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How does synchronicity happen in people who are close to each other?

Transcript: If there are two people close to each other, let's say there are two people who love each other. Now, it may so happen, at a given moment if one person is thinking of a certain thought the other person is also thinking of the same thought. See one person is picking a number which is three, the other person is also picking number three because certain cohesiveness can easily happen with life. Not only...

... with human beings, it can even happen with other creatures. It can happen with trees, it can happen with other animals. Among trees and animals also this is very much there, much more than human beings. It is very little among human beings because there is too much of intellectual thought in the human being. In the other animals, there is not so much thought so their synchronicity is way better than that of human beings. Because they experience life chemically, or by smell. So because of that there is a much more cohesive synchronicity among other creatures. For example, if a group of wild elephants come and start grazing on a particular species of trees. Within 20 minutes, all the other trees in that region belonging to that species, their leaf will go bitter and they'll turn mildly poisonous. Because they've communicated, we're being eaten up, you do something. They will all turn bitter. The elephants know about it. So because the elephants know about it, they will graze quickly in one place and then they will not even bother to graze the next tree and the next tree because they know they would have turned bitter and they will go far away and again start eating. So, even among trees, there is such synchronicity. If human beings hit a pitch among themselves, good for them. But don't give too much significance to it because then you will start imagining a whole lot of things, which are unnecessary. But is their synchronicity with life? Of course. Otherwise so many things wouldn't happen. There are lots of studies which clearly show this. And in the yogic system we call this Samskriti. What Samskriti means is, there is something called as, you know, learning because of the atmosphere. You're not being actually taught anything. Just because a certain family has certain skills, even the children born in that family just, almost like they're born with those skills, they just adapt. It is just in the air somewhere, the skill. They just pick it up. They have made studies of various people and animals, mice. They have noticed that this is possible that learning can just happen out of contact. So there is synchronicity with life otherwise life would not exist. But it should not be overdone in our minds, that's all.

Transcript: If there are two people close to each other, let's say there are two people who love each other. Now,...

... it may so happen, at a given moment if one person is thinking of a certain thought the other person is also thinking of the same thought. See one person is picking a number which is three, the other person is also picking number three because certain cohesiveness can easily happen with life. Not only with human beings, it can even happen with other creatures. It can happen with trees, it can happen with other animals. Among trees and animals also this is very much there, much more than human beings. It is very little among human beings because there is too much of intellectual thought in the human being. In the other animals, there is not so much thought so their synchronicity is way better than that of human beings. Because they experience life chemically, or by smell. So because of that there is a much more cohesive synchronicity among other creatures. For example, if a group of wild elephants come and start grazing on a particular species of trees. Within 20 minutes, all the other trees in that region belonging to that species, their leaf will go bitter and they'll turn mildly poisonous. Because they've communicated, we're being eaten up, you do something. They will all turn bitter. The elephants know about it. So because the elephants know about it, they will graze quickly in one place and then they will not even bother to graze the next tree and the next tree because they know they would have turned bitter and they will go far away and again start eating. So, even among trees, there is such synchronicity. If human beings hit a pitch among themselves, good for them. But don't give too much significance to it because then you will start imagining a whole lot of things, which are unnecessary. But is their synchronicity with life? Of course. Otherwise so many things wouldn't happen. There are lots of studies which clearly show this. And in the yogic system we call this Samskriti. What Samskriti means is, there is something called as, you know, learning because of the atmosphere. You're not being actually taught anything. Just because a certain family has certain skills, even the children born in that family just, almost like they're born with those skills, they just adapt. It is just in the air somewhere, the skill. They just pick it up. They have made studies of various people and animals, mice. They have noticed that this is possible that learning can just happen out of contact. So there is synchronicity with life otherwise life would not exist. But it should not be overdone in our minds, that's all.

May 27, 2021

3:09

Mental Health / Video / Yoga & Meditation

How to be peaceful and happy? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Anupam Kher | #9

Synopsis: Good evening all of you. Guruji, I would like to know, you know, man is always craving for more and more. And not happy with all he gets. Of course, you just explained how happiness is an internal state of being. What would you tell the normal people as to how to get peace and happiness in their lives?

Synopsis: Good evening all of you. Guruji, I would like to know, you know, man...

... is always craving for more and more. And not happy with all he gets. Of course, you just explained how happiness is an internal state of being. What would you tell the normal people as to how to get peace and happiness in their lives?

May 7, 2021

6:15

Relationships / Society / Video

Should we have low expectations from everything? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #9

Synopsis: Well that brings me to I think, I believe the mother of a virus that plagues a large part of humanity, is expectation. I have a simple theory that I try to expect less because then I feel that I’ll be disappointed less. And I feel that to curtail your expectations is possibly the toughest thing to do because we constantly expect. From relationships, from the work we...

... do, from high energies.

Synopsis: Well that brings me to I think, I believe the mother of a virus that...

... plagues a large part of humanity, is expectation. I have a simple theory that I try to expect less because then I feel that I’ll be disappointed less. And I feel that to curtail your expectations is possibly the toughest thing to do because we constantly expect. From relationships, from the work we do, from high energies.

April 25, 2021

4:56

Relationships / Video

Is there a limit to love? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #8

Synopsis: Is there a ceiling to extremity? To extreme emotion. Like, love. When you love something. Is there a time you have to stop? Is there any such thing as stopping the extent of your extreme emotion? And I feel that about even the negative emotions. When you love someone, how do you really stop?

Synopsis: Is there a ceiling to extremity? To extreme emotion. Like, love. When...

... you love something. Is there a time you have to stop? Is there any such thing as stopping the extent of your extreme emotion? And I feel that about even the negative emotions. When you love someone, how do you really stop?

April 25, 2021

12:43

Society / Video

Ego or self-respect? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #7

Synopsis: What has always, Sadhguru, has also left me in wonderment at times, about the usage of two words, which I’m going to say to you right now. Terminology sometimes has a tendency of making you even receive an emotion from within. Two words being, ego and self-respect. Now these are two pillars of, what we believe, self-confidence. Which is unfounded, I believe. We always...

... say, my belief has always been, maintain your self-respect. Keep that, your ego can be flexible because it should be convenient. Because I believe that your ego should be a function of your convenience. How true is that? Or maybe both are unfounded?

Synopsis: What has always, Sadhguru, has also left me in wonderment at times, about...

... the usage of two words, which I’m going to say to you right now. Terminology sometimes has a tendency of making you even receive an emotion from within. Two words being, ego and self-respect. Now these are two pillars of, what we believe, self-confidence. Which is unfounded, I believe. We always say, my belief has always been, maintain your self-respect. Keep that, your ego can be flexible because it should be convenient. Because I believe that your ego should be a function of your convenience. How true is that? Or maybe both are unfounded?

April 25, 2021

7:05

India / Mental Health / Society / Video

How to deal with mental health issues? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #6

Synopsis: What I believe surrounds us all is urban angst. That seems to be the terminology that comes out of mental health solutions, etc. And that seems to be trampened in many parts of the world now, including now slowly penetrating in India. When people deal with mental health issues like depression and anxiety. And those kinds of people seek certain chemical imbalance issues...

... that are told to them. I really want to know, it’s such an order of the day today, I feel like it’s talked about like it’s a fashionable issue. But I think it’s a very serious issue when people talk about mental health issues like depression and anxiety and seek counselling to sort those issues out. And then the diagnosis at times is chemical imbalance and medication is given. I know you hate the word philosophy, but all your teachings are definitely about finding yourself and seeking that pleasantness from within. But to those who are not strong enough to achieve that and seek this assistance, what is your take on that?

Synopsis: What I believe surrounds us all is urban angst. That seems to be the...

... terminology that comes out of mental health solutions, etc. And that seems to be trampened in many parts of the world now, including now slowly penetrating in India. When people deal with mental health issues like depression and anxiety. And those kinds of people seek certain chemical imbalance issues that are told to them. I really want to know, it’s such an order of the day today, I feel like it’s talked about like it’s a fashionable issue. But I think it’s a very serious issue when people talk about mental health issues like depression and anxiety and seek counselling to sort those issues out. And then the diagnosis at times is chemical imbalance and medication is given. I know you hate the word philosophy, but all your teachings are definitely about finding yourself and seeking that pleasantness from within. But to those who are not strong enough to achieve that and seek this assistance, what is your take on that?

April 25, 2021

15:43

Mind / Video

Why do we direct our negative emotions towards our loved ones? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #5

Synopsis: The people you love the most, you kind of tend to dump all your anxieties, your anger, your fears, your insecurities, all onto that one source that gives you the maximum love and the one that you love the most. Why is it that we, as a human race, tend to do that? Tend to lumber all our negative emotions on our most positive light source.

Synopsis: The people you love the most, you kind of tend to dump all your anxieties,...

... your anger, your fears, your insecurities, all onto that one source that gives you the maximum love and the one that you love the most. Why is it that we, as a human race, tend to do that? Tend to lumber all our negative emotions on our most positive light source.

April 25, 2021

8:33

Mental Health / Society / Video

Self-pity | Sadhguru in Conversation with Karan Johar | #3

Synopsis: When you speak about suffering. Sadhguru, it is definitely something that I believe, that self-pity sometimes is like a luxury spa. It’s somewhere where your comfort lies. Self-pity is, I believe, the most indulgent emotion. And it gets you nowhere, but makes you feel really good for a certain period of time. What is your take on something like self-pity?

Synopsis: When you speak about suffering. Sadhguru, it is definitely something...

... that I believe, that self-pity sometimes is like a luxury spa. It’s somewhere where your comfort lies. Self-pity is, I believe, the most indulgent emotion. And it gets you nowhere, but makes you feel really good for a certain period of time. What is your take on something like self-pity?

April 25, 2021

3:21

Be Inspired / Mental Health / Video

What is your advice to young people? | Sadhguru in Conversation with YouTubers | #1

Synopsis: I’m going to jump right into it. You know when you're this age, when you’re in college. When you’re just out of school, you’re in college, you’re under 25. Every little thing that goes wrong in life, feels like the end of the world. For example, a heartbreak. Breakups are bad, right guys? Breakups are tough. Failing in exams, fighting with your family, getting...

... in a fight, getting in a fight with your teachers, friends. At that moment of time, it just feels like the worst thing to happen to us. And then eventually in a few years, you get to a place where you look back and you’re like, I don’t know why I was stressing over this so much. But in the time that you spend stressing over these things that went bad, you end up doing more damage. Do you get me? Do you know what I’m saying? So what is your advice to all of us young people about this? You know, when every little thing that goes wrong in our life feels like the worst thing that could happen to us.

Synopsis: I’m going to jump right into it. You know when you're this age, when...

... you’re in college. When you’re just out of school, you’re in college, you’re under 25. Every little thing that goes wrong in life, feels like the end of the world. For example, a heartbreak. Breakups are bad, right guys? Breakups are tough. Failing in exams, fighting with your family, getting in a fight, getting in a fight with your teachers, friends. At that moment of time, it just feels like the worst thing to happen to us. And then eventually in a few years, you get to a place where you look back and you’re like, I don’t know why I was stressing over this so much. But in the time that you spend stressing over these things that went bad, you end up doing more damage. Do you get me? Do you know what I’m saying? So what is your advice to all of us young people about this? You know, when every little thing that goes wrong in our life feels like the worst thing that could happen to us.

April 20, 2021

4:06

Be Inspired / Video

How to unlearn? | Sadhguru in Conversation with India’s BSF Officers | #12

Synopsis: Guruji, how to unlearn? I mean, we have several reactions at our inner level, which are required to be unlearned. Like, when I go home from my office, or from the border, my family members come to know if my day was bad or good. At inner level, how to unlearn reactions?

Synopsis: Guruji, how to unlearn? I mean, we have several reactions at our inner...

... level, which are required to be unlearned. Like, when I go home from my office, or from the border, my family members come to know if my day was bad or good. At inner level, how to unlearn reactions?

April 17, 2021

4:23

Death / Video

How to overcome fear of death?

Transcript: A very dear friend of mine is completely consumed with cancer and she is very, very, very, ill. Is there anything that I can do, or she can do, to come through this? Come through means? Get cured? Yes. More diapers? Get better. Get better, get better. Now I am not talking with any disregard to your friend, but I want you to understand, people need to die. When and how is the only question, isn't it?...

... So if death comes to us, yes we will do everything possible to save ourselves. But if it goes beyond that, let us learn to die gracefully. Let's not fight with it and fight with it like endlessly, you know. It's a horrible way to die. The way people are dying in western countries is really a horrible way to die. Even though they're 85-90, staying in a hospital with full of pipes and needles all over them, this is not. It's okay if you die two years early, what's the problem? You die peacefully and gracefully, that's more important, isn't it? See death is the last thing that you do in your life. Shouldn't you do it gracefully? We must learn to accept death as a part of our life. We are not wishing death. But when it comes, let us learn to go through it gracefully, you know. If there is a possibility of saving ourselves, living beyond that, that is fine. But what I see in all the geriatrics homes in United States, many people are living beyond their death just because of medical support. And it's such a torture to themselves and to everybody. You should see the way, in some of the homes, they're being treated. Not because of anything. The people who work there, after some time they get irritated because this dead body is walking around. They don't understand anything, they've forgotten everything, they've like lost all their senses because they've lived beyond their time. If there was no too much medical input, they would have gracefully died at a certain point, isn't it? There is no sense in stretching it one more month, one more month, one more month. It doesn't make any sense. But, life is not understood that way. We are thinking of always stretching it. So if somebody's body is broken beyond redemption, let's learn to die gracefully. Let us make the person understand, it's okay, it's all right, you know. We're all in the queue, aren't we? So you are ahead of me, isn't that great? In any queue, you want to be ahead of everybody, isn't it? So I'm not trying to make fun of somebody's illness, but we should understand where one thing stops and the other thing begins, isn't it?

Transcript: A very dear friend of mine is completely consumed with cancer and she is very, very, very, ill. Is there...

... anything that I can do, or she can do, to come through this? Come through means? Get cured? Yes. More diapers? Get better. Get better, get better. Now I am not talking with any disregard to your friend, but I want you to understand, people need to die. When and how is the only question, isn't it? So if death comes to us, yes we will do everything possible to save ourselves. But if it goes beyond that, let us learn to die gracefully. Let's not fight with it and fight with it like endlessly, you know. It's a horrible way to die. The way people are dying in western countries is really a horrible way to die. Even though they're 85-90, staying in a hospital with full of pipes and needles all over them, this is not. It's okay if you die two years early, what's the problem? You die peacefully and gracefully, that's more important, isn't it? See death is the last thing that you do in your life. Shouldn't you do it gracefully? We must learn to accept death as a part of our life. We are not wishing death. But when it comes, let us learn to go through it gracefully, you know. If there is a possibility of saving ourselves, living beyond that, that is fine. But what I see in all the geriatrics homes in United States, many people are living beyond their death just because of medical support. And it's such a torture to themselves and to everybody. You should see the way, in some of the homes, they're being treated. Not because of anything. The people who work there, after some time they get irritated because this dead body is walking around. They don't understand anything, they've forgotten everything, they've like lost all their senses because they've lived beyond their time. If there was no too much medical input, they would have gracefully died at a certain point, isn't it? There is no sense in stretching it one more month, one more month, one more month. It doesn't make any sense. But, life is not understood that way. We are thinking of always stretching it. So if somebody's body is broken beyond redemption, let's learn to die gracefully. Let us make the person understand, it's okay, it's all right, you know. We're all in the queue, aren't we? So you are ahead of me, isn't that great? In any queue, you want to be ahead of everybody, isn't it? So I'm not trying to make fun of somebody's illness, but we should understand where one thing stops and the other thing begins, isn't it?

March 23, 2021

3:23

Be Inspired / Mental Health / Video

How to cope with negativity around you? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Matthew Hayden | #13

Synopsis: Sometimes, we’re in a situation where we’re surrounded by people who have a very high expectation of us. And when you can’t fulfil their expectation, you start feeling a very terrible feeling of guilt. And, it’s okay when it’s your mother-in-law, I’m kind of cool with that. But, sometimes it’s your parents, for example. Sometimes it’s the people who are...

... very close to you, like your parents, and you can’t really fulfil their expectation because you would like to do, in your life, what you want to do. And obviously it’s not what they want. And, how to cope with that feeling of guilt? And also, what do you think the kind of relationship should be between the parents and the children?

Synopsis: Sometimes, we’re in a situation where we’re surrounded by people...

... who have a very high expectation of us. And when you can’t fulfil their expectation, you start feeling a very terrible feeling of guilt. And, it’s okay when it’s your mother-in-law, I’m kind of cool with that. But, sometimes it’s your parents, for example. Sometimes it’s the people who are very close to you, like your parents, and you can’t really fulfil their expectation because you would like to do, in your life, what you want to do. And obviously it’s not what they want. And, how to cope with that feeling of guilt? And also, what do you think the kind of relationship should be between the parents and the children?

January 2, 2021

8:46

Be Inspired / Mental Health / Video

How to think positively? | Sadhguru in Conversation with Matthew Hayden | #12

Synopsis: How do you think positively in circumstances or, you know, external factors that are very negative?

Synopsis: How do you think positively in circumstances or, you know, external factors...

... that are very negative?

January 2, 2021

10:07

Lifestyle / Mental Health / Video

Should happiness be given more importance than any other emotion? | Sadhguru at Christ University | #15

Synopsis: ...

...You were talking about how important happiness is. And to be happy, so much so, that you can’t sleep. But I believe that emotions like sadness, grief, guilt, anger are beacons of our values. Should I push these emotions away or should I try to learn from them and enjoy the experience of life? Because life is all about ups and downs, and it’s not just about the ups.

Synopsis: You were talking about how important happiness is. And to be happy, so...

... much so, that you can’t sleep. But I believe that emotions like sadness, grief, guilt, anger are beacons of our values. Should I push these emotions away or should I try to learn from them and enjoy the experience of life? Because life is all about ups and downs, and it’s not just about the ups.

January 1, 2021

5:00

Be Inspired / Mental Health / Video

How to build self-esteem? | Sadhguru at Christ University | #2

Synopsis: I often find myself in a situation where I’m not happy with myself. I compare my abilities, achievements, and even my appearance, with that of others. Also, I think since I’m a humanities student, people around me constantly compare me with my other friends who have taken up medicine or engineering. And that really puts me off. And I think that’s one reason for...

... my low self esteem. How do you think I can build up on my self esteem and get rid of the self hatred that I have?

Synopsis: I often find myself in a situation where I’m not happy with myself....

... I compare my abilities, achievements, and even my appearance, with that of others. Also, I think since I’m a humanities student, people around me constantly compare me with my other friends who have taken up medicine or engineering. And that really puts me off. And I think that’s one reason for my low self esteem. How do you think I can build up on my self esteem and get rid of the self hatred that I have?

January 1, 2021

13:36

India / Society / Video

How can we change the sense of pride to a sense of shame? | Sadhguru at Harvard University | #5

Synopsis: I personally feel, Sadhguru, that there’s this phenomenon of castration anxiety in India. Castration anxiety, something related to male ego. We see that this male ego has been somewhere hidden behind rapes that happen, sexual harassment that happens. A lot of gender disparity. I wouldn’t say this is the only reason, but somewhere hidden behind. And we never address...

... it upfront. And all of these acts are acts of shame. But there is a sense of pride associated with it. How can we change the sense of pride to a sense of shame?

Synopsis: I personally feel, Sadhguru, that there’s this phenomenon of castration...

... anxiety in India. Castration anxiety, something related to male ego. We see that this male ego has been somewhere hidden behind rapes that happen, sexual harassment that happens. A lot of gender disparity. I wouldn’t say this is the only reason, but somewhere hidden behind. And we never address it upfront. And all of these acts are acts of shame. But there is a sense of pride associated with it. How can we change the sense of pride to a sense of shame?

December 31, 2020

8:01

Relationships / Video

How to handle an irritating spouse?

Transcript: This question is from Deepika. Sadhguru you said in one of the darshan that you are, you should treat everyone just as you treat me. Sadhguru you are a Karuna-avatar, but I have one inhuman, nasty creature in my home. It becomes difficult to see you in him. How to deal with him in this situation? In how many years of marriage does this evolution happen? Or it's a devolution. I'm sure he was a wonderful,...

... romantic wonderful man at one time. I don't know in how many years of marriage does he become a nasty creature. And how much role you have in making of a nasty creature. See, especially if he is nasty creature, especially, if it is so, this is your perception. But, especially if somebody is a nasty creature in your home or in your office or wherever you are. You seeing something in a certain way, is not about them. It's about you. Do you want to keep your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body pleasant or unpleasant? You make up your mind on that one. Now if you look at him, I said even that nasty creature, please look at him it's like me. I am not telling you that you have to listen to his teaching or take new practices from him. No. I am saying, if you have looked at me with a certain sense of reverence, devotion, love, affection, whatever is your emotion. If you have, please see everything with that because all I'm saying is, you have a body, you have a mind, you have emotion, energy. We're talking about your emotion right now. If you hit a certain level of sweetness of emotion at one point in your life, either because of your love or devotion or compassion of whatever, you hit a certain level of sweetness, this is the high point in your life. Now you should not come back from that, you must see how to go beyond that. I am saying, whatever was the highest or the sweetest or the most wonderful emotion, you have, make that the baseline. Why are you coming back again? If you did not know such an emotion, then what would I tell you, which is the sweetest emotion you had in your life? My child. Okay see, everybody as your child, we've told you that at one time. Then I saw you sat here with tears of blissfulness and love coming out of you, then I said see everybody as you're looking at me right now. Because this will make your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body, and your very being sweet and wonderful. This is not about him. Especially if he is being difficult, then you are being well trained, even if you go to hell you will do well.

Transcript: This question is from Deepika. Sadhguru you said in one of the darshan that you are, you should treat...

... everyone just as you treat me. Sadhguru you are a Karuna-avatar, but I have one inhuman, nasty creature in my home. It becomes difficult to see you in him. How to deal with him in this situation? In how many years of marriage does this evolution happen? Or it's a devolution. I'm sure he was a wonderful, romantic wonderful man at one time. I don't know in how many years of marriage does he become a nasty creature. And how much role you have in making of a nasty creature. See, especially if he is nasty creature, especially, if it is so, this is your perception. But, especially if somebody is a nasty creature in your home or in your office or wherever you are. You seeing something in a certain way, is not about them. It's about you. Do you want to keep your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body pleasant or unpleasant? You make up your mind on that one. Now if you look at him, I said even that nasty creature, please look at him it's like me. I am not telling you that you have to listen to his teaching or take new practices from him. No. I am saying, if you have looked at me with a certain sense of reverence, devotion, love, affection, whatever is your emotion. If you have, please see everything with that because all I'm saying is, you have a body, you have a mind, you have emotion, energy. We're talking about your emotion right now. If you hit a certain level of sweetness of emotion at one point in your life, either because of your love or devotion or compassion of whatever, you hit a certain level of sweetness, this is the high point in your life. Now you should not come back from that, you must see how to go beyond that. I am saying, whatever was the highest or the sweetest or the most wonderful emotion, you have, make that the baseline. Why are you coming back again? If you did not know such an emotion, then what would I tell you, which is the sweetest emotion you had in your life? My child. Okay see, everybody as your child, we've told you that at one time. Then I saw you sat here with tears of blissfulness and love coming out of you, then I said see everybody as you're looking at me right now. Because this will make your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body, and your very being sweet and wonderful. This is not about him. Especially if he is being difficult, then you are being well trained, even if you go to hell you will do well.

October 28, 2020

3:59

Relationships / Video

How to handle grief of losing someone dear?

Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that grief is always about loss. Loss means that we lost something. It is not about somebody's death. People can grieve loss of possession, positions, or even professions. So it's essentially about that an individual human being lost something. When it comes to people, if you lose them to death, the significance...

... of this loss is that it cannot be replaced. Possessions can be replaced, positions can be replaced. Money and wealth can be replaced. But when we lose a person, we cannot replace. So the grief becomes more profound in this case. This is happening to us simply because we have built our persona like a collage. Who we are is because of what we possess, the positions that we hold, the relationships that we hold, and the people who are in our lives. If any one of these things fall out, it leaves a vacuum in our persona. This is what we're suffering. So it's very important that our relationships come from the basis of our fullness. Not as an instrument to fill our life with a relationship. If you use a relationship to make yourself complete, then when you lose it you become empty. If you form a relationship because you want to share your fullness, then there will be no grief. When we lose somebody very dear to us all this may not work. This looks like trivializing one's loss. So this must be cultivated throughout our life. That who we are is not determined by what we have in our lives. Who we are decides what we have in our lives. This must happen to every human being. This is what spiritual process means.

Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that...

... grief is always about loss. Loss means that we lost something. It is not about somebody's death. People can grieve loss of possession, positions, or even professions. So it's essentially about that an individual human being lost something. When it comes to people, if you lose them to death, the significance of this loss is that it cannot be replaced. Possessions can be replaced, positions can be replaced. Money and wealth can be replaced. But when we lose a person, we cannot replace. So the grief becomes more profound in this case. This is happening to us simply because we have built our persona like a collage. Who we are is because of what we possess, the positions that we hold, the relationships that we hold, and the people who are in our lives. If any one of these things fall out, it leaves a vacuum in our persona. This is what we're suffering. So it's very important that our relationships come from the basis of our fullness. Not as an instrument to fill our life with a relationship. If you use a relationship to make yourself complete, then when you lose it you become empty. If you form a relationship because you want to share your fullness, then there will be no grief. When we lose somebody very dear to us all this may not work. This looks like trivializing one's loss. So this must be cultivated throughout our life. That who we are is not determined by what we have in our lives. Who we are decides what we have in our lives. This must happen to every human being. This is what spiritual process means.

September 12, 2020

2:39

Life Wisdom / Video

Detachment is not a solution to avoid suffering

Transcript: See, this attachment, detachment business is a misunderstanding that's come out of the Gita in this country. People misunderstood Krishna like nothing. In the sense, people think Krishna is talking about detachment. Please look at his life. His life is involvement, isn't it? If you look at the scape of whatever we know about his life, whatever little we know about his life, his life spells involvement,...

... involvement, involvement with everything around him. So this person, unfortunately, is being accused of detachment. See, if there is no involvement, there is no life. You can only know life with involvement. Even if the meal that you eat today, if you're not involved you will not know what it is. Without involvement, you cannot even taste life. Not possible. People are talking about detachment because of fear of suffering. Fear of suffering has come because when they involve, they get entangled. They do not know how to get involved, they just get entangled. Entaglement is happening because your involvement is very discriminatory. Is that sync again? So I should be equally involved in everything, is that what you're saying? I mean. Tell me, if you're less involved in your breath, and more involved in your eating, you think life will work? See, breath is involuntary, that's what, that's why I'm using the word breath. Because it's involuntary, you don't have to do anything, it's just happening. But we're involved by keeping that air conditioning on, otherwise we'll suffocate. This is our involvement, we turned on that machine. We may not be consciously breathing, alright? But we are involved. Without involvement, in every aspect of life, you will get skewed. And that is when psychologically you get messed up so much, that in many ways mind gets deranged. Seeing this, somebody said you're too attached, you must be detached. No. Detachment will not work either. Can you be detached and do something well? Can you do something well being detached about it? No. You need absolute involvement. If you have an indiscriminate sense of involvement, you will see, there is no entanglement in your involvement. If you discriminate, you'll get entangled. The problem is of discrimination. Not of involvement.

Transcript: See, this attachment, detachment business is a misunderstanding that's come out of the Gita in this country....

... People misunderstood Krishna like nothing. In the sense, people think Krishna is talking about detachment. Please look at his life. His life is involvement, isn't it? If you look at the scape of whatever we know about his life, whatever little we know about his life, his life spells involvement, involvement, involvement with everything around him. So this person, unfortunately, is being accused of detachment. See, if there is no involvement, there is no life. You can only know life with involvement. Even if the meal that you eat today, if you're not involved you will not know what it is. Without involvement, you cannot even taste life. Not possible. People are talking about detachment because of fear of suffering. Fear of suffering has come because when they involve, they get entangled. They do not know how to get involved, they just get entangled. Entaglement is happening because your involvement is very discriminatory. Is that sync again? So I should be equally involved in everything, is that what you're saying? I mean. Tell me, if you're less involved in your breath, and more involved in your eating, you think life will work? See, breath is involuntary, that's what, that's why I'm using the word breath. Because it's involuntary, you don't have to do anything, it's just happening. But we're involved by keeping that air conditioning on, otherwise we'll suffocate. This is our involvement, we turned on that machine. We may not be consciously breathing, alright? But we are involved. Without involvement, in every aspect of life, you will get skewed. And that is when psychologically you get messed up so much, that in many ways mind gets deranged. Seeing this, somebody said you're too attached, you must be detached. No. Detachment will not work either. Can you be detached and do something well? Can you do something well being detached about it? No. You need absolute involvement. If you have an indiscriminate sense of involvement, you will see, there is no entanglement in your involvement. If you discriminate, you'll get entangled. The problem is of discrimination. Not of involvement.

August 5, 2020

3:03

Shiva The Adiyogi / Storytelling / Video

How Shiva Overcame Kama (The God of Lust)

Synopsis: Sadhguru tells us about the God of kama, or the God of lust. He narrates the story of how shiva overcame lust. He tells two versions of the story, one general, told to people, and the other version, as told in the yogic culture. He tells us the basis of lust within us.

Synopsis: Sadhguru tells us about the God of kama, or the God of lust. He narrates the story of how shiva overcame...

... lust. He tells two versions of the story, one general, told to people, and the other version, as told in the yogic culture. He tells us the basis of lust within us.

January 27, 2020

4:00

Parenting / Society / Video

Should Sex and Violence be banned in movies?

Synopsis: Is it Ok for movies / TV shows to show content which is extremely violent or sexual in nature? What should parents do to protect their children? Should governments clamp down and enforce a ban on such content? What is a society's role in all this? Sadhguru answers this question in a Q&A session during Conversation with Nani - a famous South Indian actor

Synopsis: Is it Ok for movies / TV shows to show content which is extremely violent or sexual in nature? What should...

... parents do to protect their children? Should governments clamp down and enforce a ban on such content? What is a society's role in all this? Sadhguru answers this question in a Q&A session during Conversation with Nani - a famous South Indian actor

October 11, 2019

10:34

Be Inspired / Relationships / Video

Is It Natural To Be Jealous?

Synopsis: If your way of being is determined by how others are - then the only way you can be is 'a mess'. If you don't take charge of yourself, very easily you can fall back in the evolutionary scheme of things. Sadhguru says - don't be in a self defeating mode. Life is about you, not about someone else. If your joy, your happiness, your misery is determined by someone else, then chances of you being joyful...

... in your life is remote.

Synopsis: If your way of being is determined by how others are - then the only way you can be is 'a mess'. If you...

... don't take charge of yourself, very easily you can fall back in the evolutionary scheme of things. Sadhguru says - don't be in a self defeating mode. Life is about you, not about someone else. If your joy, your happiness, your misery is determined by someone else, then chances of you being joyful in your life is remote.

December 17, 2018

7:06

Articles

Article / Relationships

Why divorce is so painful and how to deal with it?

In this article, Sadhguru delves deep into what causes relationships to turn sour and eventually end up in divorce. Why is it that the person you once thought as the most wonderful being worthy of spending the rest of your life together with suddenly becomes so unbearable? He explains why divorces are much more painful beyond just emotional trauma, as the body is impacted at physical level in many ways which people don't realize.

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March 25, 2021

11 min read

Article / Mental Health / Relationships

Emotional security is a must for societies to flourish

Emotional security is an extremely important aspect for any human being and any society to flourish. For most people, emotion is a very dominant dimension of who they are. Such being the case, nobody can be truly productive if the emotions are all freaked out. The communities that do best are where there is emotional security for children and they don't have to fight for everything from an early age. Unfortunately, in the name of freedom, we are making children go though emotional upheaval at a young age. It is very important that a culture of commitment is brought back in the society where are committed to their children and children are committed to their parents.

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March 18, 2021

6 min read

Article / Relationships

How to Deal with the Death of a Loved one?

Sadhguru delves into the essential nature of grief. In response to a question, "Having recently lost a near and dear one, how does one cope with the grief and distress associated with it?", Sadhguru tells us that grief is about incompleteness. Grief can happen even without someone dying. But, when someone dies, it leaves a vacuum in your life. This feeling of incompleteness is the source of grief.

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August 26, 2020

10 min read

Article / Relationships

Use breakup as an opportunity

If you come out of a relationship, give yourself sufficient time. You can fix a minimum of six months or one year where you are just going to be by yourself. Because whatever went bad, you definitely have 50% contribution for everything that went bad. Use this time to fix that 50%. Disillusionment is a very good thing. If your illusions are broken, that means life is bringing you closer to reality. This is an opportunity for you to sit down and see, “What is the nature of my life?”

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June 28, 2020

5 min read

Article / Life Wisdom / Society

Is It Sinful To Have Sex?

What is "immoral"? Sex is a natural drive, it is natures way to ensure reproduction. Somewhere we are being made to feel guilty about our biology! So, we need to accept sexuality as an essential element of physical existence. At the same time, we need to understand that the role of sex in the life of a human though fine, is limited. Sadhguru says, once you find pleasures deeper than the mind, sexuality recedes in significance. What is needed is to cultivate a certain inner balance, so that sexuality finds its place - neither exaggerated, nor suppressed.

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September 25, 2018

3 min read

Article / Health & Wellbeing

Sonakshi Sinha – I’m very emotional! How to Handle Situations?

Sonakshi Sinha asks: Dearest Sadhguru ji, I’m a very emotional person, and I often find it very difficult to emotionally detach myself from a situation that I know is not good for me. I can see this is not going somewhere where I want it to go, but it is very difficult to divert my mind and my emotions away from that. I’ll keep thinking about it and dwelling on it, which is something that I don’t want to do. How do you think I can handle that situation?

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August 31, 2018

4 min read

Article / Life Wisdom

Mithali Raj – People’s Opinions Bother Me – What to Do?

Mithali Raj: Namaskaram Sadhguru ji, I want to know the truth about where and how we can acquire the strength to ignore opinions popping against us every day. Sadhguru tells us that others opinions matter to us only when we lack clarity. When we live in a society, people will always express their opinions. Now, because of technology, when everyone is expressing themselves on social media - it is no longer that you have to deal with just 4 or 5 opinions, but millions of them!

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August 28, 2018

2 min read

Article / Life Wisdom

How Do I Get Rid of My Emotions?

Emotions are what makes us human! But, just as without thoughts - if they become uncontrolled, it will become madness; if your emotions become uncontrolled, that too is insanity. Emotions are an issue only of you have painful emotions; if you have pleasant emotions why would you want to get rid of them! Without emotions you will become dry. You can also use your emotions as a doorway, to transcend - this is the path of Bhakti Yoga.

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April 12, 2018

3 min read

Article / Health & Wellbeing / Life Wisdom

I am Jealous – How Do I Get Rid of It?

If every moment of your life you are joyful, will you ever be jealous? Jealousy is a consequence of you feeling incomplete about yourself. So, don't try to get rid of jealousy - just work towards making the experience of your life joyful and complete. All the negative emotions that happen within you - anger, hatred, jealousy - they are happening with so much intensity. Now, you can use this intensity, all this filth and turn this for your wellbeing. With the necessary awareness, you can use this intensity and make your experience of life joyful and complete.

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March 23, 2018

5 min read

Article / Relationships

How To Deal When Someone Lets You Down?

It is important to understand that whatever relationships you have formed in life, are to fulfill your needs - physical, psychological, emotional, financial or social. If you keep this in mind, you will always approach the relationship with a certain humility. Relationships don't go on by themselves, they need to be continuously managed. You must be sweet by your own nature. If you constantly need support of the other person, after some time, they will get tired and run away, and you will feel as if they have let you down.

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August 17, 2017

3 min read

Article / Relationships

How To Deal With My Mother-in-Law

Sadhguru says, the identity of a mother or a wife came later, first they were a woman. Sadhguru says - "There is an instinctive rejection or resistance to the new woman coming into the house because you are now required to share someone who belonged to you in an unequal proportion – not even in equal proportions". Though, there is some biological basis to this protective behavior, if one is mature and aware, they can grow out of it.

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April 13, 2017

3 min read

Article / Life Wisdom

Should I Listen To My Head or My Heart?

Sadhguru says - "In yoga, the fundamental basis we establish is this: you are one person, a single, unified being. There is no separation of head and heart; you are one whole". He breaks the head versus heart myth, and explains that they are different manifestations of the same source. He says - "Thought and feeling are not different. One is dry. Another is juicy. Enjoy both."

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December 30, 2016

4 min read

Article / Relationships