The ‘I love you’ mantra – a mutual benefit scheme

The ‘I love you’ mantra – a mutual benefit scheme


Transcript: See, people are talking about. They not only love people around them, they love god these days. Now, if you sincerely look at it, all this is just plain survival. Please you have needs to fulfill. Even if you love somebody, you have needs to fulfill, isn't it? Physical, emotional, psychological, financial, social, so many needs to fulfill you have. To fulfill these needs, 'I love you' is always a good mantra. On a certain day, Shankaran Pillai went to the park. In the park, on one of the stone benches, a pretty woman was sitting. He went and settled down on the same bench. After a few minutes, he moved closer to her, she moved little away. Few more minutes, again he moved little closer, she moved little away. Now she's at the end of the bench. Now he again moved a little closer. Now the only option is, she has to either get up and leave, or do something else. So she pushed him away. Then Shankaran Pillai waited for a few minutes. Sun was just setting, you know, that evening, twilight, you can say many things. He went down on his knees and told her, "I love you, I love you like I have never loved anybody in my life." This twilight zone. If it is in the middle of the afternoon, nobody would believe you. But you know, when the sun is setting, a woman is always a fool for love. She melted. She melted, things happened between them. Then it's nearing 8 O'clock. Shankaran Pillai got up in a hurry, "I need to go, I need to go." She said, "What? You're going? You said you love me." As far as she's concerned, the moment he uttered the word 'I love you', they have become one. He said, "No, no I need to go. My wife is waiting. 8 O'clock I have to be there." So, 'I love you' is like that open sesame, you know. You know the story? So to get what you want to get, this is a good mantra. As long as you have needs within you, it doesn't arise. Love doesn't arise, please see. Because wherever you go, you have to fulfill your needs. Needs are there. So the whole effort of yoga, in yoga we never talk about love. Not because there's no value to it, simply because if you try, it will not come. If you transcend your needs, you will naturally become loving. People, whom you claim to love, please see there is an arrangement. It's a mutual benefit scheme. You give me this, I'll give you that. But if you don't give me this, I won't give you that, isn't it so?


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