What to do when my beloved betrays me?

What to do when my beloved betrays me?

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Transcript: See somebody can betray you or you can think they betrayed you. Only because you have unrealistic expectations of them. Well, if they do what they want to do, why do you think they have betrayed you? They're doing what they want to do. You must respect it. If you say, they're beloved to me, I love them. If you love a person, should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want them to do? For most people love means, you must do what I want. No, no. Love means they can do what they want and we will love them. Isn't it? You have this thing that if I love you, you must listen to me. No, no. If I love you, I want you to do what brings joy to you. Isn't it? Just change the concept of your beloved. But Sadhguru, I have a doubt regarding this. What if allowance or going in a way that's not good for them and we want to correct them, and that's why we're telling them. Then you should have been the mother. Because I'm not saying that it is never true that somebody may be going off track and you try to do something for them. I'm not saying it's never true. But you don't take this position that somebody is wrong and you're going to fix them. They're doing what they want to do. Isn't it? What they want to do right now may not be benefitial for them. Possible. But you must look at it sincerely. Are you complaining because it's not benefitial for them? Or you're complaining because it's not benefitial for you? Most of the time it's this. Genuinely look at it, it's not benefitial for you but it's good for them, please let them do it. But, they're damaging themselves, yes then you have a right to intervene and try to do your best. But not always. Not always can you enter somebody's life and do something for them. If I have to enter your life and do something for you, I have to earn it, isn't it? I have to earn a relationship where I can intervene in your life. If you don't earn that, you cannot intervene. So if you're unable to intervene, you must just understand you've not earned that closeness.

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