the perfect person. What you need is absolute integrity.

Love is not about somebody. Love is not some kind of act. Love is the way you are.  

Being attached to someone is not about the other person. It is about your own sense of inadequacy.

Love should always be a liberating process, not an entangling one.

Lovers and devotees must be allowed a certain margin. Otherwise, just hard logic will kill both love and devotion.