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Do outside influences during pregnancy affect the baby?

Transcript: If you do not know this. Maybe Northern part of the country it's largely, almost gone totally, in South it's still little alive in the villages, but there also it's wiped out quite a bit. If you do not know this, from preconception to conception to various stages of pregnancy, and delivering, and as long as the mother is feeding the child, there's an entire established process in this country. As to...

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... how a woman should be, what should she do, what kind of people she should interact with, what kind of forms she should look at, what kind of forms she should not look at, what kind of sounds she should hear, what kind of sounds she should not hear. All this was very much there. But, we must also understand, life has changed. Today women are going to work. They have to get into that horrible bus, where they're pushed around. It doesn't matter she's pregnant. And all kinds of things. All kinds of fumes, all kinds of sounds, all kinds of noises, all kinds of abuse. Every kind of thing is happening to her. In some way, we're doing that to the child also. There is no job in the country, or in the world, where you can take off for one and a half years and get back to the job to fulfill this. For various reasons, we are not taking the business of manufacturing the next generation of people with sufficient care. We are not paying enough attention to it, for which we will pay a price. Over a period of time we will pay an immense price for that. But, we're definitely not taking enough care about it in the entire world, not just in this country. Because, we have got all kinds of social situations which do not allow that space for a woman to dedicate that kind of time and attention. See, being pregnant is not just about reproduction. We're literally manufacturing the next generation of people. Isn't it? Is it not important, of all the products that you produce on this planet, is it not most important that we produce wonderful human beings for the future generation? Is it not the most important? But, we have created a social situation, and an economic situation, where there is no such possibility to take care of these things. To whatever extent individual women, or individual families can take care of it, they can take care of it. But for the larger society, it is out of question because things have changed. You can't turn it back just like that.

Transcript: If you do not know this. Maybe Northern part of the country it's largely, almost gone totally, in South...

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... it's still little alive in the villages, but there also it's wiped out quite a bit. If you do not know this, from preconception to conception to various stages of pregnancy, and delivering, and as long as the mother is feeding the child, there's an entire established process in this country. As to how a woman should be, what should she do, what kind of people she should interact with, what kind of forms she should look at, what kind of forms she should not look at, what kind of sounds she should hear, what kind of sounds she should not hear. All this was very much there. But, we must also understand, life has changed. Today women are going to work. They have to get into that horrible bus, where they're pushed around. It doesn't matter she's pregnant. And all kinds of things. All kinds of fumes, all kinds of sounds, all kinds of noises, all kinds of abuse. Every kind of thing is happening to her. In some way, we're doing that to the child also. There is no job in the country, or in the world, where you can take off for one and a half years and get back to the job to fulfill this. For various reasons, we are not taking the business of manufacturing the next generation of people with sufficient care. We are not paying enough attention to it, for which we will pay a price. Over a period of time we will pay an immense price for that. But, we're definitely not taking enough care about it in the entire world, not just in this country. Because, we have got all kinds of social situations which do not allow that space for a woman to dedicate that kind of time and attention. See, being pregnant is not just about reproduction. We're literally manufacturing the next generation of people. Isn't it? Is it not important, of all the products that you produce on this planet, is it not most important that we produce wonderful human beings for the future generation? Is it not the most important? But, we have created a social situation, and an economic situation, where there is no such possibility to take care of these things. To whatever extent individual women, or individual families can take care of it, they can take care of it. But for the larger society, it is out of question because things have changed. You can't turn it back just like that.

October 3, 2020

3:05

How to be with your child?

Transcript: So whenever a child enters people's lives, they always think, it's time to teach. No. When a child enters your life, it's time to learn. Because, between you and your child, who is more joyful? So who should be a consultant for life? Definitely he's better qualified than you, isn't it? You have to teach him a few survival skills that he will learn anyway. You can also guide him a little bit. But when...

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... it comes to life, he's able to make any simple situation a joyful situation. So definitely he must be the consultant for life, isn't it? It doesn't matter how glum you are, if you have a child in your house, unknowingly you will laugh. Unknowingly you will play. Unknowingly you will dance. Unknowingly you will crawl under the sofa. These are not things you have done for a long time. So, the most important thing is, don't infect the child with what you call as adulthood. This is not adulthood, okay? This is just suicide in installments. With anything he can make a situation wonderful for himself. It doesn't matter what. You give him a piece of wood, with that he makes his life for the whole afternoon, isn't it? You have to learn to live like him. And, see when you were growing up, whatever problems you had, did you go to your parents or to your friends? Whom did you share it with? Friends. Why is it that parents, who have been with the children right from day 1, can't be good friends? You just have to get off your pedestal. That's the most important thing. And then be a friend. If he has anything, you should be the first person that they share with, isn't it? Yes? That's a very important safety net for the child. It doesn't matter what their problem is, if you leave that level of openness and friendship with them, if they come to you first, there is every possibility that they won't get lost on something, isn't it? Especially, in a society like this, where the moment the child steps out, you don't know what influences are going to catch him up. The most important thing is this, that parents should get off their pedestal and start treating them as equals. This has to happen right from childhood, you know. That he never sees you as somebody who is pushing him around or bossing around or all the time advising him about something. That you are very much a friend, he can talk to you and you talk to him as an equal. If this is maintained right from the beginning, when he is developing and there are possibilities and that he is taking wrong steps and things like that, you will be the first person he comes to. That is something we have to build, isn't it?

Transcript: So whenever a child enters people's lives, they always think, it's time to teach. No. When a child enters...

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... your life, it's time to learn. Because, between you and your child, who is more joyful? So who should be a consultant for life? Definitely he's better qualified than you, isn't it? You have to teach him a few survival skills that he will learn anyway. You can also guide him a little bit. But when it comes to life, he's able to make any simple situation a joyful situation. So definitely he must be the consultant for life, isn't it? It doesn't matter how glum you are, if you have a child in your house, unknowingly you will laugh. Unknowingly you will play. Unknowingly you will dance. Unknowingly you will crawl under the sofa. These are not things you have done for a long time. So, the most important thing is, don't infect the child with what you call as adulthood. This is not adulthood, okay? This is just suicide in installments. With anything he can make a situation wonderful for himself. It doesn't matter what. You give him a piece of wood, with that he makes his life for the whole afternoon, isn't it? You have to learn to live like him. And, see when you were growing up, whatever problems you had, did you go to your parents or to your friends? Whom did you share it with? Friends. Why is it that parents, who have been with the children right from day 1, can't be good friends? You just have to get off your pedestal. That's the most important thing. And then be a friend. If he has anything, you should be the first person that they share with, isn't it? Yes? That's a very important safety net for the child. It doesn't matter what their problem is, if you leave that level of openness and friendship with them, if they come to you first, there is every possibility that they won't get lost on something, isn't it? Especially, in a society like this, where the moment the child steps out, you don't know what influences are going to catch him up. The most important thing is this, that parents should get off their pedestal and start treating them as equals. This has to happen right from childhood, you know. That he never sees you as somebody who is pushing him around or bossing around or all the time advising him about something. That you are very much a friend, he can talk to you and you talk to him as an equal. If this is maintained right from the beginning, when he is developing and there are possibilities and that he is taking wrong steps and things like that, you will be the first person he comes to. That is something we have to build, isn't it?

October 2, 2020

3:12

Stop fear based education – fear is the biggest obstacle to success

Transcript: I think it's pathetic. A human being has to construct their life. Human beings have to construct their lives, all the time thinking about how to earn a living. An earthworm, a grasshopper, a bird on the tree, all of them earn their living, isn't it? With such a big brain, you're supposed to do something little different than just earn a living. Earning a living should be the most basic thing. With...

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... a millionth of your brain you can handle it. But, we have raised, earning a living, to the heavens today unfortunately. Entire system is about how to earn a living, how to earn a living. This is a way of completely destroying human intelligence. This is a way of tarnishing human genius in every possible way because how to earn a living has become the greatest thing in the world. Why people are driving you in this direction is, because they've built one fake economic engine which they have to feed all the time. They have to feed it all the time. Because of this we're sacrificing our children as a fuel for this economic engine that we have built. It is time, at least a niche amount of children are not concerned about how they will earn their living. When I was growing up, not for a moment I had this thought in my mind, how will I earn my living. My father used to be worried, what will happen to this boy, there is no fear in his heart about anything. One day I turned around and asked him, "When did fear become a virtue?" I'm saying, we are bringing up children with this fear, "If you don't pass, you know what will happen to you?" Continuously fear-based education. That is you don't get these many marks, you're finished. 18,000 children in 2015 have committed suicide in our country. When our children commit suicide, we must know we are doing something fundamentally wrong. There's no question about it anymore, isn't it? Children are fresh life, exuberant life. If children have to take their own lives, there is no worse thing that can happen to your society. Isn't it so? Is there a worse thing that can happen to a society. I'm asking you, is there a worse thing? Many of you are parents, is there a worse thing than this? That your child, less than 12/13 years of age, committed suicide. Can you ever recover from that, I'm asking. This is the most horrible thing that can happen. And this is happening because, in our country 98 is pass mark. Yes? Even if you get 98, parents will ask what happened to the other 2%? So we, as educators, if we are really responsible human beings, we need to turn this around. It's very, very important. And this is a crucial time. All these years there has been a certain economic deprivity in the society where they wouldn't listen to anything. Earning a living was everything. At least we're on a threshold of an economic possibility. This is the time to change the mentality of education. This is the time for the parents and the children to look at it little differently.

Transcript: I think it's pathetic. A human being has to construct their life. Human beings have to construct their...

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... lives, all the time thinking about how to earn a living. An earthworm, a grasshopper, a bird on the tree, all of them earn their living, isn't it? With such a big brain, you're supposed to do something little different than just earn a living. Earning a living should be the most basic thing. With a millionth of your brain you can handle it. But, we have raised, earning a living, to the heavens today unfortunately. Entire system is about how to earn a living, how to earn a living. This is a way of completely destroying human intelligence. This is a way of tarnishing human genius in every possible way because how to earn a living has become the greatest thing in the world. Why people are driving you in this direction is, because they've built one fake economic engine which they have to feed all the time. They have to feed it all the time. Because of this we're sacrificing our children as a fuel for this economic engine that we have built. It is time, at least a niche amount of children are not concerned about how they will earn their living. When I was growing up, not for a moment I had this thought in my mind, how will I earn my living. My father used to be worried, what will happen to this boy, there is no fear in his heart about anything. One day I turned around and asked him, "When did fear become a virtue?" I'm saying, we are bringing up children with this fear, "If you don't pass, you know what will happen to you?" Continuously fear-based education. That is you don't get these many marks, you're finished. 18,000 children in 2015 have committed suicide in our country. When our children commit suicide, we must know we are doing something fundamentally wrong. There's no question about it anymore, isn't it? Children are fresh life, exuberant life. If children have to take their own lives, there is no worse thing that can happen to your society. Isn't it so? Is there a worse thing that can happen to a society. I'm asking you, is there a worse thing? Many of you are parents, is there a worse thing than this? That your child, less than 12/13 years of age, committed suicide. Can you ever recover from that, I'm asking. This is the most horrible thing that can happen. And this is happening because, in our country 98 is pass mark. Yes? Even if you get 98, parents will ask what happened to the other 2%? So we, as educators, if we are really responsible human beings, we need to turn this around. It's very, very important. And this is a crucial time. All these years there has been a certain economic deprivity in the society where they wouldn't listen to anything. Earning a living was everything. At least we're on a threshold of an economic possibility. This is the time to change the mentality of education. This is the time for the parents and the children to look at it little differently.

October 1, 2020

3:59

How important is spirituality in school education?

Transcript: See when we say, when we use the word spiritual. The moment you utter this, everybody has their own misconception about what it could be. So let me put it in proper perspective. You must understand, the moment you refer to somebody as spiritual, the word seeker also goes with that. You're a spiritual seeker. You're not a spiritual believer. You are referred to as a believer if you adhere to a certain...

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... religion. But you're referred to as a seeker the moment you say, "I'm spiritual." A student is a seeker, isn't it? A scientist is a seeker. A teacher must become a seeker, it's very important. So spiritual process in its essence is a must for education because they have to be active seekers. Whether it is physics, or chemistry, or biology, or spirituality, essentially it is the seeking for the truth of the matter in that particular aspect of life. Isn't it? What else is education? Education is about seeking truth, maybe not the ultimate truth, but right now what we're looking at. We want to know the truth about it, we don't want to know some rubbish about it, we don't want to believe something about it. We want to know the truth about it. If you look in a microscope, we want to know the truth about an amoeba. We don't want to know, we don't want to believe what an amoeba is. We want to know the truth about it. So, a student is a natural seeker. A spiritual process should bring the discipline into a student. See not to believe anything, but at the same time not to become abusive and disrespectful of things around you, takes a lot of discipline. I don't believe a thing that you say. But still, to listen to you takes a certain amount of discipline and culturing. This culturing is a must for a student that every human being should learn. I don't have to believe anything that you say but, I have the necessary regard, respect, and inclusiveness to sit and listen, or to raise a question and object. This is something that has to come into your society, if human thought process has to rise to a different level. If you abuse people, people will get restricted. If you don't question them, they will get restricted. Questioning without abuse. Questioning respectfully, everything that happens around us, is most important and this is the fundamental of spiritual seeking. So spiritual process is a must for any genuine student.

Transcript: See when we say, when we use the word spiritual. The moment you utter this, everybody has their own misconception...

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... about what it could be. So let me put it in proper perspective. You must understand, the moment you refer to somebody as spiritual, the word seeker also goes with that. You're a spiritual seeker. You're not a spiritual believer. You are referred to as a believer if you adhere to a certain religion. But you're referred to as a seeker the moment you say, "I'm spiritual." A student is a seeker, isn't it? A scientist is a seeker. A teacher must become a seeker, it's very important. So spiritual process in its essence is a must for education because they have to be active seekers. Whether it is physics, or chemistry, or biology, or spirituality, essentially it is the seeking for the truth of the matter in that particular aspect of life. Isn't it? What else is education? Education is about seeking truth, maybe not the ultimate truth, but right now what we're looking at. We want to know the truth about it, we don't want to know some rubbish about it, we don't want to believe something about it. We want to know the truth about it. If you look in a microscope, we want to know the truth about an amoeba. We don't want to know, we don't want to believe what an amoeba is. We want to know the truth about it. So, a student is a natural seeker. A spiritual process should bring the discipline into a student. See not to believe anything, but at the same time not to become abusive and disrespectful of things around you, takes a lot of discipline. I don't believe a thing that you say. But still, to listen to you takes a certain amount of discipline and culturing. This culturing is a must for a student that every human being should learn. I don't have to believe anything that you say but, I have the necessary regard, respect, and inclusiveness to sit and listen, or to raise a question and object. This is something that has to come into your society, if human thought process has to rise to a different level. If you abuse people, people will get restricted. If you don't question them, they will get restricted. Questioning without abuse. Questioning respectfully, everything that happens around us, is most important and this is the fundamental of spiritual seeking. So spiritual process is a must for any genuine student.

September 29, 2020

3:26

Competition is good

Transcript: Namaskaram Sadhguru. So, I'm saying that the idea of competition is so much ingrained in our minds. Not even at the school level, but even at the postgraduate level. Or any aspect of our lives, that it creates a lot of unnecessary stress, so what can be really done about this? Competition is a good thing. If you're incompetent and you're in competition, you will feel stressed. If you want to be in...

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... a competitive situation, the thing is you have to work on your competence. Right now the problem is, you're tweaking your desire, you're not tweaking your comptenece. This is what has to happen, that we must teach children to tweak their competence, not their desire. We're calling this ambition, we're calling this goal-orientedness. Ambition means what, you tweaked up your desire. You'll suffer invariably. If you tweaked up your competence, you will see, wherever you go you're doing better than what people expect you to do. So naturally, things will go well for you. Competition is not the bad thing. Lack of competence is the bad thing. We must understand this. In this country, this is very important because we still think our education is cooked in heaven. Because people tell me temples are crowded just before the examination. Just the wrong place to be. Just the wrong place to be. When your examination is coming, you sitting in the temple is just the wrong place to be. In the vacation you sat in the temple, great. So instead of competence, we have big desires. If you focus enough on enhancing your competence, you will see there is such joy in breaking limitations everyday and becoming something better. You don't care a damn how somebody else is doing. Yes? If everyday, if you're breaking limitations, if you're breaking the limitations of who you are. If your competence you're working constantly to expand, you don't even have the time to look at somebody. How is he doing. Because this is such a great thing happening within you. So please focus on your competence. Competition you don't bother. If you're good, you'll be on the top. Otherwise, you'll be somewhere. It's okay.

Transcript: Namaskaram Sadhguru. So, I'm saying that the idea of competition is so much ingrained in our minds. Not...

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... even at the school level, but even at the postgraduate level. Or any aspect of our lives, that it creates a lot of unnecessary stress, so what can be really done about this? Competition is a good thing. If you're incompetent and you're in competition, you will feel stressed. If you want to be in a competitive situation, the thing is you have to work on your competence. Right now the problem is, you're tweaking your desire, you're not tweaking your comptenece. This is what has to happen, that we must teach children to tweak their competence, not their desire. We're calling this ambition, we're calling this goal-orientedness. Ambition means what, you tweaked up your desire. You'll suffer invariably. If you tweaked up your competence, you will see, wherever you go you're doing better than what people expect you to do. So naturally, things will go well for you. Competition is not the bad thing. Lack of competence is the bad thing. We must understand this. In this country, this is very important because we still think our education is cooked in heaven. Because people tell me temples are crowded just before the examination. Just the wrong place to be. Just the wrong place to be. When your examination is coming, you sitting in the temple is just the wrong place to be. In the vacation you sat in the temple, great. So instead of competence, we have big desires. If you focus enough on enhancing your competence, you will see there is such joy in breaking limitations everyday and becoming something better. You don't care a damn how somebody else is doing. Yes? If everyday, if you're breaking limitations, if you're breaking the limitations of who you are. If your competence you're working constantly to expand, you don't even have the time to look at somebody. How is he doing. Because this is such a great thing happening within you. So please focus on your competence. Competition you don't bother. If you're good, you'll be on the top. Otherwise, you'll be somewhere. It's okay.

September 28, 2020

3:14

How to become a good parent?

Transcript: Fundamentally we must understand, life needs nurture, atmosphere. Not fixing. Nothing to be fixed about it. It just needs an atmosphere where it will flourish best. What grows in Southern California will not grow in Minnesota, isn't it? That kind of life needs that kind of atmosphere, that kind of nurture. Only then it'll happen. So this is something that we have to pay attention to. There is no involvement....

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... We want everything ready-made, we are looking at a ready-made solution. There's no ready-made solution to life. Life can only happen with enormouse involvement. There's simply no other way to do it. Where there is no involvement, there is no experience of life. Isn't it? Hello? Whether it's a simple food that you eat, or something that you look at, or who you live with, or what you do, or at the highest level whatever you'll do in your life. Without involvement, there is no life. But right now, modern societies are trying to do life with information, not with involvement. This is a big mistake. You have no information about your child. You can go to all the variety of doctors and get all their ideas about what your child is. All they will tell you is that he is sick in a hundred different ways. Okay? No, you don't need any information about your child, you need involvement. With involvement, you will bring that life to its best. It need not be as good as somebody else, or as bad as somebody else, because it's a unique life. Is there one life like another? It's a unique life. But, right from day 1 we are comparing it to another life and trying to make it like that one. This is a very cruel process for the child. The child never understands what the hell the parents want. I never understood. Nobody ever explained to me, why the hell I should go to school. So I never went. Because nobody explained to me why I have to go to school. They said, no no, you have to go to school. Why? I'm doing fine. Why should I go to school? No, because we think information is going to transform us. No. Information facilitates a few things. But it's involvement which transforms us, isn't it? Absolute involvement in something, it doesn't matter what it is. Total involvement with something, suddenly you find that human being is of a different nature, isn't it? So, that's all it takes. Involvement.

Transcript: Fundamentally we must understand, life needs nurture, atmosphere. Not fixing. Nothing to be fixed about...

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... it. It just needs an atmosphere where it will flourish best. What grows in Southern California will not grow in Minnesota, isn't it? That kind of life needs that kind of atmosphere, that kind of nurture. Only then it'll happen. So this is something that we have to pay attention to. There is no involvement. We want everything ready-made, we are looking at a ready-made solution. There's no ready-made solution to life. Life can only happen with enormouse involvement. There's simply no other way to do it. Where there is no involvement, there is no experience of life. Isn't it? Hello? Whether it's a simple food that you eat, or something that you look at, or who you live with, or what you do, or at the highest level whatever you'll do in your life. Without involvement, there is no life. But right now, modern societies are trying to do life with information, not with involvement. This is a big mistake. You have no information about your child. You can go to all the variety of doctors and get all their ideas about what your child is. All they will tell you is that he is sick in a hundred different ways. Okay? No, you don't need any information about your child, you need involvement. With involvement, you will bring that life to its best. It need not be as good as somebody else, or as bad as somebody else, because it's a unique life. Is there one life like another? It's a unique life. But, right from day 1 we are comparing it to another life and trying to make it like that one. This is a very cruel process for the child. The child never understands what the hell the parents want. I never understood. Nobody ever explained to me, why the hell I should go to school. So I never went. Because nobody explained to me why I have to go to school. They said, no no, you have to go to school. Why? I'm doing fine. Why should I go to school? No, because we think information is going to transform us. No. Information facilitates a few things. But it's involvement which transforms us, isn't it? Absolute involvement in something, it doesn't matter what it is. Total involvement with something, suddenly you find that human being is of a different nature, isn't it? So, that's all it takes. Involvement.

September 27, 2020

3:13

How to bring up your children

Transcript: We must understand this, a child is not an industrial product. A child is a life, a fresh life. You are supposed to nurture this life. It's not that you put it through some kind of an industrial process called a school. It's like an industry. Everybody is taught the same damn thing, everybody is supposed to go through the same thing. And come out the same way and find a job and serve something, somewhere....

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... This is not what human life is about. There is an innate genius in every human being. Do we have the patience and the commitment and the dedication to pay the necessary attention to bring that out in a specific human being? That's a big question. Otherwise, you will produce dumplings. All the same. Okay? So, once you have a child, before you have a child, you must understand. A child means a 20 year project, full on. That is if they do well. If they don't do well, it's a lifelong project. Because it's a life. One life may blossom at 12, another may blossom at 40. Do you have the patience to nurture that life? Or have you already set the thing, by the time you finish high school you must be in this university, that university, you must be doing this or that? It's all fixed up. Common prescription for all life. This is what we're doing, this is supposed to be civilization. This is not civilization, this is just escape from life. We want to escape the fundamental process of life. In tribal societies and other traditional societies, even today, nobody expects a man or a woman has to become like this at a certain time. Depending on each life, how they progress, everybody is valued for who they are. If you plant this chrysanthemum in your house, in three months it's full of flowers. If you plant an oak tree, 80 years, 10 years, nothing happens. So you want to chop it down? Hello? None of them would be. If you went by these standards, see this one, how well it is doing, in three months how many flowers. You fool you're doing nothing. This is not the way to handle life, isn't it? This is not an industrial product.

Transcript: We must understand this, a child is not an industrial product. A child is a life, a fresh life. You are...

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... supposed to nurture this life. It's not that you put it through some kind of an industrial process called a school. It's like an industry. Everybody is taught the same damn thing, everybody is supposed to go through the same thing. And come out the same way and find a job and serve something, somewhere. This is not what human life is about. There is an innate genius in every human being. Do we have the patience and the commitment and the dedication to pay the necessary attention to bring that out in a specific human being? That's a big question. Otherwise, you will produce dumplings. All the same. Okay? So, once you have a child, before you have a child, you must understand. A child means a 20 year project, full on. That is if they do well. If they don't do well, it's a lifelong project. Because it's a life. One life may blossom at 12, another may blossom at 40. Do you have the patience to nurture that life? Or have you already set the thing, by the time you finish high school you must be in this university, that university, you must be doing this or that? It's all fixed up. Common prescription for all life. This is what we're doing, this is supposed to be civilization. This is not civilization, this is just escape from life. We want to escape the fundamental process of life. In tribal societies and other traditional societies, even today, nobody expects a man or a woman has to become like this at a certain time. Depending on each life, how they progress, everybody is valued for who they are. If you plant this chrysanthemum in your house, in three months it's full of flowers. If you plant an oak tree, 80 years, 10 years, nothing happens. So you want to chop it down? Hello? None of them would be. If you went by these standards, see this one, how well it is doing, in three months how many flowers. You fool you're doing nothing. This is not the way to handle life, isn't it? This is not an industrial product.

September 26, 2020

3:05

How to overcome fear of suffering? The first step to become successful

Transcript: If you try to control the variety of situations that may pop up in your face tomorrow morning, all that'll happen is, you will become a very limited life. You would step out into the world and do whatever that needs to be done only if you have an assurance, no matter what you walk into, you will not lose yourself. You will walk full stride, otherwise you'll only be half a step. Most human beings are...

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... half steps because the fear of suffering. If this happens, what'll happen to me? If that happens, what'll happen to me? If you're well-managed within yourself, you know how to manage your thought. You know how to manage your emotion. You know how to manage your body, your chemistry, your energy. If you know how to manage all this, what does it matter if you walk into hell, I'm asking. If you're well-managed, if you are a heaven within you, what does it matter where you go? Hell also will be an interesting place to go. But, if you're ill-managed, then you want to be in a nice place all the time. You will not step out into anything. I'm not saying this is wrong. This is against nature, because in nature every life is aspiring to be as much as it can be, isn't it? Every life is naturally aspiring. This is not a philosophy, this is not an ideology that you must do this or that. It is natural and intrinsic for every life that it will do as much as it can. From an earthworm, from a worm, to an insect, to a bird, to an animal, to a tree. Every one of them is trying to be full-fledged life. If you go against this simply because of the fear of suffering, then all possibilities of exploring the nature of being human, the tremendous immensity of being human is just lost upon humanity. Today, you will see this everywhere, when people say, "I am only human," they are talking about the limitations of being human. They're not talking about the possibilities of being human, isn't it? When, if we are the most intelligent species on the planet, if we are the most capable species on the planet, should we be talking about our possibilities, or should we be talking about our limitations? Whenever anybody writes or says, "Oh we are human," they are always referring to their limitations, never to the possibilities of being human. This is because the most fundamental things have not been taught in our education systems. How to handle your thought and your emotion. The reason why people have not even learnt to manage their thought and emotion, by the time you're 10 you should have learnt it. At 60, people still don't know how to manage their thought and emotion. They're standing up like ghosts in their life. They don't need anybody's help. They can go on endlessly creating suffering for themselves.

Transcript: If you try to control the variety of situations that may pop up in your face tomorrow morning, all that'll...

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... happen is, you will become a very limited life. You would step out into the world and do whatever that needs to be done only if you have an assurance, no matter what you walk into, you will not lose yourself. You will walk full stride, otherwise you'll only be half a step. Most human beings are half steps because the fear of suffering. If this happens, what'll happen to me? If that happens, what'll happen to me? If you're well-managed within yourself, you know how to manage your thought. You know how to manage your emotion. You know how to manage your body, your chemistry, your energy. If you know how to manage all this, what does it matter if you walk into hell, I'm asking. If you're well-managed, if you are a heaven within you, what does it matter where you go? Hell also will be an interesting place to go. But, if you're ill-managed, then you want to be in a nice place all the time. You will not step out into anything. I'm not saying this is wrong. This is against nature, because in nature every life is aspiring to be as much as it can be, isn't it? Every life is naturally aspiring. This is not a philosophy, this is not an ideology that you must do this or that. It is natural and intrinsic for every life that it will do as much as it can. From an earthworm, from a worm, to an insect, to a bird, to an animal, to a tree. Every one of them is trying to be full-fledged life. If you go against this simply because of the fear of suffering, then all possibilities of exploring the nature of being human, the tremendous immensity of being human is just lost upon humanity. Today, you will see this everywhere, when people say, "I am only human," they are talking about the limitations of being human. They're not talking about the possibilities of being human, isn't it? When, if we are the most intelligent species on the planet, if we are the most capable species on the planet, should we be talking about our possibilities, or should we be talking about our limitations? Whenever anybody writes or says, "Oh we are human," they are always referring to their limitations, never to the possibilities of being human. This is because the most fundamental things have not been taught in our education systems. How to handle your thought and your emotion. The reason why people have not even learnt to manage their thought and emotion, by the time you're 10 you should have learnt it. At 60, people still don't know how to manage their thought and emotion. They're standing up like ghosts in their life. They don't need anybody's help. They can go on endlessly creating suffering for themselves.

September 25, 2020

3:35

Don’t Bullshit Yourself

Transcript: It is time, one thing that you do, one thing that everybody who considers themselves some kind of sadhaka or a seeker. One thing that you must do to yourself is, you are absolutely truthful to yourself. If you're also truthful to everybody around you, you will get other kinds of benefits with people. But, I will not go that far right now. With yourself, you're 100% truthful. Otherwise all kinds of...

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... tricks keep happening. To be truthful to yourself is not an easy thing because there is lifetimes of habit, of simply bullshitting yourself. And of course, you've gone through much religious training, many of you. So you have a very sophisticated way of bullshitting yourself. And you have got it endorsed by certain authorities. Hello? It is endorsed, that this bullshit is good. A guest came to Shankaran Pillai's house. And, being a South Indian man, down south you know, Pillai has come from further down south. He was carrying an umbrella, which is a common thing. In Kerela, and southern Tamil Nadu to carry an umbrella is a very common thing because rains can be very heavy. Then they walked out. He took the guest out, then it started raining. But Shankaran Pillai did not open the umbrella. The guest said, "Why don't you open the umbrella?" Shankaran Pillai said, "I'm sorry. The umbrella is full of holes." Then the guest asked, "Why did you bring it?" "Well I never thought it'll rain today." A whole lot of people are like this. They think somebody else has to catch their lies. This will take a long time because someone else catching your lies will take lifetimes. You must catch them. You should not let your chickens pass to become 100% straight with yourself. It can take a certain amount of application. But, if this one thing you do, Asotama Sadgamaya. This piece of life will work for sure, 100%. Then figuring out a few things is very simple. For that I am there. If you just fix this one thing, that you're 100% straight. No any kind of deception. When there's a hole in the umbrella, you know there's a hole in the umbrella. You will never forget that there is a hole in the umbrella. Okay? If you are like this, rest of the work becomes very simple and easy.

Transcript: It is time, one thing that you do, one thing that everybody who considers themselves some kind of sadhaka...

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... or a seeker. One thing that you must do to yourself is, you are absolutely truthful to yourself. If you're also truthful to everybody around you, you will get other kinds of benefits with people. But, I will not go that far right now. With yourself, you're 100% truthful. Otherwise all kinds of tricks keep happening. To be truthful to yourself is not an easy thing because there is lifetimes of habit, of simply bullshitting yourself. And of course, you've gone through much religious training, many of you. So you have a very sophisticated way of bullshitting yourself. And you have got it endorsed by certain authorities. Hello? It is endorsed, that this bullshit is good. A guest came to Shankaran Pillai's house. And, being a South Indian man, down south you know, Pillai has come from further down south. He was carrying an umbrella, which is a common thing. In Kerela, and southern Tamil Nadu to carry an umbrella is a very common thing because rains can be very heavy. Then they walked out. He took the guest out, then it started raining. But Shankaran Pillai did not open the umbrella. The guest said, "Why don't you open the umbrella?" Shankaran Pillai said, "I'm sorry. The umbrella is full of holes." Then the guest asked, "Why did you bring it?" "Well I never thought it'll rain today." A whole lot of people are like this. They think somebody else has to catch their lies. This will take a long time because someone else catching your lies will take lifetimes. You must catch them. You should not let your chickens pass to become 100% straight with yourself. It can take a certain amount of application. But, if this one thing you do, Asotama Sadgamaya. This piece of life will work for sure, 100%. Then figuring out a few things is very simple. For that I am there. If you just fix this one thing, that you're 100% straight. No any kind of deception. When there's a hole in the umbrella, you know there's a hole in the umbrella. You will never forget that there is a hole in the umbrella. Okay? If you are like this, rest of the work becomes very simple and easy.

September 22, 2020

3:49

Go here for your next vacation – especially if you have children

Transcript: If you can find a place where there are no sounds of machines and your cell phone will not ting ting. Quietly if you can listen to the sound of the trees, the breeze, the water. Just the natural sounds. If you pay enough attention, tremendous things will happen to you. Many times I've been in the South Indian, you know, their kind of tropical rainforests. The longest I've been there, through the jungle,...

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... for about 23 days alone. No any kind of support, no cell phone for sure, those days, not even a torchlight. And fourth day I ran out of the food that I was carrying. So I lived off the forest. By about the eighth day, I lost my jacket and one half of my shirt because I was chased by some animals in that whole thing. I had half a shirt and pants. And, I walked through, this is elephant country, tiger country. I saw tigers, panthers, elephants, all kinds of, wild buffaloes. Various kinds of animals. Very close quarters. But, at the end of it, when you look back, what is the biggest impact on you? It's the insects. It's in the nights, the orchestra that goes on in the rainforest. Oh my god! It's unbelievable. And the timing. Everyday, night, 2:15, means one group will stop and the other group will start. Really. Their sense of time. Everyday, exactly, by the second. One group will stop, another group will start. And you don't know what they're talking about. They're definitely talking something that you don't know, for sure. They're not just making dumb noises. So if you just sit there and listen and listen and listen and listen, slowly, you start noticing there is a pattern and an organization to this. Which is far bigger than any human symphonies that you can achieve. Far more complex and far more intense. I think it's very important for every human being. Particularly if you have children, vacation need not be Disneyland. I'm not against it, but one trip is enough. All silly stuff which excites you. Vacation should be into nature. If you can take your children, walk in a jungle, not in a resort. Just live on a mountain, expose them to nature. I will tell you, you will bring up your children not only physically healthy, mentally healthy, far more sensible and accepting and wonderful kind of human beings if they know how to. Because once you go into nature, whose son you are, whose daughter you are, what are you in the city, doesn't matter. Okay? It's very important that everybody experiences that, otherwise you start creating your own illusions as to who you are. And you start believeing it for sure.

Transcript: If you can find a place where there are no sounds of machines and your cell phone will not ting ting....

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... Quietly if you can listen to the sound of the trees, the breeze, the water. Just the natural sounds. If you pay enough attention, tremendous things will happen to you. Many times I've been in the South Indian, you know, their kind of tropical rainforests. The longest I've been there, through the jungle, for about 23 days alone. No any kind of support, no cell phone for sure, those days, not even a torchlight. And fourth day I ran out of the food that I was carrying. So I lived off the forest. By about the eighth day, I lost my jacket and one half of my shirt because I was chased by some animals in that whole thing. I had half a shirt and pants. And, I walked through, this is elephant country, tiger country. I saw tigers, panthers, elephants, all kinds of, wild buffaloes. Various kinds of animals. Very close quarters. But, at the end of it, when you look back, what is the biggest impact on you? It's the insects. It's in the nights, the orchestra that goes on in the rainforest. Oh my god! It's unbelievable. And the timing. Everyday, night, 2:15, means one group will stop and the other group will start. Really. Their sense of time. Everyday, exactly, by the second. One group will stop, another group will start. And you don't know what they're talking about. They're definitely talking something that you don't know, for sure. They're not just making dumb noises. So if you just sit there and listen and listen and listen and listen, slowly, you start noticing there is a pattern and an organization to this. Which is far bigger than any human symphonies that you can achieve. Far more complex and far more intense. I think it's very important for every human being. Particularly if you have children, vacation need not be Disneyland. I'm not against it, but one trip is enough. All silly stuff which excites you. Vacation should be into nature. If you can take your children, walk in a jungle, not in a resort. Just live on a mountain, expose them to nature. I will tell you, you will bring up your children not only physically healthy, mentally healthy, far more sensible and accepting and wonderful kind of human beings if they know how to. Because once you go into nature, whose son you are, whose daughter you are, what are you in the city, doesn't matter. Okay? It's very important that everybody experiences that, otherwise you start creating your own illusions as to who you are. And you start believeing it for sure.

September 21, 2020

4:05

Does Astrology Work?

Transcript: Astrology. What is it that you're trying to do? You're trying to look at the positions of the planet and make certain predictions, right? I want you to understand. Most of the time, people who make good predictions, or people who, you know, tell you about the past very clearly, or some people tell you tomorrow what's going to happen very clearly, they're not doing it looking at the planets. They're...

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... doing it looking at you. A certain intuitiveness is there in a certain person. He says. You know instead of teaching this yoga, if I sit and Chennai and just predict people's future, I will tell you in the next 10 years exactly what will happen in your life. Within 3 days, I will have a reputation and half the Chennai will be standing in queue. Very easily I can do that. By predicting somebody's future, you don't alter the quality of his life in any way. You don't bring any kind of true well-being. It is just, you know, you're getting him into more and more ignorance. Isn't it? Now if you have the power to know your tomorrow, you will only become more ignorant, more egoistic, more stupid, more harmful. You go by the normal rules. It's okay, you don't have to know what's tomorrow. You're made like this right now, the quality of your life and your own way of being as such, if you know tomorrow today, you will not participate in today. Isn't it? Yes or no? Suppose I tell you, whatever you do, you're not going to die. You will do irresponsible things in the world. Or if I tell you, tomorrow morning anyway you will die. Now you won't participate in today. Isn't it? So, you should not know the future. It's not necessary for you to know the future. The planets definitely are large objects, so they have certain vibrations, they have some influences on everything around them. If they're close to this planet, yes. Do you know, on poornami and amavasya days, full moon day and new moon day days, people who are little mentally disturbed, or imbalanced, become much more imbalanced. Yes? Even the ocean is going crazy, isn't it? Do you all go crazy? Twice a month? If you're much more established, wherever any planet goes , you don't go crazy. That's all. The purpose of your life, the destiny of your life, is fixed by you. And nothing else but you. Yes, everything has an influence but what you make out of that influence is still yours, isn't it? But if you're going to be pushed around by inanimate objects, yes you can be pushed around. To that extent it is true. I'm saying, when the divine is functioning within you, when the creator is functioning within you, why are you allowing inanimate things to influence your life? If you allow this dimension to flower in you, you will see life happens fantastic. Let the stars go anywhere, let the planets go anywhere, you will go only where you want to go. You want to go where you want to go? Or you want to be pushed around by inanimate objects? You must decide that.

Transcript: Astrology. What is it that you're trying to do? You're trying to look at the positions of the planet...

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... and make certain predictions, right? I want you to understand. Most of the time, people who make good predictions, or people who, you know, tell you about the past very clearly, or some people tell you tomorrow what's going to happen very clearly, they're not doing it looking at the planets. They're doing it looking at you. A certain intuitiveness is there in a certain person. He says. You know instead of teaching this yoga, if I sit and Chennai and just predict people's future, I will tell you in the next 10 years exactly what will happen in your life. Within 3 days, I will have a reputation and half the Chennai will be standing in queue. Very easily I can do that. By predicting somebody's future, you don't alter the quality of his life in any way. You don't bring any kind of true well-being. It is just, you know, you're getting him into more and more ignorance. Isn't it? Now if you have the power to know your tomorrow, you will only become more ignorant, more egoistic, more stupid, more harmful. You go by the normal rules. It's okay, you don't have to know what's tomorrow. You're made like this right now, the quality of your life and your own way of being as such, if you know tomorrow today, you will not participate in today. Isn't it? Yes or no? Suppose I tell you, whatever you do, you're not going to die. You will do irresponsible things in the world. Or if I tell you, tomorrow morning anyway you will die. Now you won't participate in today. Isn't it? So, you should not know the future. It's not necessary for you to know the future. The planets definitely are large objects, so they have certain vibrations, they have some influences on everything around them. If they're close to this planet, yes. Do you know, on poornami and amavasya days, full moon day and new moon day days, people who are little mentally disturbed, or imbalanced, become much more imbalanced. Yes? Even the ocean is going crazy, isn't it? Do you all go crazy? Twice a month? If you're much more established, wherever any planet goes , you don't go crazy. That's all. The purpose of your life, the destiny of your life, is fixed by you. And nothing else but you. Yes, everything has an influence but what you make out of that influence is still yours, isn't it? But if you're going to be pushed around by inanimate objects, yes you can be pushed around. To that extent it is true. I'm saying, when the divine is functioning within you, when the creator is functioning within you, why are you allowing inanimate things to influence your life? If you allow this dimension to flower in you, you will see life happens fantastic. Let the stars go anywhere, let the planets go anywhere, you will go only where you want to go. You want to go where you want to go? Or you want to be pushed around by inanimate objects? You must decide that.

September 20, 2020

4:05

How to deal with problems in life?

Transcript: It's time to understand, all the problems of individual nature are generated from within. And we don't have to solve problems that we create. We just have to dissolve. Problems that you create, you don't have to solve. If there's a problem in the situation then yes, we have to solve. But you have a problem within you, solution is not what you need. Solution is madness. Solution means, for an illusion...

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... you're creating an illusory solution. Something that you make up, for that you create one more solution that you made up, once again. No. You just have to turn off the problems. You're going through a certain drama, only thing is, you're a lousy director. That's all there is. Instead of improving your direction, now you're trying to find a solution for a situation in a drama. It's like people watch a cinema and come home and they have big arguments about what happened there. So, the thoughts and emotions that you create, you don't have to find any solution for it, you should just turn it off. It's gone. If you find solution, you're moving towards insanity because you create a ghost and you create a ghostbuster. The ghost that you create, you must learn to play with them. Hello? I'm saying if nobody's willing to play with you, you have to play with somebody, right? So the ghost you create, if you like them, you play with them. If you don't like them, turn them off. But Sadhguru, they keep coming. You don't play. Don't like to play with them, don't play. They'll come and go. Never it ever happened that one thought remained for more than a moment, isn't it? It comes and goes, comes and goes. Let it come and go. If you try to find a solution for that, you will head towards insanity. And, you will start thinking you're Sigmund Freud's progeny.

Transcript: It's time to understand, all the problems of individual nature are generated from within. And we don't...

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... have to solve problems that we create. We just have to dissolve. Problems that you create, you don't have to solve. If there's a problem in the situation then yes, we have to solve. But you have a problem within you, solution is not what you need. Solution is madness. Solution means, for an illusion you're creating an illusory solution. Something that you make up, for that you create one more solution that you made up, once again. No. You just have to turn off the problems. You're going through a certain drama, only thing is, you're a lousy director. That's all there is. Instead of improving your direction, now you're trying to find a solution for a situation in a drama. It's like people watch a cinema and come home and they have big arguments about what happened there. So, the thoughts and emotions that you create, you don't have to find any solution for it, you should just turn it off. It's gone. If you find solution, you're moving towards insanity because you create a ghost and you create a ghostbuster. The ghost that you create, you must learn to play with them. Hello? I'm saying if nobody's willing to play with you, you have to play with somebody, right? So the ghost you create, if you like them, you play with them. If you don't like them, turn them off. But Sadhguru, they keep coming. You don't play. Don't like to play with them, don't play. They'll come and go. Never it ever happened that one thought remained for more than a moment, isn't it? It comes and goes, comes and goes. Let it come and go. If you try to find a solution for that, you will head towards insanity. And, you will start thinking you're Sigmund Freud's progeny.

September 17, 2020

3:13

Language impacts intelligence – the significance of Indian languages

Transcript: The fanatic range that is there in Indian languages is such, it stimulates every aspect of who you are. English language has a very narrow fanatic range. So this ability to use sounds to stimulate and trigger one's intelligence and energy within ourselves is something that we should not give up. Every child must know one more language other than English. Whatever that is, because anyway, our states...

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... are divided on linguistic basis. So in that state whatever the language is, they must know. We should not kill these languages because it's taken thousands of years to create it. This is our national pride, that we have the maximum number of languages. If we had to create these many languages, see we must understand this. For example, let's say, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka. Tamil Nadu and Andhra Pradesh. Tamil Nadu and Kerela. There are no geographical separation. There are no oceans between these states. There are no mountain ranges clearly demarcating and separating the populations for a long time. But though they lived here for thousands of years, they kept their language, these people kept their language. It's so beautiful. When they went to trade and transact, they learnt the other language. But, they always kept their language. But today, the new generations are losing their language so rapidly. It's very important, all of you at least in your homes with your children and wherever possible. There must be a certain amount of time where we must use the local language. It's very important. We will regret this deeply after a couple of generations if we don't take care of it now. Because you can't bring back a language. You can kill it, but you can't breathe life into it. It's very difficult.

Transcript: The fanatic range that is there in Indian languages is such, it stimulates every aspect of who you are....

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... English language has a very narrow fanatic range. So this ability to use sounds to stimulate and trigger one's intelligence and energy within ourselves is something that we should not give up. Every child must know one more language other than English. Whatever that is, because anyway, our states are divided on linguistic basis. So in that state whatever the language is, they must know. We should not kill these languages because it's taken thousands of years to create it. This is our national pride, that we have the maximum number of languages. If we had to create these many languages, see we must understand this. For example, let's say, Tamil Nadu and Karnataka. Tamil Nadu and Andhra Pradesh. Tamil Nadu and Kerela. There are no geographical separation. There are no oceans between these states. There are no mountain ranges clearly demarcating and separating the populations for a long time. But though they lived here for thousands of years, they kept their language, these people kept their language. It's so beautiful. When they went to trade and transact, they learnt the other language. But, they always kept their language. But today, the new generations are losing their language so rapidly. It's very important, all of you at least in your homes with your children and wherever possible. There must be a certain amount of time where we must use the local language. It's very important. We will regret this deeply after a couple of generations if we don't take care of it now. Because you can't bring back a language. You can kill it, but you can't breathe life into it. It's very difficult.

September 16, 2020

2:19

One easy way to avoid friction with people

Transcript: I see this happening everyday. Well, in the world in a big way. But even among our own people. A whole lot of people. Not a small percentage, a large percentage of people. They will do something. Something has to be done, let's say, some task. It doesn't happen. When it doesn't happen, the initial instinct is, it's because of her it didn't happen, it's because of him it didn't happen. But we have largely...

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... cured that for our people. That they can't point fingers at anybody. You will see a whole lot of people will look for some metaphysical reason as to why it did not happen. From day 1, from day 1 of inner engineering, even from the free introductory, only one thing that we have been trying to nail into your head is, if something is not working, obviously it's not done well. Hello? Yes. Something is not done well. Maybe you're not able to figure it right now, that's not the point. But, something is not working. Something did not work the way it should. We obviously did not do something right. But people look for metaphysical solutions. So you must understand this. If everything that you try to do is becoming frictious, friction is happening. Obviously you're the sandpaper. You know what's a sandpaper? I'll ask them to provide you a sandpaper, a small piece. Everyday whenever you have friction with somebody, just scrape your skin somewhere. So if you don't cure yourself quickly, you won't have any skin left. When you don't have any skin left, then you will not touch anything. You will not create, you will not look for any friction. First come to your senses. Friction is happening means, wherever you go friction is happening. Obviously it's you. One simple thing you can do to reduce friction is, I've told you many times but you've not done this is, whatever you're saying in a day, or in an hour, or in a minute, how many words per minute are you uttering? Bring it down to 50%. Still do the same work. You will see a whole lot of friction will go down simply because you're not blabbering. Yes. And, we've been trying to train you. Whatever you see, whether you see a man, woman, child, cow, donkey. Donkey also. You do. No. How will friction not happen? It will happen.

Transcript: I see this happening everyday. Well, in the world in a big way. But even among our own people. A whole...

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... lot of people. Not a small percentage, a large percentage of people. They will do something. Something has to be done, let's say, some task. It doesn't happen. When it doesn't happen, the initial instinct is, it's because of her it didn't happen, it's because of him it didn't happen. But we have largely cured that for our people. That they can't point fingers at anybody. You will see a whole lot of people will look for some metaphysical reason as to why it did not happen. From day 1, from day 1 of inner engineering, even from the free introductory, only one thing that we have been trying to nail into your head is, if something is not working, obviously it's not done well. Hello? Yes. Something is not done well. Maybe you're not able to figure it right now, that's not the point. But, something is not working. Something did not work the way it should. We obviously did not do something right. But people look for metaphysical solutions. So you must understand this. If everything that you try to do is becoming frictious, friction is happening. Obviously you're the sandpaper. You know what's a sandpaper? I'll ask them to provide you a sandpaper, a small piece. Everyday whenever you have friction with somebody, just scrape your skin somewhere. So if you don't cure yourself quickly, you won't have any skin left. When you don't have any skin left, then you will not touch anything. You will not create, you will not look for any friction. First come to your senses. Friction is happening means, wherever you go friction is happening. Obviously it's you. One simple thing you can do to reduce friction is, I've told you many times but you've not done this is, whatever you're saying in a day, or in an hour, or in a minute, how many words per minute are you uttering? Bring it down to 50%. Still do the same work. You will see a whole lot of friction will go down simply because you're not blabbering. Yes. And, we've been trying to train you. Whatever you see, whether you see a man, woman, child, cow, donkey. Donkey also. You do. No. How will friction not happen? It will happen.

September 15, 2020

3:54

Is there anything wrong in being ambitious? How ambitious should I be?

Transcript: Hi. I'm Ranveer Singh and I want to know the truth about ambition. I find myself to be ambitious. And sometimes I wonder is it a good thing? Is it a bad thing? How is it affecting me? How is it affecting other people? Well, Ranveer is saying he's very ambitious. But fortunately, he's still kept his playfulness in his ambition. Because generally ambitious people become. In the beginning they carry a...

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... constipated face. As life progresses they will become grave. Practicing the final pose. All their life. Because you make up something in your mind, which you call as ambition, it's just a thought. Now, you put so much of your life energy into it that your very life becomes about that one thought that you have. Believe me, no thought is worth investing your entire life. No thought. Essentially, right from kindergarten, teachers and parents are keying children up. You must be number 1, the lowest number in the number system. And this number 1 slowly translates into ambition. It may take on various forms, but essentially, number 1 will remain in the scheme of ambition. But, the reason why people take to ambition is, they do not know how else to propel themselves to success. How to propel myself to success without fixing a goal. This is the fundamental question. Is ambition right or wrong? It's neither right nor wrong. It's just very limited, because what ambition can you have. Whatever you know right now, maybe multiplied by 10 is your ambition. If you're very brave, you will multiply by 100. If you're little foolhardy, you will multiply it by a million. But, it's just an expansion of what you already know. You cannot have an ambition about something that you do not know at all. If absolutely new possibilities need to happen in one's life, above all, if human genius has to unfold, it is very important that we do not create an ambitious world. But, we create a very joyful and involved world. If you are very joyful and absolutely involved in whatever you're doing, depending upon the capacities that are there within us, we will go as far as we can go.

Transcript: Hi. I'm Ranveer Singh and I want to know the truth about ambition. I find myself to be ambitious. And...

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... sometimes I wonder is it a good thing? Is it a bad thing? How is it affecting me? How is it affecting other people? Well, Ranveer is saying he's very ambitious. But fortunately, he's still kept his playfulness in his ambition. Because generally ambitious people become. In the beginning they carry a constipated face. As life progresses they will become grave. Practicing the final pose. All their life. Because you make up something in your mind, which you call as ambition, it's just a thought. Now, you put so much of your life energy into it that your very life becomes about that one thought that you have. Believe me, no thought is worth investing your entire life. No thought. Essentially, right from kindergarten, teachers and parents are keying children up. You must be number 1, the lowest number in the number system. And this number 1 slowly translates into ambition. It may take on various forms, but essentially, number 1 will remain in the scheme of ambition. But, the reason why people take to ambition is, they do not know how else to propel themselves to success. How to propel myself to success without fixing a goal. This is the fundamental question. Is ambition right or wrong? It's neither right nor wrong. It's just very limited, because what ambition can you have. Whatever you know right now, maybe multiplied by 10 is your ambition. If you're very brave, you will multiply by 100. If you're little foolhardy, you will multiply it by a million. But, it's just an expansion of what you already know. You cannot have an ambition about something that you do not know at all. If absolutely new possibilities need to happen in one's life, above all, if human genius has to unfold, it is very important that we do not create an ambitious world. But, we create a very joyful and involved world. If you are very joyful and absolutely involved in whatever you're doing, depending upon the capacities that are there within us, we will go as far as we can go.

September 14, 2020

4:06

How to handle grief of losing someone dear?

Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that grief is always about loss. Loss means that we lost something. It is not about somebody's death. People can grieve loss of possession, positions, or even professions. So it's essentially about that an individual human being lost something. When it comes to people, if you lose them to death, the significance...

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... of this loss is that it cannot be replaced. Possessions can be replaced, positions can be replaced. Money and wealth can be replaced. But when we lose a person, we cannot replace. So the grief becomes more profound in this case. This is happening to us simply because we have built our persona like a collage. Who we are is because of what we possess, the positions that we hold, the relationships that we hold, and the people who are in our lives. If any one of these things fall out, it leaves a vacuum in our persona. This is what we're suffering. So it's very important that our relationships come from the basis of our fullness. Not as an instrument to fill our life with a relationship. If you use a relationship to make yourself complete, then when you lose it you become empty. If you form a relationship because you want to share your fullness, then there will be no grief. When we lose somebody very dear to us all this may not work. This looks like trivializing one's loss. So this must be cultivated throughout our life. That who we are is not determined by what we have in our lives. Who we are decides what we have in our lives. This must happen to every human being. This is what spiritual process means.

Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that...

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... grief is always about loss. Loss means that we lost something. It is not about somebody's death. People can grieve loss of possession, positions, or even professions. So it's essentially about that an individual human being lost something. When it comes to people, if you lose them to death, the significance of this loss is that it cannot be replaced. Possessions can be replaced, positions can be replaced. Money and wealth can be replaced. But when we lose a person, we cannot replace. So the grief becomes more profound in this case. This is happening to us simply because we have built our persona like a collage. Who we are is because of what we possess, the positions that we hold, the relationships that we hold, and the people who are in our lives. If any one of these things fall out, it leaves a vacuum in our persona. This is what we're suffering. So it's very important that our relationships come from the basis of our fullness. Not as an instrument to fill our life with a relationship. If you use a relationship to make yourself complete, then when you lose it you become empty. If you form a relationship because you want to share your fullness, then there will be no grief. When we lose somebody very dear to us all this may not work. This looks like trivializing one's loss. So this must be cultivated throughout our life. That who we are is not determined by what we have in our lives. Who we are decides what we have in our lives. This must happen to every human being. This is what spiritual process means.

September 12, 2020

2:39

Can jealousy be a motivator to achieve success?

Transcript: Sadhguru, jealousy is always considered as a really cynical emotion. But, to be honest, for me it has worked so well. What did you get to do well? It motivates me. So, everytime my friend learns something new, I just get this innate urge to perform better. And, it's probably why I've landed up in my dream college. So, do you think that jealousy is actually a negative emotion? Or does it motivate you...

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... to do better? See, these days, fortunately it's gone. When we were growing up, especially Diwali is coming. When Diwali comes, in small towns, one of the fun that people have is, they will make a can full of the firecrackers and tie it to a donkey's tail. When it goes dum, dum, dum, poor donkey runs all over the place, faster than a horse. You think that's the way to motivate life? There are better, and more intelligent ways of doing things. Well, when you feel like your tail is burning you may run. People always use this thing. If a dog is chasing you, you will run the fastest. But Mr. Bolt, you know Mr. Bolt. He did not run because his tail is on fire. He runs because he prepared his legs and lungs in such a way, whichever way he runs he's faster than everybody. Hello? Isn't that the way to run? You want to run because a dog is chasing you, you want to run because your tail is on fire, is it the way you want to run? No. That's not a pleasant way to run. See, one thing is important, that you run fast. Another thing is that your experience of running is fantastic. Isn't that important? Hello? Yes. Well, you got into your dream college. But it would be hell three years, three years of hell. Who knows? Is it not important that these three years are a fantastic experience for you? Not important? Running is not the only important thing. How you experience it, what comes out of it tomorrow. Suppose we ran because our tail is on fire, now we understand. The only way to make people run is to set their tails on fire. How much damage we will cause to everybody. And I've seen these donkeys running faster than a race horse because they're terrified. That's not the way to run. Please don't do that to yourself, not anymore. Okay?

Transcript: Sadhguru, jealousy is always considered as a really cynical emotion. But, to be honest, for me it has...

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... worked so well. What did you get to do well? It motivates me. So, everytime my friend learns something new, I just get this innate urge to perform better. And, it's probably why I've landed up in my dream college. So, do you think that jealousy is actually a negative emotion? Or does it motivate you to do better? See, these days, fortunately it's gone. When we were growing up, especially Diwali is coming. When Diwali comes, in small towns, one of the fun that people have is, they will make a can full of the firecrackers and tie it to a donkey's tail. When it goes dum, dum, dum, poor donkey runs all over the place, faster than a horse. You think that's the way to motivate life? There are better, and more intelligent ways of doing things. Well, when you feel like your tail is burning you may run. People always use this thing. If a dog is chasing you, you will run the fastest. But Mr. Bolt, you know Mr. Bolt. He did not run because his tail is on fire. He runs because he prepared his legs and lungs in such a way, whichever way he runs he's faster than everybody. Hello? Isn't that the way to run? You want to run because a dog is chasing you, you want to run because your tail is on fire, is it the way you want to run? No. That's not a pleasant way to run. See, one thing is important, that you run fast. Another thing is that your experience of running is fantastic. Isn't that important? Hello? Yes. Well, you got into your dream college. But it would be hell three years, three years of hell. Who knows? Is it not important that these three years are a fantastic experience for you? Not important? Running is not the only important thing. How you experience it, what comes out of it tomorrow. Suppose we ran because our tail is on fire, now we understand. The only way to make people run is to set their tails on fire. How much damage we will cause to everybody. And I've seen these donkeys running faster than a race horse because they're terrified. That's not the way to run. Please don't do that to yourself, not anymore. Okay?

September 10, 2020

3:22

How much freedom should kids have?

Transcript: Full Transcript: See this idea that we have to raise our children is a very Western idea. You just have to allow them to grow. You should not raise them. You only raise cattle. You don't raise human beings. You just have to create an atmosphere of love, joy, and responsibility. In your question you used the word 'freedom'. Freedom is a bad word. You should never utter the word freedom. Nor should your...

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... children get used to the word freedom. You must always bring a sense of responsibility for their well-being, their health, their growth. And their ability to respond to every dimension of life. This must be brought into their life. If there is necessary, responsible existence, freedom is a consequence. This is the fundamental problem we have in the world today because we have become goal-oriented. We're interested in the consequence, we're not interested in the process. If you want flowers in the garden, you don't talk about flowers. If you're a good gardener, you will never talk about flowers. You will talk about soil, manure, water, sunlight. If you manage these things, wonderful flowers will come. Similarly if you manage the conditions necessary for a beautiful blossoming of a child, then children will blossom. But if you try to raise them according to the moulds that one may hold in their minds, every child will rebel because no life can fit into the moulds that you create in your mind. Life cannot fit into the moulds of the mind. Mind has to fit into our life. This must be understood. So let's not have big ideas about how to raise a child. Just maintain an atmosphere of absolute love, joyfulness, and responsibility. Above all, in their parents, let the children never see resentment, jealousy, frustration, depression, anger. You will see your children will blossom absolutely wonderfully because if you take care of the process, the results will come. But if you're focused on the consequence and not taking care of the process, your consequence, or the consequence that you desire, will just be a dream.

Transcript: Full Transcript: See this idea that we have to raise our children is a very Western idea. You just have...

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... to allow them to grow. You should not raise them. You only raise cattle. You don't raise human beings. You just have to create an atmosphere of love, joy, and responsibility. In your question you used the word 'freedom'. Freedom is a bad word. You should never utter the word freedom. Nor should your children get used to the word freedom. You must always bring a sense of responsibility for their well-being, their health, their growth. And their ability to respond to every dimension of life. This must be brought into their life. If there is necessary, responsible existence, freedom is a consequence. This is the fundamental problem we have in the world today because we have become goal-oriented. We're interested in the consequence, we're not interested in the process. If you want flowers in the garden, you don't talk about flowers. If you're a good gardener, you will never talk about flowers. You will talk about soil, manure, water, sunlight. If you manage these things, wonderful flowers will come. Similarly if you manage the conditions necessary for a beautiful blossoming of a child, then children will blossom. But if you try to raise them according to the moulds that one may hold in their minds, every child will rebel because no life can fit into the moulds that you create in your mind. Life cannot fit into the moulds of the mind. Mind has to fit into our life. This must be understood. So let's not have big ideas about how to raise a child. Just maintain an atmosphere of absolute love, joyfulness, and responsibility. Above all, in their parents, let the children never see resentment, jealousy, frustration, depression, anger. You will see your children will blossom absolutely wonderfully because if you take care of the process, the results will come. But if you're focused on the consequence and not taking care of the process, your consequence, or the consequence that you desire, will just be a dream.

September 9, 2020

3:02

The only real solution to phone addiction

Transcript: So, technology is not to be blamed. We have not addressed human compulsive nature. Human compulsiveness can only be addressed with consciousness. More conscious way of existing. To become conscious, there are many tools. We have not propogated this large scale in our society. It has to become a part of our existence. At a very early age, children should learn to live consciously. Once they are conscious,...

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... they know when to use what and how much to use. It's individual choice. About radiation. I want you to understand, most probably, it is like, you know, we initially used to think only those who are smoking are going to get affected. But then we realized passive smokers may be more affected than the smoker himself or herself. So similarly, somebody else may be using technology around you, there is wifi in your house. People are using telephones all around you. So you cannot escape that radiation. Yes, it has some consequences. But at the same time, the amount of life that it facilitates, we're willing to make a trade off with it to some extent. But, to what extent you wish to use technology must be your personal choice. Coming to social media. Social media is much easier to handle than a live society. When live society was there, your friends, your family, your mother-in-law, your husband, wife, this, that, everything. When they cling to you you can't switch them off. Social media, if you don't like it, you can turn off your phone. So I think this mode of interaction gives you much more freedom than the ancient way of interacting with society. Because if you went about the town making lot of friends, you got entangled in so many ways. Today you're making friends only by sending messages. When you don't want, you can keep your phone off. And, it's a done thing. So these are all wonderful conveniences that have come into our life. But, many people are making this also into a great problem and this is an illness in their lives. So the greatest things that are given to you can become your enemy if you don't learn how to use it responsibly. This goes for everything. Not just for gadgets in your hand. This goes for your car, this goes for your food, this goes for your everything that you're using in your life, including your brain. If you don't realize how to use it, if it becomes a compulsive process, then it can take your life.

Transcript: So, technology is not to be blamed. We have not addressed human compulsive nature. Human compulsiveness...

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... can only be addressed with consciousness. More conscious way of existing. To become conscious, there are many tools. We have not propogated this large scale in our society. It has to become a part of our existence. At a very early age, children should learn to live consciously. Once they are conscious, they know when to use what and how much to use. It's individual choice. About radiation. I want you to understand, most probably, it is like, you know, we initially used to think only those who are smoking are going to get affected. But then we realized passive smokers may be more affected than the smoker himself or herself. So similarly, somebody else may be using technology around you, there is wifi in your house. People are using telephones all around you. So you cannot escape that radiation. Yes, it has some consequences. But at the same time, the amount of life that it facilitates, we're willing to make a trade off with it to some extent. But, to what extent you wish to use technology must be your personal choice. Coming to social media. Social media is much easier to handle than a live society. When live society was there, your friends, your family, your mother-in-law, your husband, wife, this, that, everything. When they cling to you you can't switch them off. Social media, if you don't like it, you can turn off your phone. So I think this mode of interaction gives you much more freedom than the ancient way of interacting with society. Because if you went about the town making lot of friends, you got entangled in so many ways. Today you're making friends only by sending messages. When you don't want, you can keep your phone off. And, it's a done thing. So these are all wonderful conveniences that have come into our life. But, many people are making this also into a great problem and this is an illness in their lives. So the greatest things that are given to you can become your enemy if you don't learn how to use it responsibly. This goes for everything. Not just for gadgets in your hand. This goes for your car, this goes for your food, this goes for your everything that you're using in your life, including your brain. If you don't realize how to use it, if it becomes a compulsive process, then it can take your life.

September 8, 2020

3:13

PDA – Is public display of affection ok?

Transcript: You said, today young people have relationships. Unfortunately, you have come to a place where you think that a relationship means it must be body-based. There must be something biologically involved. Biology is a part of our life. The significance of becoming human, compared to other creatures is, they're complete biology. We are only part biology. We have other dimensions to us. We have an intelligence,...

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... we have an emotion, we have a consciousness, which is of another dimension. Biology is only one part of us. If an earthworm says I have a relationship and if both of them tangle each other, I understand. If a human being says I have a relationship, it could be a friend, it could be a brother, it could be a sister, it could be variety of relationships. And also, body-based relationships. So this thing about using the word relationship only with biological stuff is essentially because somewhere unknowingly, unknowingly, maybe because of the internet, you got enslaved to America. It all started in United States. Relationship means, it has to be opposite sex, or something sexual. Why can't we hold relationships of other kind? Hello? Are we not capable? I'm asking. Can't we have very intimate, profound relationships with people, without fondling their bodies? I'm asking. Possible or no? Yes. Biology is not the most prominent aspect of being human. It is there. It's not something that you can, you know, put under the carpet. It is very much there. But, it is not the dominant aspect of being human. With other creatures it is so. With the human being, the most significant aspect of who we are is our intelligence, our emotion, our consciousness. These are big things. Body is just one part of it. I'm not saying you must ignore the body, body is there. Now when you say, young people. You're talking about those people whose intelligence has been hijacked by hormones. When you were 10 years of age, you looked at people, everybody was fine. Quite okay. You became 14-15, you looked at them. Every little bump on their body suddenly became a world by itself. Yes or no? You have to wait for some more time. When the hormonal thing goes down, then you look at people, again they're all looking normal. So, it's not a question of right and wrong. It's not a question of morality. It is just a question of priority. What kind of priority do you want to give to your own bodily compulsions?

Transcript: You said, today young people have relationships. Unfortunately, you have come to a place where you think...

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... that a relationship means it must be body-based. There must be something biologically involved. Biology is a part of our life. The significance of becoming human, compared to other creatures is, they're complete biology. We are only part biology. We have other dimensions to us. We have an intelligence, we have an emotion, we have a consciousness, which is of another dimension. Biology is only one part of us. If an earthworm says I have a relationship and if both of them tangle each other, I understand. If a human being says I have a relationship, it could be a friend, it could be a brother, it could be a sister, it could be variety of relationships. And also, body-based relationships. So this thing about using the word relationship only with biological stuff is essentially because somewhere unknowingly, unknowingly, maybe because of the internet, you got enslaved to America. It all started in United States. Relationship means, it has to be opposite sex, or something sexual. Why can't we hold relationships of other kind? Hello? Are we not capable? I'm asking. Can't we have very intimate, profound relationships with people, without fondling their bodies? I'm asking. Possible or no? Yes. Biology is not the most prominent aspect of being human. It is there. It's not something that you can, you know, put under the carpet. It is very much there. But, it is not the dominant aspect of being human. With other creatures it is so. With the human being, the most significant aspect of who we are is our intelligence, our emotion, our consciousness. These are big things. Body is just one part of it. I'm not saying you must ignore the body, body is there. Now when you say, young people. You're talking about those people whose intelligence has been hijacked by hormones. When you were 10 years of age, you looked at people, everybody was fine. Quite okay. You became 14-15, you looked at them. Every little bump on their body suddenly became a world by itself. Yes or no? You have to wait for some more time. When the hormonal thing goes down, then you look at people, again they're all looking normal. So, it's not a question of right and wrong. It's not a question of morality. It is just a question of priority. What kind of priority do you want to give to your own bodily compulsions?

September 7, 2020

3:37

How to overcome self doubt

Transcript: I think a lot of kids and, having grown up as well, there have been a lot of questions in my head in terms of myself. My capabilities and my abilities. Something called self-doubt is definitely something that has been an issue that I have probably faced and overcome. But, I would also like to know what your view on this is. How does one overcome self-doubt? Especially as a youngster. Namaskaram Regina....

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... I'm glad you're growing up. I know everybody is telling you, "Believe in yourself, believe in yourself." I would say, please doubt yourself. Whatever is going right or wrong in your life, first thing is to see maybe it's me who caused this. Look at it carefully. If it's not you, then look at others. The so-called confident idiots are stepping on everybody's everything and walking. Self-belief, or any kind of belief will bring you confidence without clarity. The level of damage that's happened to this planet, and to life around us, everything is because of confidence without clarity. If you had little doubt about what you're doing, you would think 10 times before you do something. Isn't it? And that would be a sensible world. I want everybody to have some self-doubt. Anyway, coming to physiological and psychological growth. When we say growing up, there are many dimensions to a human being. There's physiological growth, there's psychological growth, there is emotional and other dimensions of growth in a human being. Most of the time, we measure growth physiologically and the next possibility is psychologically. The body is a very tangible element. So it grows at a certain pace. In some people it's mildly faster or slower, but it grows at a certain pace. But, the psychological dimension of who you are is not such a tangible process. It's an intangible process. More flexible, more mobile, or nebulous. So it should be able to grow well ahead of your physiological process. If growth pangs, if people are having, it is mainly because their psychological growth is not one step, at least, ahead of their physiological growth. So, though the same things have happened to trillions of people on this planet forever, still it looks like it's happening for the first time in the universe and they're surprised and they're shocked and many things. This is just because their psychological growth is behind their physiological growth. This is very important. In a society, we create a situation where every child is psychologically at least one step ahead of their physiological growth. If you do this, just this one thing in your life, you will see, whether it is adolescence, or middle age, or old age, you will not be surprised by anything. You know how to deal with it, you know how to handle it. And there'll be no shocks. And up he veils in your life for simple processes.

Transcript: I think a lot of kids and, having grown up as well, there have been a lot of questions in my head in...

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... terms of myself. My capabilities and my abilities. Something called self-doubt is definitely something that has been an issue that I have probably faced and overcome. But, I would also like to know what your view on this is. How does one overcome self-doubt? Especially as a youngster. Namaskaram Regina. I'm glad you're growing up. I know everybody is telling you, "Believe in yourself, believe in yourself." I would say, please doubt yourself. Whatever is going right or wrong in your life, first thing is to see maybe it's me who caused this. Look at it carefully. If it's not you, then look at others. The so-called confident idiots are stepping on everybody's everything and walking. Self-belief, or any kind of belief will bring you confidence without clarity. The level of damage that's happened to this planet, and to life around us, everything is because of confidence without clarity. If you had little doubt about what you're doing, you would think 10 times before you do something. Isn't it? And that would be a sensible world. I want everybody to have some self-doubt. Anyway, coming to physiological and psychological growth. When we say growing up, there are many dimensions to a human being. There's physiological growth, there's psychological growth, there is emotional and other dimensions of growth in a human being. Most of the time, we measure growth physiologically and the next possibility is psychologically. The body is a very tangible element. So it grows at a certain pace. In some people it's mildly faster or slower, but it grows at a certain pace. But, the psychological dimension of who you are is not such a tangible process. It's an intangible process. More flexible, more mobile, or nebulous. So it should be able to grow well ahead of your physiological process. If growth pangs, if people are having, it is mainly because their psychological growth is not one step, at least, ahead of their physiological growth. So, though the same things have happened to trillions of people on this planet forever, still it looks like it's happening for the first time in the universe and they're surprised and they're shocked and many things. This is just because their psychological growth is behind their physiological growth. This is very important. In a society, we create a situation where every child is psychologically at least one step ahead of their physiological growth. If you do this, just this one thing in your life, you will see, whether it is adolescence, or middle age, or old age, you will not be surprised by anything. You know how to deal with it, you know how to handle it. And there'll be no shocks. And up he veils in your life for simple processes.

September 6, 2020

3:51

Is love at first sight real?

Transcript: It means you're in a hurry. It means you're in a big rush. Well, you must understand this. There are many aspects to this. These terminologies come from another time. Love as first sight, what you're talking about, right? Right? Love as first sight was happening very commonly at one time. When the opposite genders would not have seen each other on a daily basis. You only got to see the girl when she...

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... was, this is a English scene I'm talking about. When the girl got into the carriage with her parents and you're just looking, and she just looked at you like this. Boom! Thunderbolt. Now she's walking with you, talking with you, studying with you, now it'll take time. And it's good it takes time. More time it takes, the better it is. So, these kind of terminologies come from another time, when there was no exposure between genders. The first girl you saw, boom! So, you may be drawn to a certain person, that is a different thing. But, these things are essentially lack of exposure. If you have sufficient exposure, you will see, you will look at somebody and you don't go boom like that. You will take your tme and it's good. It's good that you take your time to form proper, strong relationships that'll last. See, you make a relationship in life because somewhere you think, two is better than one, isn't it? Two may be better than one for you, but you may be a nuisance in the relationship. Yes? So, before you form any relationship of some gravity in life, first thing is, just look at this one. Is this one good enough for everything in the world? Because youth is the time when you must build this one. Don't be in a rush to live. Don't be in a rush to live when you have to grow. So there is a time to grow and there's a time to live. Too early, if you try to live, then you will see growth will not happen, because growth happens at a certain time very easily. Later on, not that it cannot happen. It will become more difficult because life will engage you in many different ways. So when you're young, when you're studying, this is the time to grow on all levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, energy wise. You must maximize yourself. Then you try to live. If you try to live too early, you will not become of much substance. If you're not of much substance, the person that you hold relationships with, if they grow well, they will look at you and wonder, why did I get trapped with this one. Yes?

Transcript: It means you're in a hurry. It means you're in a big rush. Well, you must understand this. There are...

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... many aspects to this. These terminologies come from another time. Love as first sight, what you're talking about, right? Right? Love as first sight was happening very commonly at one time. When the opposite genders would not have seen each other on a daily basis. You only got to see the girl when she was, this is a English scene I'm talking about. When the girl got into the carriage with her parents and you're just looking, and she just looked at you like this. Boom! Thunderbolt. Now she's walking with you, talking with you, studying with you, now it'll take time. And it's good it takes time. More time it takes, the better it is. So, these kind of terminologies come from another time, when there was no exposure between genders. The first girl you saw, boom! So, you may be drawn to a certain person, that is a different thing. But, these things are essentially lack of exposure. If you have sufficient exposure, you will see, you will look at somebody and you don't go boom like that. You will take your tme and it's good. It's good that you take your time to form proper, strong relationships that'll last. See, you make a relationship in life because somewhere you think, two is better than one, isn't it? Two may be better than one for you, but you may be a nuisance in the relationship. Yes? So, before you form any relationship of some gravity in life, first thing is, just look at this one. Is this one good enough for everything in the world? Because youth is the time when you must build this one. Don't be in a rush to live. Don't be in a rush to live when you have to grow. So there is a time to grow and there's a time to live. Too early, if you try to live, then you will see growth will not happen, because growth happens at a certain time very easily. Later on, not that it cannot happen. It will become more difficult because life will engage you in many different ways. So when you're young, when you're studying, this is the time to grow on all levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, energy wise. You must maximize yourself. Then you try to live. If you try to live too early, you will not become of much substance. If you're not of much substance, the person that you hold relationships with, if they grow well, they will look at you and wonder, why did I get trapped with this one. Yes?

September 5, 2020

3:56

Overcome anxiety – Do this and you will never be anxious meeting new people

Transcript: You have heard of a word called yoga. When I say yoga, you're immediately thinking of twisting yourself. No. The word yoga means union. Union means. See in your perception of life, there is you, and there is the world. So it is you versus the universe, actually. You versus the universe is a bad competition to get into. Hello? Do you have any chance of winning this? You get into competition with the...

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... universe, is there a chance to win this competition? No, you don't compete with the universe. So we found a way called yoga. Yoga means union. That means, consciously you obliterate the boundaries of your individuality. So there is no such thing as you and the universe, it feels like one. You need to do little bit of yoga, otherwise your mind will get twisted out with all kinds of ideas, emotions, and opinions. If you open it up a little bit, if you obliterate your boundaries of your individuality, it's very easy. Because, when you sit here, you see this person as a part of yourself. You have no nonsense about this one. Whether it's a man, or a woman, or a child, or an animal. You have no problem. With everything you will communicate absolutely because you have opened up your boundaries. If you have concretized your boundaries. This is me, this is me. Then with this you'll always have a problem. If it's a man, it's one kind of problem. If it's a woman, another kind of problem. It's an animal, another kind of problem. So it's time, you work upon bringing yourself to ease. Not just with other people, just with life. The life that you are must be at ease. If you are not at ease, you will never realize your full potential. Above all, in every human being, there is a certain genius. But 99% of the people live and die without ever opening up the genius within themselves. If it has to open up, if the true potential within you has to open up, your life should come to ease. There is a whole science and technology called yoga. Not just twisting and turning. Approaching how to handle your body, how to handle your chemistry, how to handle your energies, how to handle your mental fluctuations. If you bring this to a certain level, you're at ease. When you're at ease, whether there's this person, that person, animal, devil. Whoever comes, you're at ease. You being at ease is most important. Otherwise, you will not experience life the way it is. In agitation, everything is distorted.

Transcript: You have heard of a word called yoga. When I say yoga, you're immediately thinking of twisting yourself....

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... No. The word yoga means union. Union means. See in your perception of life, there is you, and there is the world. So it is you versus the universe, actually. You versus the universe is a bad competition to get into. Hello? Do you have any chance of winning this? You get into competition with the universe, is there a chance to win this competition? No, you don't compete with the universe. So we found a way called yoga. Yoga means union. That means, consciously you obliterate the boundaries of your individuality. So there is no such thing as you and the universe, it feels like one. You need to do little bit of yoga, otherwise your mind will get twisted out with all kinds of ideas, emotions, and opinions. If you open it up a little bit, if you obliterate your boundaries of your individuality, it's very easy. Because, when you sit here, you see this person as a part of yourself. You have no nonsense about this one. Whether it's a man, or a woman, or a child, or an animal. You have no problem. With everything you will communicate absolutely because you have opened up your boundaries. If you have concretized your boundaries. This is me, this is me. Then with this you'll always have a problem. If it's a man, it's one kind of problem. If it's a woman, another kind of problem. It's an animal, another kind of problem. So it's time, you work upon bringing yourself to ease. Not just with other people, just with life. The life that you are must be at ease. If you are not at ease, you will never realize your full potential. Above all, in every human being, there is a certain genius. But 99% of the people live and die without ever opening up the genius within themselves. If it has to open up, if the true potential within you has to open up, your life should come to ease. There is a whole science and technology called yoga. Not just twisting and turning. Approaching how to handle your body, how to handle your chemistry, how to handle your energies, how to handle your mental fluctuations. If you bring this to a certain level, you're at ease. When you're at ease, whether there's this person, that person, animal, devil. Whoever comes, you're at ease. You being at ease is most important. Otherwise, you will not experience life the way it is. In agitation, everything is distorted.

September 4, 2020

3:19

Is religion against homosexuality?

Transcript: When we say, sexuality, let's understand this. It is something nature has put in us. Because there is something called as perpetuation of the race, or the species, otherwise it won't happen. Of course, we being human beings, having more brains than body. Supposed to. Because of that, we kind of eliminated the reproductive part and just using the pleasure part of it. Alright? This is sexuality right...

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... now, largely in the world. But essentially, this pleasure also has come into the sexuality process, because otherwise. Well, if there was no pleasure to it, maybe we wouldn't be born, you and me. Our present parents would not have gone into it if there was no pleasure at all attached. Yes or no? So we're here because of that. So there is no denying it, or putting it under the carpet. That's not the thing. But, somebody has a certain kind of sexual preference. Which has got nothing to do with the reproductive process, as such. It is their personal preference. Because every individual has the right to do whatever the hell they want to do with their body, because it's their body. But, if it is something harmful, you're going to cut your nose off, or you're going to cut something else off, then maybe we will try to prevent you. But you're not causing any harm to yourself in that way, then it's your business as long as you do something in your private. Right now the supreme court decision is just that. That what a person does in their private space is nobody's business. Government need not enter people's bedrooms, that is the law. Alright? Now, coming to this religious resistance. There's nothing religious about this. We don't have to discriminate against them, we don't have to persecute them, we don't have to put them in the prison, definitely it's not necessary. But at the same time, it doesn't need promotion either. So, you don't have to, when your parents say something, they may refer to their religion because they think it's an authority. You take away the authority, just listen to the words. If it makes sense, do it. If it doesn't make sense, tell them politely, that's not the way it is with me. Alright?

Transcript: When we say, sexuality, let's understand this. It is something nature has put in us. Because there is...

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... something called as perpetuation of the race, or the species, otherwise it won't happen. Of course, we being human beings, having more brains than body. Supposed to. Because of that, we kind of eliminated the reproductive part and just using the pleasure part of it. Alright? This is sexuality right now, largely in the world. But essentially, this pleasure also has come into the sexuality process, because otherwise. Well, if there was no pleasure to it, maybe we wouldn't be born, you and me. Our present parents would not have gone into it if there was no pleasure at all attached. Yes or no? So we're here because of that. So there is no denying it, or putting it under the carpet. That's not the thing. But, somebody has a certain kind of sexual preference. Which has got nothing to do with the reproductive process, as such. It is their personal preference. Because every individual has the right to do whatever the hell they want to do with their body, because it's their body. But, if it is something harmful, you're going to cut your nose off, or you're going to cut something else off, then maybe we will try to prevent you. But you're not causing any harm to yourself in that way, then it's your business as long as you do something in your private. Right now the supreme court decision is just that. That what a person does in their private space is nobody's business. Government need not enter people's bedrooms, that is the law. Alright? Now, coming to this religious resistance. There's nothing religious about this. We don't have to discriminate against them, we don't have to persecute them, we don't have to put them in the prison, definitely it's not necessary. But at the same time, it doesn't need promotion either. So, you don't have to, when your parents say something, they may refer to their religion because they think it's an authority. You take away the authority, just listen to the words. If it makes sense, do it. If it doesn't make sense, tell them politely, that's not the way it is with me. Alright?

September 1, 2020

2:54

How to choose the best career option?

Transcript: For every one of you, your life is precious, isn't it? Hello? It's a precious life. If something is precious, where do you want to invest this life? Into what do you want to invest this precious life? If this is a worthless life throw it somewhere. If this is a precious life, what do you want to invest this life into? If you look at it this way, you will find something truly worthwhile to do. If you...

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... think in terms of, how to earn a living, how to get this kind of thing, that kind of thing, then you will do something silly that you will regret for the rest of your life. Most people are a regret. That's why they are going around joylessly because they're not doing what they want to do. They're not creating what really matters to them. They're doing something for a living. Earning a living is not a big deal for a human being. Every creature, every worm, insect, bird, animal, is earning their living, isn't it so? With such a big brain, what is a big deal about earning a living? But, unfortunately, because of 10-20 generations of poverty in this country, because of external occupations and invations and stuff. Because of that people have gotten into this mood, how to earn a living, how to earn a living. Parents are constantly grilling their children, how will you earn your living? With such a big brain, when an earthworm can earn its living, such a big brain, is earning a living an issue? No. What is it that you're going to create? This precious life, where are you going to invest it? Are you going to invest in something that's truly worthwhile? Or are you going to throw it away as a worthless thing? This is the important thing. So, one thing that every young person should do is, without the influence of the peers of your own age group, without the influence of your professors and your parents, without any kind of influence, somewhere you must stay by yourself. At least for 2-3 days. And look at it. What is it that I want to invest this precious life into. What is it that will be worthwhile today, and worthwhile after 50 years for me to invest myself into? You invest your life into that. Whatever it is. However small, big, it doesn't matter. If you see that this is something truly worthwhile and you invest your life in that, this will be a life of fulfilment.

Transcript: For every one of you, your life is precious, isn't it? Hello? It's a precious life. If something is precious,...

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... where do you want to invest this life? Into what do you want to invest this precious life? If this is a worthless life throw it somewhere. If this is a precious life, what do you want to invest this life into? If you look at it this way, you will find something truly worthwhile to do. If you think in terms of, how to earn a living, how to get this kind of thing, that kind of thing, then you will do something silly that you will regret for the rest of your life. Most people are a regret. That's why they are going around joylessly because they're not doing what they want to do. They're not creating what really matters to them. They're doing something for a living. Earning a living is not a big deal for a human being. Every creature, every worm, insect, bird, animal, is earning their living, isn't it so? With such a big brain, what is a big deal about earning a living? But, unfortunately, because of 10-20 generations of poverty in this country, because of external occupations and invations and stuff. Because of that people have gotten into this mood, how to earn a living, how to earn a living. Parents are constantly grilling their children, how will you earn your living? With such a big brain, when an earthworm can earn its living, such a big brain, is earning a living an issue? No. What is it that you're going to create? This precious life, where are you going to invest it? Are you going to invest in something that's truly worthwhile? Or are you going to throw it away as a worthless thing? This is the important thing. So, one thing that every young person should do is, without the influence of the peers of your own age group, without the influence of your professors and your parents, without any kind of influence, somewhere you must stay by yourself. At least for 2-3 days. And look at it. What is it that I want to invest this precious life into. What is it that will be worthwhile today, and worthwhile after 50 years for me to invest myself into? You invest your life into that. Whatever it is. However small, big, it doesn't matter. If you see that this is something truly worthwhile and you invest your life in that, this will be a life of fulfilment.

August 31, 2020

3:13

Causal Sex – What is wrong with having casual physical relationships?

Transcript: So this body memory, traditionally in this culture we call this Runanbandan. That means, physical memory that you build. You can either consciously build your physical memory or you can simply take in wild amounts of memory and go through lots of physical confusion. Because, if I as much as touch this, this memory, it remembers. You try this with four of your friends. You touch their hands. Don't try...

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... to consciously remember. Everyday touch their hands and forget about it. Tomorrow if that person comes and touches you, you know it's this hand, isn't it? So the body remembers, it's not the mind. The physical body remembers, this is called as Runanbandan. When there is a sexual interaction, or there is any kind of intimacy which involves thought, emotion, and body, the amount of memory that is left in your system is very big. It is from this context they said, you must keep this as simple as possible. There are other aspects where in certain tantric process and all, they're involving. They're preparing themselves for years to distance themselves from the body in such a way that the body doesn't pick up anything from anywhere. This is being done like a sadhana, not as sexual promiscuity. So the question is not of morality. The question is of, what is it that you want to do with yourself in your life. If you want to be in such a way that in your life your inner intelligence will be the most dominant thing in your life, not your physical body, then you must keep the body's memory as simple as possible. This is why simple types of food, you know people go into very simple kind of food, not complicated. Even now, I eat one meal a day and I eat only one item in the meal. I won't eat ten. I may eat all of those things another day, but today I'll eat only one item. Because it makes a huge, just experiment and see don't go by what I'm saying. Just experiment, and especially when your examination time comes, eat simple food and see what a difference it makes. For your intelligence, how it functions, how alert you are, everything. So what is it that you're trying to build yourself to. Do you want to build yourself to be a sexual supernova? Or, no I'm saying, some people may have that intention. That's upto them. But what is it that you want to do with your life is something that you must decide. If you have decided that, it's very, very important that you don't unconsciously pick up enormous amount of memory because this will lead to. Later on you will see, it'll become very difficult to remain peaceful and joyful in your life, no matter what good things may be happening. Simply because there is confusing memories in the system. When, something else of similar nature comes, the body goes into a turmoil of confusion. It may not translate into your mind. Just physically, it will go on. So, it's a choice that one has to make. It's not a question of morality, it is a question of living sensibly.

Transcript: So this body memory, traditionally in this culture we call this Runanbandan. That means, physical memory...

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... that you build. You can either consciously build your physical memory or you can simply take in wild amounts of memory and go through lots of physical confusion. Because, if I as much as touch this, this memory, it remembers. You try this with four of your friends. You touch their hands. Don't try to consciously remember. Everyday touch their hands and forget about it. Tomorrow if that person comes and touches you, you know it's this hand, isn't it? So the body remembers, it's not the mind. The physical body remembers, this is called as Runanbandan. When there is a sexual interaction, or there is any kind of intimacy which involves thought, emotion, and body, the amount of memory that is left in your system is very big. It is from this context they said, you must keep this as simple as possible. There are other aspects where in certain tantric process and all, they're involving. They're preparing themselves for years to distance themselves from the body in such a way that the body doesn't pick up anything from anywhere. This is being done like a sadhana, not as sexual promiscuity. So the question is not of morality. The question is of, what is it that you want to do with yourself in your life. If you want to be in such a way that in your life your inner intelligence will be the most dominant thing in your life, not your physical body, then you must keep the body's memory as simple as possible. This is why simple types of food, you know people go into very simple kind of food, not complicated. Even now, I eat one meal a day and I eat only one item in the meal. I won't eat ten. I may eat all of those things another day, but today I'll eat only one item. Because it makes a huge, just experiment and see don't go by what I'm saying. Just experiment, and especially when your examination time comes, eat simple food and see what a difference it makes. For your intelligence, how it functions, how alert you are, everything. So what is it that you're trying to build yourself to. Do you want to build yourself to be a sexual supernova? Or, no I'm saying, some people may have that intention. That's upto them. But what is it that you want to do with your life is something that you must decide. If you have decided that, it's very, very important that you don't unconsciously pick up enormous amount of memory because this will lead to. Later on you will see, it'll become very difficult to remain peaceful and joyful in your life, no matter what good things may be happening. Simply because there is confusing memories in the system. When, something else of similar nature comes, the body goes into a turmoil of confusion. It may not translate into your mind. Just physically, it will go on. So, it's a choice that one has to make. It's not a question of morality, it is a question of living sensibly.

August 30, 2020

3:41

What to do when my beloved betrays me?

Transcript: See somebody can betray you or you can think they betrayed you. Only because you have unrealistic expectations of them. Well, if they do what they want to do, why do you think they have betrayed you? They're doing what they want to do. You must respect it. If you say, they're beloved to me, I love them. If you love a person, should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want...

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... them to do? For most people love means, you must do what I want. No, no. Love means they can do what they want and we will love them. Isn't it? You have this thing that if I love you, you must listen to me. No, no. If I love you, I want you to do what brings joy to you. Isn't it? Just change the concept of your beloved. But Sadhguru, I have a doubt regarding this. What if allowance or going in a way that's not good for them and we want to correct them, and that's why we're telling them. Then you should have been the mother. Because I'm not saying that it is never true that somebody may be going off track and you try to do something for them. I'm not saying it's never true. But you don't take this position that somebody is wrong and you're going to fix them. They're doing what they want to do. Isn't it? What they want to do right now may not be benefitial for them. Possible. But you must look at it sincerely. Are you complaining because it's not benefitial for them? Or you're complaining because it's not benefitial for you? Most of the time it's this. Genuinely look at it, it's not benefitial for you but it's good for them, please let them do it. But, they're damaging themselves, yes then you have a right to intervene and try to do your best. But not always. Not always can you enter somebody's life and do something for them. If I have to enter your life and do something for you, I have to earn it, isn't it? I have to earn a relationship where I can intervene in your life. If you don't earn that, you cannot intervene. So if you're unable to intervene, you must just understand you've not earned that closeness.

Transcript: See somebody can betray you or you can think they betrayed you. Only because you have unrealistic expectations...

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... of them. Well, if they do what they want to do, why do you think they have betrayed you? They're doing what they want to do. You must respect it. If you say, they're beloved to me, I love them. If you love a person, should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want them to do? For most people love means, you must do what I want. No, no. Love means they can do what they want and we will love them. Isn't it? You have this thing that if I love you, you must listen to me. No, no. If I love you, I want you to do what brings joy to you. Isn't it? Just change the concept of your beloved. But Sadhguru, I have a doubt regarding this. What if allowance or going in a way that's not good for them and we want to correct them, and that's why we're telling them. Then you should have been the mother. Because I'm not saying that it is never true that somebody may be going off track and you try to do something for them. I'm not saying it's never true. But you don't take this position that somebody is wrong and you're going to fix them. They're doing what they want to do. Isn't it? What they want to do right now may not be benefitial for them. Possible. But you must look at it sincerely. Are you complaining because it's not benefitial for them? Or you're complaining because it's not benefitial for you? Most of the time it's this. Genuinely look at it, it's not benefitial for you but it's good for them, please let them do it. But, they're damaging themselves, yes then you have a right to intervene and try to do your best. But not always. Not always can you enter somebody's life and do something for them. If I have to enter your life and do something for you, I have to earn it, isn't it? I have to earn a relationship where I can intervene in your life. If you don't earn that, you cannot intervene. So if you're unable to intervene, you must just understand you've not earned that closeness.

August 29, 2020

3:14

FOMO – How to overcome the fear of missing out?

Transcript: The fear of missing out. First of all, fear, let's address fear before we address missing out. Fear is always about, what may happen, or may not happen. Right? Fear is not about what we're experiencing right now. What will happen is always the fear. Or in other words, your fear is about something which is not yet. Your fear is about something which does not exist. This is all management people. If...

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... there were a few, seombody from a psychiatry department, we could have asked them. If I have fear about something that does not exist, what is my condition? They would have a title for that. We're suffering something which doesn't even exist. Yes? If you're suffering something that doesn't even exist, it is not about life, it is not about education, it's not about career, it is just about your mind being out of control. Is that not an important aspect that you should manage, before we allow you to manage an industry or a business. Is it not important? First of all, you learn to at least manage your mind. So it's very important that there is nothing to miss out in life. Life is happening to all of us. Question is only, if I miss this party, am I missing out something? If I miss this examination, am I missing out something? If I miss this job, am I missing out something? This is simply because right now, who you are, is not internally managed. It is externally stimulated. When you step out into the world, if you leave it to the people to decide what happens within you, they're going to drive you crazy in no time. Here it's all managed for you. You're not managing this. It's managed for you. What should happen to you, what should not happen, somebody else is managing it. When you step out on the street, if you leave it to other people's hand, they can decide whether you're happy or unhappy, you're going to be miserable for sure. What happens within you, must be determined by you, isn't it? And anyway, why are you copying people? Most people don't know what the hell they're doing. This happened. Shankaran Pillai joined an entity, he was working in Pentagon. Then he kept moving his work cable, from one office to another office to another office to another office, he went on moving around. Then he moved to the corridor, he moved into the garden, he moved here, there. Then he moved into the men's restroom, and settled down there and started working. Everybody was looking at this, what's wrong with him, some problem. Initially they thought he's a Russian agent. Then he thought he must be a Muslim terrorist. Then they thought all those things, then everything ran out, he didn't cause any harm to anybody. Then he settled down in the men's restroom and started working. So they told the Pentagon's psychiatrist that this guy is gone lonely, he's working in the men's room. And he settled down and he's just doing his work there. So the psychiatrist just strolled in, as if he wanted to use the men's room and started chatting. And he found he was quite normal, everything was fine with him. He said, why are you sitting in the men's room and working? He said, I moved everywhere and saw, in the end I found this is the only damn place where people know what they're doing.

Transcript: The fear of missing out. First of all, fear, let's address fear before we address missing out. Fear is...

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... always about, what may happen, or may not happen. Right? Fear is not about what we're experiencing right now. What will happen is always the fear. Or in other words, your fear is about something which is not yet. Your fear is about something which does not exist. This is all management people. If there were a few, seombody from a psychiatry department, we could have asked them. If I have fear about something that does not exist, what is my condition? They would have a title for that. We're suffering something which doesn't even exist. Yes? If you're suffering something that doesn't even exist, it is not about life, it is not about education, it's not about career, it is just about your mind being out of control. Is that not an important aspect that you should manage, before we allow you to manage an industry or a business. Is it not important? First of all, you learn to at least manage your mind. So it's very important that there is nothing to miss out in life. Life is happening to all of us. Question is only, if I miss this party, am I missing out something? If I miss this examination, am I missing out something? If I miss this job, am I missing out something? This is simply because right now, who you are, is not internally managed. It is externally stimulated. When you step out into the world, if you leave it to the people to decide what happens within you, they're going to drive you crazy in no time. Here it's all managed for you. You're not managing this. It's managed for you. What should happen to you, what should not happen, somebody else is managing it. When you step out on the street, if you leave it to other people's hand, they can decide whether you're happy or unhappy, you're going to be miserable for sure. What happens within you, must be determined by you, isn't it? And anyway, why are you copying people? Most people don't know what the hell they're doing. This happened. Shankaran Pillai joined an entity, he was working in Pentagon. Then he kept moving his work cable, from one office to another office to another office to another office, he went on moving around. Then he moved to the corridor, he moved into the garden, he moved here, there. Then he moved into the men's restroom, and settled down there and started working. Everybody was looking at this, what's wrong with him, some problem. Initially they thought he's a Russian agent. Then he thought he must be a Muslim terrorist. Then they thought all those things, then everything ran out, he didn't cause any harm to anybody. Then he settled down in the men's restroom and started working. So they told the Pentagon's psychiatrist that this guy is gone lonely, he's working in the men's room. And he settled down and he's just doing his work there. So the psychiatrist just strolled in, as if he wanted to use the men's room and started chatting. And he found he was quite normal, everything was fine with him. He said, why are you sitting in the men's room and working? He said, I moved everywhere and saw, in the end I found this is the only damn place where people know what they're doing.

August 27, 2020

3:59

Arranged marriage or Love marriage – which is a better?

Transcript: Marriage is not about how it happened, who arranged it. Your parents arranged it, or a commercial website arranged it, a dating app arranged it, or a local bar arranged it when you were fuzzy. Or your confused friends arranged it, or your confused self arranged it. Well, anyway, it's an arrangement. It is best it is arranged by responsible, sensible people. This idea, arranged marriage means some kind...

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... of a slavery. Well, that depends. As there are exploitative people everywhere, sometimes your parents themselves may be exploitative, they may be doing things for their own reasons. Their stupid prestige, their wealth, their nonsense. They may be doing it for those reasons. So, this whole debate about, is arrange marriage better or meeting in the local bar is better. Well, I think when you're not little for doubt, I think your decisions are little better. If an 18-20 year old man or woman, young man or young woman want to marry, who will they marry? Their contact is just there. Within those 10 people that they know in their life, one guy or one girl you marry. Within 3 months you will know. But in most countries, there is a law, at least 2 years you must suffer. It's like a jail term. If you make a mistake, at least 2 years you must suffer. Then only you can divorce. Most nations have this. Well, many religions have fixed it that divorce is completely wrong. You cannot divorce. But, where such religions are practiced, there the divorce rates are highest. So, God's dictates are not able to stop the break ups. Law is not able to stop the break ups. You need to understand this, when parents organize, you must, I'm asking you a basic question. Do you believe, their judgement may not be the best, but parents have the best interest of yours. But if you have matured beyond them, that's different. You can make your own decisions. But, arranged marriage is a wrong terminology. All marriages are arranged. By whom, is the only question. I think it's best it's arrange by people who are most concerned about your well-being. Who have a larger reach of, because you can't find the best man, or the best woman in the world. Because we don't know where the hell they are.

Transcript: Marriage is not about how it happened, who arranged it. Your parents arranged it, or a commercial website...

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... arranged it, a dating app arranged it, or a local bar arranged it when you were fuzzy. Or your confused friends arranged it, or your confused self arranged it. Well, anyway, it's an arrangement. It is best it is arranged by responsible, sensible people. This idea, arranged marriage means some kind of a slavery. Well, that depends. As there are exploitative people everywhere, sometimes your parents themselves may be exploitative, they may be doing things for their own reasons. Their stupid prestige, their wealth, their nonsense. They may be doing it for those reasons. So, this whole debate about, is arrange marriage better or meeting in the local bar is better. Well, I think when you're not little for doubt, I think your decisions are little better. If an 18-20 year old man or woman, young man or young woman want to marry, who will they marry? Their contact is just there. Within those 10 people that they know in their life, one guy or one girl you marry. Within 3 months you will know. But in most countries, there is a law, at least 2 years you must suffer. It's like a jail term. If you make a mistake, at least 2 years you must suffer. Then only you can divorce. Most nations have this. Well, many religions have fixed it that divorce is completely wrong. You cannot divorce. But, where such religions are practiced, there the divorce rates are highest. So, God's dictates are not able to stop the break ups. Law is not able to stop the break ups. You need to understand this, when parents organize, you must, I'm asking you a basic question. Do you believe, their judgement may not be the best, but parents have the best interest of yours. But if you have matured beyond them, that's different. You can make your own decisions. But, arranged marriage is a wrong terminology. All marriages are arranged. By whom, is the only question. I think it's best it's arrange by people who are most concerned about your well-being. Who have a larger reach of, because you can't find the best man, or the best woman in the world. Because we don't know where the hell they are.

August 24, 2020

3:39

Are marriages made in heaven?

Transcript: Where all they've been saying marriages are made in heaven. But you're cooking hell within you. Marriage is made in heaven. That's why a lot of people want to go there soon. Because it's made there, they want to go there and settle it. No. You need to understand, to fulfil you needs. Physical, psychological, emotional, social, and various other needs. You're coming together. If you always remember...

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... to fulfil my needs, I'm with you, you will conduct this responsibly. Initially you're like that. After some time you think, he or she needs you. Then you will start acting vanterly. Then, of course, ugliness will start in many different ways. This happened. A young man and a very young woman got engaged. So once the, not like this, there must be a stone. Once the ring went in, the lady held his hand and said, "You can lean on me to share your pains, your struggles, your, whatever sufferings you go through. You can always share with me." The guy said, "Well, I don't have any struggles, or pains, or problems." She said, "Well, we're not yet married." So, if you think you're full of pain, struggles, problems, and you need somebody to lean on, well that'll be trouble. You make yourself into a joyful, wonderful human being, then you will see, your work also will be wonderful, your home also will be wonderful, your marriage will be wonderful. Everything will be wonderful because you are. Without fixing this, you think somebody else is going to fix you, then there's going to be trouble for you. And of course, an unfortunate consequence for the other person.

Transcript: Where all they've been saying marriages are made in heaven. But you're cooking hell within you. Marriage...

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... is made in heaven. That's why a lot of people want to go there soon. Because it's made there, they want to go there and settle it. No. You need to understand, to fulfil you needs. Physical, psychological, emotional, social, and various other needs. You're coming together. If you always remember to fulfil my needs, I'm with you, you will conduct this responsibly. Initially you're like that. After some time you think, he or she needs you. Then you will start acting vanterly. Then, of course, ugliness will start in many different ways. This happened. A young man and a very young woman got engaged. So once the, not like this, there must be a stone. Once the ring went in, the lady held his hand and said, "You can lean on me to share your pains, your struggles, your, whatever sufferings you go through. You can always share with me." The guy said, "Well, I don't have any struggles, or pains, or problems." She said, "Well, we're not yet married." So, if you think you're full of pain, struggles, problems, and you need somebody to lean on, well that'll be trouble. You make yourself into a joyful, wonderful human being, then you will see, your work also will be wonderful, your home also will be wonderful, your marriage will be wonderful. Everything will be wonderful because you are. Without fixing this, you think somebody else is going to fix you, then there's going to be trouble for you. And of course, an unfortunate consequence for the other person.

August 23, 2020

2:54

Youth – This mistake will cost you for the rest of your life!

Transcript: In India, the mango farmers have some wisdom in their lives. I've been a mango farmer in the past. Just after 12-14 months after planting. If it's a well crafted land, within 14 months flowers will come when the season comes. First thing we do is, we pluck off the flowers. If you leave it, a few mangoes will come. But we will take it off. Next season again the flowers come, we'll take it off. We will...

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... wait for the plant to grow, because we know. If the fruit comes out of that plant, that plant will never grow into a full-fledged tree. It will not bear as much fruit as it could, if it bears too early. So this is something youth must remember. Don't try to live too early. This is the time where you build yourself. In body, in mind, in competence, in capability. You build yourself. Time to live will come. If you live too early, then you will see you will not live a full-fledged life. So right now, we have imported this from Western societies. By the time you're 14, you must have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. By the time you're 18, you have had three heartbreaks. Where the hell are you focusing on building yourself? These things are taking so much time. And energy. Build yourself up well, if you want to live well. So, there is a certain time to grow, and there is a certain time to live. If you live too early, you will not grow. And if you don't grow, the scale and scope of your life will be very limited. That should not happen to you.

Transcript: In India, the mango farmers have some wisdom in their lives. I've been a mango farmer in the past. Just...

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... after 12-14 months after planting. If it's a well crafted land, within 14 months flowers will come when the season comes. First thing we do is, we pluck off the flowers. If you leave it, a few mangoes will come. But we will take it off. Next season again the flowers come, we'll take it off. We will wait for the plant to grow, because we know. If the fruit comes out of that plant, that plant will never grow into a full-fledged tree. It will not bear as much fruit as it could, if it bears too early. So this is something youth must remember. Don't try to live too early. This is the time where you build yourself. In body, in mind, in competence, in capability. You build yourself. Time to live will come. If you live too early, then you will see you will not live a full-fledged life. So right now, we have imported this from Western societies. By the time you're 14, you must have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. By the time you're 18, you have had three heartbreaks. Where the hell are you focusing on building yourself? These things are taking so much time. And energy. Build yourself up well, if you want to live well. So, there is a certain time to grow, and there is a certain time to live. If you live too early, you will not grow. And if you don't grow, the scale and scope of your life will be very limited. That should not happen to you.

August 22, 2020

2:14

If both parents are working, will the child be lonely?

Transcript: When I was growing as a child, both my parents were working. And there were times when I was feeling lonely and very miserable. Although, my parents did give their part of comfort to me, there were times I was feeling lonely on the inside. And, what can our future parents, or what can we do to our kids, to not feel the same way? Thank you. Well, in India, this is the first generation where women have...

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... stepped out to work. Professionally. Otherwise, because we were largely an agricultural community, women worked, but in and around the house. And if they went somewhere to the field, they took the children and went. So, always, like you see ducks and chickens, if the hen goes, behind that the chicks run. Like that children were always running behind women. So she was always doing her work, and still managing and tending to them. And they was a certain cohesiveness to that. But today women are going to the office, or to the factory, or to some other business. So they can't take their children there. This is the first generation of women who've stepped out. So in the society, we still don't have arrangements. Proper arrangements, where children can be properly tended to. That system, that facility, and that arrangement, is simply not happened in the society yet. I hope it happens quickly because it's very important. It doesn't mater whether it's a biological parent, or somebody else, but children need a loving, caring atmosphere. It's very important. Just putting nourishment into their stomach is not the only thing. They need some tending, attending to. Somebody should smile at them, somebody should laugh at them, somebody should do something with them, play with them. This is very needed. Otherwise, children will grow up little sick in their head. It is not necessary only a biological mother should do it, but there must be a committed person doing this. It's very, very important for the child. Unfortunately in this society, we still don't have those arrangements.

Transcript: When I was growing as a child, both my parents were working. And there were times when I was feeling...

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... lonely and very miserable. Although, my parents did give their part of comfort to me, there were times I was feeling lonely on the inside. And, what can our future parents, or what can we do to our kids, to not feel the same way? Thank you. Well, in India, this is the first generation where women have stepped out to work. Professionally. Otherwise, because we were largely an agricultural community, women worked, but in and around the house. And if they went somewhere to the field, they took the children and went. So, always, like you see ducks and chickens, if the hen goes, behind that the chicks run. Like that children were always running behind women. So she was always doing her work, and still managing and tending to them. And they was a certain cohesiveness to that. But today women are going to the office, or to the factory, or to some other business. So they can't take their children there. This is the first generation of women who've stepped out. So in the society, we still don't have arrangements. Proper arrangements, where children can be properly tended to. That system, that facility, and that arrangement, is simply not happened in the society yet. I hope it happens quickly because it's very important. It doesn't mater whether it's a biological parent, or somebody else, but children need a loving, caring atmosphere. It's very important. Just putting nourishment into their stomach is not the only thing. They need some tending, attending to. Somebody should smile at them, somebody should laugh at them, somebody should do something with them, play with them. This is very needed. Otherwise, children will grow up little sick in their head. It is not necessary only a biological mother should do it, but there must be a committed person doing this. It's very, very important for the child. Unfortunately in this society, we still don't have those arrangements.

August 21, 2020

2:33

How to deal with deep rooted anger?

Transcript: Suppose you're angry with your mother, you behave one way. You're angry with your friend, another way. You're angry with your professor, completely different way. Yes or no? So who is your victim right now? Accordingly, you should do. But now, you're asking this question as if anger is a natural part of you. Are you angry right now? What's your name? Mohini, are you angry right now? No. Then why are...

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... you bothered about anger? Once in a way, you get angry. Yes? You get angry, anger doesn't happen to you. You get angry. You like it? You don't like it? Then why do you do it? See, around us, so many people will do so many things that we don't like. Yes or no? So many things in Mumbai happening, things that we don't like are everyday happening. But at least within you, only what you want should happen within this. Isn't it? I cannot decide that only what I want should happen with you. But I can definitely decide that only what I want must happen within me. Isn't it? If you could decide, only what you want should happen within you, would you choose anger or joy? What's your choice, please choose, I'm going to bless you. Joy. See, you want the highest level of pleasantness for yourself. Isn't it? Then why is such a thing not happening? As I said earlier, you never read the user's manual. How this functions has not been looked at. Do not go by the example of people who came here a few years earlier than you. That, no, no my mother also was like that, my grandmother also was getting angry so I'm also getting angry. They should not be the leading lights of your life. I want you to look at it. Your thought, your emotion, your body, must happen the way you want, isn't it? If somebody else can decide, what should happen within you, this is ultimate slavery. Isn't it so? What happens around you, maybe we can decide. But nobody should decide, except yourself, what happens within you. If you decide, you would keep this in the highest state of pleasantness for sure.

Transcript: Suppose you're angry with your mother, you behave one way. You're angry with your friend, another way....

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... You're angry with your professor, completely different way. Yes or no? So who is your victim right now? Accordingly, you should do. But now, you're asking this question as if anger is a natural part of you. Are you angry right now? What's your name? Mohini, are you angry right now? No. Then why are you bothered about anger? Once in a way, you get angry. Yes? You get angry, anger doesn't happen to you. You get angry. You like it? You don't like it? Then why do you do it? See, around us, so many people will do so many things that we don't like. Yes or no? So many things in Mumbai happening, things that we don't like are everyday happening. But at least within you, only what you want should happen within this. Isn't it? I cannot decide that only what I want should happen with you. But I can definitely decide that only what I want must happen within me. Isn't it? If you could decide, only what you want should happen within you, would you choose anger or joy? What's your choice, please choose, I'm going to bless you. Joy. See, you want the highest level of pleasantness for yourself. Isn't it? Then why is such a thing not happening? As I said earlier, you never read the user's manual. How this functions has not been looked at. Do not go by the example of people who came here a few years earlier than you. That, no, no my mother also was like that, my grandmother also was getting angry so I'm also getting angry. They should not be the leading lights of your life. I want you to look at it. Your thought, your emotion, your body, must happen the way you want, isn't it? If somebody else can decide, what should happen within you, this is ultimate slavery. Isn't it so? What happens around you, maybe we can decide. But nobody should decide, except yourself, what happens within you. If you decide, you would keep this in the highest state of pleasantness for sure.

August 19, 2020

3:11

Why should I have only one partner? Is one-partner a thing of the past?

Transcript: Well, monogamy and polygamy or whatever kind of gamy, if you want to see. The important thing we need to understand is, you know, we are all here. You and me are here. This means a man and woman came together some time ago. Maybe, you think, oh they're parents you know. They don't love, they don't do sex, they don't do anything. Just because a priest uttered a mantra, you were born, probably. No, it's...

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... not like that. Somebody has a physical need, so handle it through marriage, and we're here. When you become 18, you become always against marriage. But when you were 3 years of age, you were for marriage. Your parents' marriage. When you were 3 years of age, were you not glad your parents had a stable marriage? Hello? When you're 18, you think, oh free sex, and no marriage, and everything. But once again, if you become 50-55, then you will look for a relationship that lasts. So it is for you to consider, because it's your life, to consider whether you want to live a life, where emotionally you're always looking out for somebody. Or you settle it in a certain way so that you can use your intelligence and time to create something else. Your research, your work, or whatever you're doing. If emotions and body are settled, actually, your ability to use your intelligence will be much better. Otherwise everyday you have to walk around to find somebody. No, I'm not making this thing because I feel so bad. In United States, people I know, you know thousands of people are involved with me now. People who are 40-45 years of age, women I'm saying, wonderful people. But, they're all on this, these days they've all gone online. Otherwise they go sit in a bar and wait. Somebody needs to pick them up today. It's terrible. Tinder generation. I'm sorry? Tinder generation. Whatever you want to call it. When a woman, at 45, should have been loved and respected in a proper atmosphere, now she's sitting there, looking for some strange guy to come her way. And she's going to make the judgement in the next 10 minutes, when he buys her a drink or a dinner or something. This is tragic.

Transcript: Well, monogamy and polygamy or whatever kind of gamy, if you want to see. The important thing we need...

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... to understand is, you know, we are all here. You and me are here. This means a man and woman came together some time ago. Maybe, you think, oh they're parents you know. They don't love, they don't do sex, they don't do anything. Just because a priest uttered a mantra, you were born, probably. No, it's not like that. Somebody has a physical need, so handle it through marriage, and we're here. When you become 18, you become always against marriage. But when you were 3 years of age, you were for marriage. Your parents' marriage. When you were 3 years of age, were you not glad your parents had a stable marriage? Hello? When you're 18, you think, oh free sex, and no marriage, and everything. But once again, if you become 50-55, then you will look for a relationship that lasts. So it is for you to consider, because it's your life, to consider whether you want to live a life, where emotionally you're always looking out for somebody. Or you settle it in a certain way so that you can use your intelligence and time to create something else. Your research, your work, or whatever you're doing. If emotions and body are settled, actually, your ability to use your intelligence will be much better. Otherwise everyday you have to walk around to find somebody. No, I'm not making this thing because I feel so bad. In United States, people I know, you know thousands of people are involved with me now. People who are 40-45 years of age, women I'm saying, wonderful people. But, they're all on this, these days they've all gone online. Otherwise they go sit in a bar and wait. Somebody needs to pick them up today. It's terrible. Tinder generation. I'm sorry? Tinder generation. Whatever you want to call it. When a woman, at 45, should have been loved and respected in a proper atmosphere, now she's sitting there, looking for some strange guy to come her way. And she's going to make the judgement in the next 10 minutes, when he buys her a drink or a dinner or something. This is tragic.

August 17, 2020

2:53

How to choose your career? Do you want to make a living or make a life?

Transcript: So one thing that all of you should do, before you make big decisions in your life, is withdraw from this pressures of peers, professors, parents, everybody. Just spend three days to one week by yourself. Look at it, what is it that you really want to do. Not under pressure from other people. What does this life want to do. Do that. It doesn't matter what other people think about it. When it comes...

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... to what you want to do, you must think clearly. It's very important. Thinking clearly means, the question is not about what will get me this, what will get me that. Is your life precious to you? All of you, I'm asking. Your life, is it precious to you? So before you invest this life into something, you must look, whether today if I invest my life into this, after 25 years, will it still mean a lot to me? After 50 years, will it still mean a lot to me? At the end of my life, I turn back and I look, will I be proud of this? Or will I be ashamed of what I'm doing right now? Doesn't matter what other people say. But you should not do anything that you will feel ashamed of. Isn't it so? It doesn't matter, people say so many things. Everybody has an opinion, it's their business. But you don't do something that you will feel ashamed of, isn't it? Then you're turning against yourself. Somebody turns against you, you can leave them and go somewhere else. If you turn against yourself, you'll have to live with it forever. So, this is all you have to look at it. Something will get you money, something will get you comfort. That's not the point. What you choose to do, will it give you a life? When I say, give you a life, are you just trying to make a living or are you trying to make a life out of this? It's important. Making a living is not an issue. A worm, an insect, a bird, an animal, all of them are making their life, making a living, isn't it so? They're even making a life out of it. But definitely they're making a living. So making a living with such a big brain is not an issue. Earning your food is not an issue. Making a living is not an issue. Only problem is, you want to live like somebody else. That's an endless problem. I want to live, is not a problem. I want to live like you, this is a problem. So, it is important, if you consider your life as a precious life, you must make sure you make a wonderful life out of this. Whatever opens up in that direction, that is the thing you should do.

Transcript: So one thing that all of you should do, before you make big decisions in your life, is withdraw from...

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... this pressures of peers, professors, parents, everybody. Just spend three days to one week by yourself. Look at it, what is it that you really want to do. Not under pressure from other people. What does this life want to do. Do that. It doesn't matter what other people think about it. When it comes to what you want to do, you must think clearly. It's very important. Thinking clearly means, the question is not about what will get me this, what will get me that. Is your life precious to you? All of you, I'm asking. Your life, is it precious to you? So before you invest this life into something, you must look, whether today if I invest my life into this, after 25 years, will it still mean a lot to me? After 50 years, will it still mean a lot to me? At the end of my life, I turn back and I look, will I be proud of this? Or will I be ashamed of what I'm doing right now? Doesn't matter what other people say. But you should not do anything that you will feel ashamed of. Isn't it so? It doesn't matter, people say so many things. Everybody has an opinion, it's their business. But you don't do something that you will feel ashamed of, isn't it? Then you're turning against yourself. Somebody turns against you, you can leave them and go somewhere else. If you turn against yourself, you'll have to live with it forever. So, this is all you have to look at it. Something will get you money, something will get you comfort. That's not the point. What you choose to do, will it give you a life? When I say, give you a life, are you just trying to make a living or are you trying to make a life out of this? It's important. Making a living is not an issue. A worm, an insect, a bird, an animal, all of them are making their life, making a living, isn't it so? They're even making a life out of it. But definitely they're making a living. So making a living with such a big brain is not an issue. Earning your food is not an issue. Making a living is not an issue. Only problem is, you want to live like somebody else. That's an endless problem. I want to live, is not a problem. I want to live like you, this is a problem. So, it is important, if you consider your life as a precious life, you must make sure you make a wonderful life out of this. Whatever opens up in that direction, that is the thing you should do.

August 16, 2020

3:10

Should I listen to my head or my heart?


August 15, 2020

Why should children learn Yoga?

Transcript: See everybody can drive a car today. But not everybody can hold the car on the road at 200km/hr. They'll fly off. Because for that you need a lot of understanding, of how the machine functions. Similarly, if you function at a rudimentary level in your life, everybody will eat, sleep, reproduce, and die. But if you want to raise a human being to a higher level of function, then there has to be a more...

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... profound understanding and perception of who we are and how we function. So this is what yoga is. If we bring this at an early age, free of all cultural trappings we can bring it. In such a way that it's purely scientific and logically correct way of doing things. If we bring this across the world into every child's life, you will definitely find a more peaceful and joyful adults as they grow up. Why is this important? There is substantial, medical, and scientific evidence that only when you're peaceful and joyful, does your body and mind function at its best. If you want to be successful, your body and your mind should function at its best. There's no question about it. This, at least this much must happen to every child. If this has to happen, it is important that children do not form strong ideas about anything. That their life remains a possibility to explore their life, throughout their life. The aspect of exploration should remain alive. The aspect of having a certain sense of wonder to everything that we see, must be there. By believing things, by attaching, or identifying with certain ideologies and philosophies, we become dead sure about everything. When we become dead sure about everything, if somebody else believes something else, then clashes will happen. The fundamental aspect of education is to expand our horizons. Unfortunately, it's just working the reverse way. Simply because we are putting set ideas into children's minds. So yoga will undo that damage. That it will not allow a human mind to become established in that way. This means. What this fundamentally means is, the nature of existence is uncertain. In this uncertainty, you're trying to create false sense of certainty. Either you simply, falsely believe that this ocean is going to be always calm like this, and I'm going to say lower this. Or, you learn to navigate through a violent, unpredictable ocean. You learn to navigate through that. Either you're equipped for it, or you're not. So yoga is that aspect which clearly celebrates the uncertainties of life. We are not trying to create a certainty. We're just trying to equip ourselves to handle uncertainty.

Transcript: See everybody can drive a car today. But not everybody can hold the car on the road at 200km/hr. They'll...

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... fly off. Because for that you need a lot of understanding, of how the machine functions. Similarly, if you function at a rudimentary level in your life, everybody will eat, sleep, reproduce, and die. But if you want to raise a human being to a higher level of function, then there has to be a more profound understanding and perception of who we are and how we function. So this is what yoga is. If we bring this at an early age, free of all cultural trappings we can bring it. In such a way that it's purely scientific and logically correct way of doing things. If we bring this across the world into every child's life, you will definitely find a more peaceful and joyful adults as they grow up. Why is this important? There is substantial, medical, and scientific evidence that only when you're peaceful and joyful, does your body and mind function at its best. If you want to be successful, your body and your mind should function at its best. There's no question about it. This, at least this much must happen to every child. If this has to happen, it is important that children do not form strong ideas about anything. That their life remains a possibility to explore their life, throughout their life. The aspect of exploration should remain alive. The aspect of having a certain sense of wonder to everything that we see, must be there. By believing things, by attaching, or identifying with certain ideologies and philosophies, we become dead sure about everything. When we become dead sure about everything, if somebody else believes something else, then clashes will happen. The fundamental aspect of education is to expand our horizons. Unfortunately, it's just working the reverse way. Simply because we are putting set ideas into children's minds. So yoga will undo that damage. That it will not allow a human mind to become established in that way. This means. What this fundamentally means is, the nature of existence is uncertain. In this uncertainty, you're trying to create false sense of certainty. Either you simply, falsely believe that this ocean is going to be always calm like this, and I'm going to say lower this. Or, you learn to navigate through a violent, unpredictable ocean. You learn to navigate through that. Either you're equipped for it, or you're not. So yoga is that aspect which clearly celebrates the uncertainties of life. We are not trying to create a certainty. We're just trying to equip ourselves to handle uncertainty.

August 14, 2020

3:25

How do I know what to do and what not to do?

Transcript: Vairagya means. It is not, Vairagya does not mean giving up your life and going somewhere. There's nowhere to go, unless you go with that guy, outer space. They're going to send you out with a one-way ticket I believe. Otherwise, where is there to go? Wherever you go, it's still life, isn't it? So, Vairagya means this. Literally means, Vairagya means beyond colour. That means you become transparent....

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... If you're transparent, every dimension of life can pass through you. But leaves you untouched. You can handle life to the extent you wish. What you can handle, you handle. What you cannot handle, you don't. But, in your life, if you do not do what you cannot do, that's not an issue. But if you do not do what you can do, you're a disaster. The moment you think something is good, something is bad, somebody is high, somebody is low, many many things that you can do, you will not do in your life. Simply because you think it's bad. Simply because you think it's low, or high, or whatever nonsense. So in our lives, it is most important, because it's a brief life. It's a limited amount of time for the human potential to flower. In this life, here if you're choosing what to do and what not to do, no. Everything that you can do, must happen. What you cannot do, it doesn't happen, it's okay. Right now this is the problem, you're looking up to some people, looking down on some people, and trying to be humble with them. There's no need to be humble. Treat everybody as rough as you treat yourself. That is, if you're treating yourself rough. If you're pandering to yourself, try with others. Then you'll get tired, then you'll treat them rough anyway. Yes? So, this is simple. Never look up to anybody, never look down at anybody. Just see everything the way it is. This is the fundamental of this culture. If you go to the temple, what do you do? What do you do? If you ever go to the temple, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a man, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a woman, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a tree, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a rock, what do you do? Namaskaram. Akka, snake, donkey, monkey. Everybody namaskaram. Because, fundamentally this is what it means. This is called Vairagya.

Transcript: Vairagya means. It is not, Vairagya does not mean giving up your life and going somewhere. There's nowhere...

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... to go, unless you go with that guy, outer space. They're going to send you out with a one-way ticket I believe. Otherwise, where is there to go? Wherever you go, it's still life, isn't it? So, Vairagya means this. Literally means, Vairagya means beyond colour. That means you become transparent. If you're transparent, every dimension of life can pass through you. But leaves you untouched. You can handle life to the extent you wish. What you can handle, you handle. What you cannot handle, you don't. But, in your life, if you do not do what you cannot do, that's not an issue. But if you do not do what you can do, you're a disaster. The moment you think something is good, something is bad, somebody is high, somebody is low, many many things that you can do, you will not do in your life. Simply because you think it's bad. Simply because you think it's low, or high, or whatever nonsense. So in our lives, it is most important, because it's a brief life. It's a limited amount of time for the human potential to flower. In this life, here if you're choosing what to do and what not to do, no. Everything that you can do, must happen. What you cannot do, it doesn't happen, it's okay. Right now this is the problem, you're looking up to some people, looking down on some people, and trying to be humble with them. There's no need to be humble. Treat everybody as rough as you treat yourself. That is, if you're treating yourself rough. If you're pandering to yourself, try with others. Then you'll get tired, then you'll treat them rough anyway. Yes? So, this is simple. Never look up to anybody, never look down at anybody. Just see everything the way it is. This is the fundamental of this culture. If you go to the temple, what do you do? What do you do? If you ever go to the temple, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a man, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a woman, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a tree, what do you do? Namaskaram. You see a rock, what do you do? Namaskaram. Akka, snake, donkey, monkey. Everybody namaskaram. Because, fundamentally this is what it means. This is called Vairagya.

August 12, 2020

3:05

Playfulness – Simple way of Krishna to remove all suffering

Transcript: Simple things that people take up to do in their life, after all for most of the people, 95% of the people in the world, all that they have taken a piece just to earn something for their survival. Procreate, bring up their children, that's it. Just for the small drama that they have picked up for themselves, they wanted it. A little business, or one job, a home, wife, children, husband. This is it....

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... To manage this, where they end up. Many of them end up in the insane aslyums too. Just doing the simple job, isn't it so? Yes? They have not taken up the problems of the world, they don't want to be dharmaguptas, wanting to establish dharma in the world. No such great responsibility they have taken up. Just earn their living, survive, procreate, and die. Which every creature on the planet does. For that, see where people are ending up. How many people are ending up total nuts. How many people are halfway down there. Yes? Too many people, isn't it? It is taking an unusually heavy toll. Simple life process. It is not necessary this way, but unfortunately it does go that way for many people. Simply because there is no playfulness in their way of existence. There is no playfulness in the way they live. They're too dead serious. So fundamentally, that's what Mahabharata is. That, there are all types of people. Good people, bad people, outright evil, absolutely virtuous, various types of people. If you look at it, every kind of human being that you can find in any society, they're all there in Mahabharata. The whole range of people. Greedy ones, absolutely selfless ones, fearful ones, brave ones, valiant warriors, cowards. Every kind are there. And they're all being put through a whole intense drama. And you look at each one's experience. It's very different and the way he handles it is very different, and they way he lands up in the end is very different. Through this whole drama, of all the people, Krishna is going through the maximum amount of drama. But untouched. Because he said, "Yogastha Kuru Karmani". That means, first establish yoga and then act. If you act, without establishing yourself in yoga, then your action will become an entanglement, it doesn't matter what you're doing.

Transcript: Simple things that people take up to do in their life, after all for most of the people, 95% of the people...

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... in the world, all that they have taken a piece just to earn something for their survival. Procreate, bring up their children, that's it. Just for the small drama that they have picked up for themselves, they wanted it. A little business, or one job, a home, wife, children, husband. This is it. To manage this, where they end up. Many of them end up in the insane aslyums too. Just doing the simple job, isn't it so? Yes? They have not taken up the problems of the world, they don't want to be dharmaguptas, wanting to establish dharma in the world. No such great responsibility they have taken up. Just earn their living, survive, procreate, and die. Which every creature on the planet does. For that, see where people are ending up. How many people are ending up total nuts. How many people are halfway down there. Yes? Too many people, isn't it? It is taking an unusually heavy toll. Simple life process. It is not necessary this way, but unfortunately it does go that way for many people. Simply because there is no playfulness in their way of existence. There is no playfulness in the way they live. They're too dead serious. So fundamentally, that's what Mahabharata is. That, there are all types of people. Good people, bad people, outright evil, absolutely virtuous, various types of people. If you look at it, every kind of human being that you can find in any society, they're all there in Mahabharata. The whole range of people. Greedy ones, absolutely selfless ones, fearful ones, brave ones, valiant warriors, cowards. Every kind are there. And they're all being put through a whole intense drama. And you look at each one's experience. It's very different and the way he handles it is very different, and they way he lands up in the end is very different. Through this whole drama, of all the people, Krishna is going through the maximum amount of drama. But untouched. Because he said, "Yogastha Kuru Karmani". That means, first establish yoga and then act. If you act, without establishing yourself in yoga, then your action will become an entanglement, it doesn't matter what you're doing.

August 11, 2020

3:29

Inferiority Complex – How to overcome the feeling of ‘not being good enough’

Transcript: It can happen in your work, it can happen in your family. Somebody will tell you, you're not good enough. So whether they tell you, or not, I want you to understand, none of us are ever really good enough. If you have a large scale intention in the world, you're never really good enough. So it's best that you're a failure in your life. That means your vision is large. If you're a success, you have...

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... a constipated sense of life. Success means what? I made it. What did you make? I bought a house site. Do you think that's an achievement? I got a job. I made this much money. This is a very constipated way of looking at life. I want young people to look at it in terms of how we can do something that cannot be done in this lifetime. Oh, what will happen if I don't fulfil it? If you, if you worked incessantly, and still at the end of your life the job is not done, it doesn't mean you're a failure. It means, you had a great vision. That's what it means. May you die as a failure, is that okay? Ya? You sure? Blissed out failure, that means you're doing great. Not a miserable success.

Transcript: It can happen in your work, it can happen in your family. Somebody will tell you, you're not good enough....

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... So whether they tell you, or not, I want you to understand, none of us are ever really good enough. If you have a large scale intention in the world, you're never really good enough. So it's best that you're a failure in your life. That means your vision is large. If you're a success, you have a constipated sense of life. Success means what? I made it. What did you make? I bought a house site. Do you think that's an achievement? I got a job. I made this much money. This is a very constipated way of looking at life. I want young people to look at it in terms of how we can do something that cannot be done in this lifetime. Oh, what will happen if I don't fulfil it? If you, if you worked incessantly, and still at the end of your life the job is not done, it doesn't mean you're a failure. It means, you had a great vision. That's what it means. May you die as a failure, is that okay? Ya? You sure? Blissed out failure, that means you're doing great. Not a miserable success.

August 6, 2020

1:56

Detachment is not a solution to avoid suffering

Transcript: See, this attachment, detachment business is a misunderstanding that's come out of the Gita in this country. People misunderstood Krishna like nothing. In the sense, people think Krishna is talking about detachment. Please look at his life. His life is involvement, isn't it? If you look at the scape of whatever we know about his life, whatever little we know about his life, his life spells involvement,...

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... involvement, involvement with everything around him. So this person, unfortunately, is being accused of detachment. See, if there is no involvement, there is no life. You can only know life with involvement. Even if the meal that you eat today, if you're not involved you will not know what it is. Without involvement, you cannot even taste life. Not possible. People are talking about detachment because of fear of suffering. Fear of suffering has come because when they involve, they get entangled. They do not know how to get involved, they just get entangled. Entaglement is happening because your involvement is very discriminatory. Is that sync again? So I should be equally involved in everything, is that what you're saying? I mean. Tell me, if you're less involved in your breath, and more involved in your eating, you think life will work? See, breath is involuntary, that's what, that's why I'm using the word breath. Because it's involuntary, you don't have to do anything, it's just happening. But we're involved by keeping that air conditioning on, otherwise we'll suffocate. This is our involvement, we turned on that machine. We may not be consciously breathing, alright? But we are involved. Without involvement, in every aspect of life, you will get skewed. And that is when psychologically you get messed up so much, that in many ways mind gets deranged. Seeing this, somebody said you're too attached, you must be detached. No. Detachment will not work either. Can you be detached and do something well? Can you do something well being detached about it? No. You need absolute involvement. If you have an indiscriminate sense of involvement, you will see, there is no entanglement in your involvement. If you discriminate, you'll get entangled. The problem is of discrimination. Not of involvement.

Transcript: See, this attachment, detachment business is a misunderstanding that's come out of the Gita in this country....

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... People misunderstood Krishna like nothing. In the sense, people think Krishna is talking about detachment. Please look at his life. His life is involvement, isn't it? If you look at the scape of whatever we know about his life, whatever little we know about his life, his life spells involvement, involvement, involvement with everything around him. So this person, unfortunately, is being accused of detachment. See, if there is no involvement, there is no life. You can only know life with involvement. Even if the meal that you eat today, if you're not involved you will not know what it is. Without involvement, you cannot even taste life. Not possible. People are talking about detachment because of fear of suffering. Fear of suffering has come because when they involve, they get entangled. They do not know how to get involved, they just get entangled. Entaglement is happening because your involvement is very discriminatory. Is that sync again? So I should be equally involved in everything, is that what you're saying? I mean. Tell me, if you're less involved in your breath, and more involved in your eating, you think life will work? See, breath is involuntary, that's what, that's why I'm using the word breath. Because it's involuntary, you don't have to do anything, it's just happening. But we're involved by keeping that air conditioning on, otherwise we'll suffocate. This is our involvement, we turned on that machine. We may not be consciously breathing, alright? But we are involved. Without involvement, in every aspect of life, you will get skewed. And that is when psychologically you get messed up so much, that in many ways mind gets deranged. Seeing this, somebody said you're too attached, you must be detached. No. Detachment will not work either. Can you be detached and do something well? Can you do something well being detached about it? No. You need absolute involvement. If you have an indiscriminate sense of involvement, you will see, there is no entanglement in your involvement. If you discriminate, you'll get entangled. The problem is of discrimination. Not of involvement.

August 5, 2020

3:03

To live a full fledged life you must create an atmosphere of trust around you

Transcript: The walls that you build for self-preservation are also the walls of self-imprisonment. If you build a wall to protect yourself today, after some time, this is your prison. Isn't it? I've been always encouraging people to say, yes and yes, for everything. Yes or no, if I ask. People around me always say, "Sadhguru, it's always yes. Tell us what." So for you to say an absolute yes to everything, one...

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... important thing is, you must create an atmosphere of integrity and trust. If you create an atmosphere of absolute integrity and trust, all of us can say absoulte yes. When we know nobody will misuse our yes, we can all say 100% yes for everything, isn't it? That's what we should strive for. If it's not possible in the whole world, at least we must create small circles where we can say yes and there is no problem. Nobody misuses the yes. Very important. Very important for healthy unfolding of every, life that you need at least a small cocoon of life around you where you can be a total yes. Without fear of favour, you can be an absolute yes. This you must create. If you don't create this, you will always live in fear. Being exploited is one thing. Living in a fear of exploitation is actually more damaging than exploitation itself. If we do not do this, then we will always live in walls. No is a wall, isn't it? No is a wall. Yes is a doorway. Isn't it? If you open your door, a devil could come in, or the divine could come in. The fear that devil may come in, if you close the door, you have also closed the door for the divine. What an unfortunate life. Yes or no? You've not only closed your door to negativity, you closed your door to everything because some negativity once came through your door. Don't do that to yourself. Once you live here, there are dangers of life, of course. But, because there are dangers to life, if you close all possibilities to life, that'll become a very absurd and sad life.

Transcript: The walls that you build for self-preservation are also the walls of self-imprisonment. If you build...

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... a wall to protect yourself today, after some time, this is your prison. Isn't it? I've been always encouraging people to say, yes and yes, for everything. Yes or no, if I ask. People around me always say, "Sadhguru, it's always yes. Tell us what." So for you to say an absolute yes to everything, one important thing is, you must create an atmosphere of integrity and trust. If you create an atmosphere of absolute integrity and trust, all of us can say absoulte yes. When we know nobody will misuse our yes, we can all say 100% yes for everything, isn't it? That's what we should strive for. If it's not possible in the whole world, at least we must create small circles where we can say yes and there is no problem. Nobody misuses the yes. Very important. Very important for healthy unfolding of every, life that you need at least a small cocoon of life around you where you can be a total yes. Without fear of favour, you can be an absolute yes. This you must create. If you don't create this, you will always live in fear. Being exploited is one thing. Living in a fear of exploitation is actually more damaging than exploitation itself. If we do not do this, then we will always live in walls. No is a wall, isn't it? No is a wall. Yes is a doorway. Isn't it? If you open your door, a devil could come in, or the divine could come in. The fear that devil may come in, if you close the door, you have also closed the door for the divine. What an unfortunate life. Yes or no? You've not only closed your door to negativity, you closed your door to everything because some negativity once came through your door. Don't do that to yourself. Once you live here, there are dangers of life, of course. But, because there are dangers to life, if you close all possibilities to life, that'll become a very absurd and sad life.

August 3, 2020

3:20

What is the right age to get into sexually oriented relationships

Transcript: Now, you need to understand that this is a time of your life when you're at the highest level of energy. At this stage in your life, if you create a certain focus and balance within yourself, this energy will translate into something fantastic. But at this stage in your life if you do not bring focus and balance and you earn it, let's say when you're 40-45, you will not have the same energy. This is...

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... something that youth don't understand. That they think this level of energy will be there all your life. No, no, no. It will pass. It is just a question of 8 to 12 to 15 years maximum. From the age of 14 to 30, there is a certain upsurge of energy. At this time, if you learn how to manage this, keep a balance and focus to your life. You bring a focus to your life, this life will function and play at a higher level of life. If you don't bring those things and you're in a hurry to live, then you will see it becomes an uphill task. Not that you won't make it at all, you may make it. But unnecessary struggles through life. So it's individual choice. If somebody has such a strong compulsion, they may go for it. Don't make it a trend. That if you're in a college you must have a body-based relationship. Not necessary. So, essentially you're asking, at what age should I go into sexually oriented relationships. Is that what you're asking? But I think, it'll be, you'll be doing a great service to yourself and to the world if you remove this boyfriend-girlfriend business and call it something else. Call them your, what? Romance, or your love affair, or whatever. Because friend, the word friend must be released from the body. It's very important. Otherwise friendships won't happen. Everybody will be like this because if I say you're my friend, she's afraid. Unnecessarily, isn't it? If I say she's my friend, she will fear, what is he upto? How is he my friend? Release the word friend from the body. It's very important. Let friendships happen all over. Well, body-based relationships happens with another individual. That's different, that's your choice. At what age? See, when you're in education, if you don't take charge of these instruments at this stage in your life, believe me, your own body, your own mind will trip you in so many ways right through your life. You won't ride them, they will ride you. That should not happen. At this stage in your life, let the focus fundamentally be on, how to grow yourself to the best possible place within yourself. Don't be in a hurry to live. Living will happen a little later. If you live too early, you will not live too well. Don't try to live too early. I'm not a moralistic person to tell you, do this, don't do this. If somebody has such a compulsive need, they can do it. But everybody need not make it a trend that if you're in college, you must have a sexually oriented relationship with somebody. There is no compulsion like that. There is no such rule that it must be so.

Transcript: Now, you need to understand that this is a time of your life when you're at the highest level of energy....

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... At this stage in your life, if you create a certain focus and balance within yourself, this energy will translate into something fantastic. But at this stage in your life if you do not bring focus and balance and you earn it, let's say when you're 40-45, you will not have the same energy. This is something that youth don't understand. That they think this level of energy will be there all your life. No, no, no. It will pass. It is just a question of 8 to 12 to 15 years maximum. From the age of 14 to 30, there is a certain upsurge of energy. At this time, if you learn how to manage this, keep a balance and focus to your life. You bring a focus to your life, this life will function and play at a higher level of life. If you don't bring those things and you're in a hurry to live, then you will see it becomes an uphill task. Not that you won't make it at all, you may make it. But unnecessary struggles through life. So it's individual choice. If somebody has such a strong compulsion, they may go for it. Don't make it a trend. That if you're in a college you must have a body-based relationship. Not necessary. So, essentially you're asking, at what age should I go into sexually oriented relationships. Is that what you're asking? But I think, it'll be, you'll be doing a great service to yourself and to the world if you remove this boyfriend-girlfriend business and call it something else. Call them your, what? Romance, or your love affair, or whatever. Because friend, the word friend must be released from the body. It's very important. Otherwise friendships won't happen. Everybody will be like this because if I say you're my friend, she's afraid. Unnecessarily, isn't it? If I say she's my friend, she will fear, what is he upto? How is he my friend? Release the word friend from the body. It's very important. Let friendships happen all over. Well, body-based relationships happens with another individual. That's different, that's your choice. At what age? See, when you're in education, if you don't take charge of these instruments at this stage in your life, believe me, your own body, your own mind will trip you in so many ways right through your life. You won't ride them, they will ride you. That should not happen. At this stage in your life, let the focus fundamentally be on, how to grow yourself to the best possible place within yourself. Don't be in a hurry to live. Living will happen a little later. If you live too early, you will not live too well. Don't try to live too early. I'm not a moralistic person to tell you, do this, don't do this. If somebody has such a compulsive need, they can do it. But everybody need not make it a trend that if you're in college, you must have a sexually oriented relationship with somebody. There is no compulsion like that. There is no such rule that it must be so.

August 2, 2020

3:48

Parenting Tips: How to parent a teenager

We have started looking at every situation that we cannot handle as a problem! Sadhguru says - "Whatever you cannot handle, you call a problem, rather than seeing it is only a situation and trying to equip yourself to handle it. The moment you call it a problem, unpleasantness is a natural consequence." He shared 5 simple tips for parenting a teenager. #1 Be a good friend. #2 Make them responsible. #3 Stop eulogizing helplessness. #4 Don't "own" them. Include them. #5 Do something about yourself.

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September 16, 2020

9 min read

Does positive thinking work?

Positive thinking is dangerous! Sadhguru says - "The nature of the mind is such that if you say, 'I do not want this,' only that will happen in your mind. If you say, 'I do not want the negative,' only that will happen." Instead of looking at things as positive and negative, we should essentially be looking at the situation and act accordingly. Sadhguru explains, that the who existence is happening between two dualities - "What you refer to as positive and negative is: masculine and feminine, light and darkness, day and night. Without this, how will life happen? It is like saying you do not want death, you want only life – there is no such thing. Only because there is death there is life. Only because there is darkness there is light. It is just that you should not allow the negative to overwhelm you. Let both of them be there and see how to make both of them productive."

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September 11, 2020

7 min read

What are the qualities of a good teacher?

In the Indian culture we say "acharya devo bhava" - that means 'teacher is like god'! Even in contemporary time, though all knowledge is available on the internet, still teacher has a significant role to play in the nurturing of a child. The kind of influence the child goes through in the first 15 years, will determine the kind of human being that the child will turn out to be. The qualities of a good teacher - intelligence, integrity and inspiration!

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September 4, 2020

5 min read

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