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What is the right kind of education for our children?
Transcript: About education to children, I always feel more than right to education, there has to be a right kind of education. India is intellectually poor at the moment. What is your take on it? India is not, definitely not poor in intellect. I would say, I speak to all kinds of people around the world, business leaders, academics, scientists. But still I would say, pick up 100 people from the street, just like...
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... that either in Mumbai or Chennai or Bangalore. I would say they are way smarter than most people that you can pick up anywhere in the world. It is just that we do not have an organization for this intellect to find expression. For this enormous intellect that country has, there is no structures for people to find expression to that. You just see, take Indian people and put them anywhere, they're just on the tops. Because once they find proper structures and they understand the structure, you can't stop them because there is a necessary intellect. This is a consequence of a very huge history, a cultural history that we have. It is time that this generation gets the right stuff. But that's not happened yet because our education systems and every system that we had, has been disrupted badly in a systematic way because we've been an occupied nation for nearly a thousand years. In 1947, when we got our independence, we should have seriously thought about what kind of education does India need. We must understand this, without any infrastructure, literally without infrastructure, without any kind of education, our farmers are producing food for 1.25 billion people. This is knowledge. Why is this not knowledge? I'm asking, why is this not knowledge? Why is this not competence? This is a nation with over 12,000 years of agricultural history, the only land like that on the planet. But we have tried to push everything aside and reinvent the wheel. Once again we want to learn abc and do it like this. So, there is a disruption in the intrinsic learning that we have and the school learning that is coming to us. We are thinking only what is written in the book, a plus b equals c is only knowledge. Why is not making a wonderful sambar knowledge? Why is not growing a crop knowledge? Why is not making a pot knowledge? We have very constipated sense of what is knowledge.
Transcript: About education to children, I always feel more than right to education, there has to be a right kind...
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... of education. India is intellectually poor at the moment. What is your take on it? India is not, definitely not poor in intellect. I would say, I speak to all kinds of people around the world, business leaders, academics, scientists. But still I would say, pick up 100 people from the street, just like that either in Mumbai or Chennai or Bangalore. I would say they are way smarter than most people that you can pick up anywhere in the world. It is just that we do not have an organization for this intellect to find expression. For this enormous intellect that country has, there is no structures for people to find expression to that. You just see, take Indian people and put them anywhere, they're just on the tops. Because once they find proper structures and they understand the structure, you can't stop them because there is a necessary intellect. This is a consequence of a very huge history, a cultural history that we have. It is time that this generation gets the right stuff. But that's not happened yet because our education systems and every system that we had, has been disrupted badly in a systematic way because we've been an occupied nation for nearly a thousand years. In 1947, when we got our independence, we should have seriously thought about what kind of education does India need. We must understand this, without any infrastructure, literally without infrastructure, without any kind of education, our farmers are producing food for 1.25 billion people. This is knowledge. Why is this not knowledge? I'm asking, why is this not knowledge? Why is this not competence? This is a nation with over 12,000 years of agricultural history, the only land like that on the planet. But we have tried to push everything aside and reinvent the wheel. Once again we want to learn abc and do it like this. So, there is a disruption in the intrinsic learning that we have and the school learning that is coming to us. We are thinking only what is written in the book, a plus b equals c is only knowledge. Why is not making a wonderful sambar knowledge? Why is not growing a crop knowledge? Why is not making a pot knowledge? We have very constipated sense of what is knowledge.
December 27, 2020
3:27
Your children doesn’t need a boss, they need a friend
Transcript: Now you're saying achieving your full potential is not happiness, how did this happen? See, tell me what is the greatest pleasure in your life? Moments of accomplishment, success. Yes or no? Is it so or no? It could be in personal life, it could be in professional life, it could be in social life, but when you get to do something well that is when you're happy, isn't it? It could be a small thing,...
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... it could be a big thing, it may be a great activity, or it may be you just hit the ball straight, you know the amount of joy. A lot of people are not coming home from the golf course because they hit it straight one day. So the question is not about this or that. In human life, the purpose of activity is success. Any activity. If you perform some activity, you want to do it successfully, isn't it? Don't think your children don't have it, they also have it. Only thing is because you are nagging them continuously, they want to do something just reverse. Because reverse they understand as revolution. Don't push them into that revolution. If they have to evolve, you have to show evolution. You have to exhibit evolution because your children don't listen to the nonsense that you speak, they're observing how you live. I want you, today, to put yourself through serious audit and make yourself tomorrow morning the way your children would love you. Your child doesn't need a boss, your child needs a friend. Tell me when you were growing up, if you had some issues and problems within yourself, did you first go to your parents or to your friends? Friends. Unfortunate, isn't it? Unqualified advice will happen among the friends. If you were their friend, real friend, not the boss that everybody is trying to be. If you are a genuine friend to your child, he or she would come to you first. That would be great, isn't it? Please make that happen.
Transcript: Now you're saying achieving your full potential is not happiness, how did this happen? See, tell me what...
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... is the greatest pleasure in your life? Moments of accomplishment, success. Yes or no? Is it so or no? It could be in personal life, it could be in professional life, it could be in social life, but when you get to do something well that is when you're happy, isn't it? It could be a small thing, it could be a big thing, it may be a great activity, or it may be you just hit the ball straight, you know the amount of joy. A lot of people are not coming home from the golf course because they hit it straight one day. So the question is not about this or that. In human life, the purpose of activity is success. Any activity. If you perform some activity, you want to do it successfully, isn't it? Don't think your children don't have it, they also have it. Only thing is because you are nagging them continuously, they want to do something just reverse. Because reverse they understand as revolution. Don't push them into that revolution. If they have to evolve, you have to show evolution. You have to exhibit evolution because your children don't listen to the nonsense that you speak, they're observing how you live. I want you, today, to put yourself through serious audit and make yourself tomorrow morning the way your children would love you. Your child doesn't need a boss, your child needs a friend. Tell me when you were growing up, if you had some issues and problems within yourself, did you first go to your parents or to your friends? Friends. Unfortunate, isn't it? Unqualified advice will happen among the friends. If you were their friend, real friend, not the boss that everybody is trying to be. If you are a genuine friend to your child, he or she would come to you first. That would be great, isn't it? Please make that happen.
December 16, 2020
2:53
Parenting tip – How to make my child look up to me?
Transcript: A child, in many ways, is an impression of all the adults who impact his life. Particularly the parents, teachers, and others. If you want your children to be of a certain quality, the foremost thing that you need to pay attention to is, are you exuding that quality? What endears a child to everyone is that he's an exuberant life and a bundle of joy most of the time. Unless you cause misery to him....
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... If you want to nurture a child, you must be far more exuberant than the child and much more joyful, then the child is drawn to you. Once the child is drawn to you, it's for you to mould the child as you want. Right now, most children avoid adults because most of them are not exuberant by any standards, neither joyful. Mostly stressed and complaining about their work, about their family, about the world, about everything. Why would a child want to do anything with you when child sees you don't represent life, you represent some other vested interest? If you're interested in really being an impact on your children, you must represent life because they're just life. They have not become other conceited things as you could have. They're simply life. You must represent life. Feeding up on so-called inanimate things like food, water, and air. Life is an exuberant expression of existence. If you do not represent that exuberance, if you do not show that exuberance in your work, in your relaxation, in everything that you do and do not do, then your child will be least impacted by you. And that is a good thing, because if you're so dead serious about your life, and you represent other vested interests of your money, or your status, or your prestige, or something like this, then it is best that the child is not impacted by these things. So if you're really concerned about impacting your child, what is it that your child want to be? Please become that to start with.
Transcript: A child, in many ways, is an impression of all the adults who impact his life. Particularly the parents,...
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... teachers, and others. If you want your children to be of a certain quality, the foremost thing that you need to pay attention to is, are you exuding that quality? What endears a child to everyone is that he's an exuberant life and a bundle of joy most of the time. Unless you cause misery to him. If you want to nurture a child, you must be far more exuberant than the child and much more joyful, then the child is drawn to you. Once the child is drawn to you, it's for you to mould the child as you want. Right now, most children avoid adults because most of them are not exuberant by any standards, neither joyful. Mostly stressed and complaining about their work, about their family, about the world, about everything. Why would a child want to do anything with you when child sees you don't represent life, you represent some other vested interest? If you're interested in really being an impact on your children, you must represent life because they're just life. They have not become other conceited things as you could have. They're simply life. You must represent life. Feeding up on so-called inanimate things like food, water, and air. Life is an exuberant expression of existence. If you do not represent that exuberance, if you do not show that exuberance in your work, in your relaxation, in everything that you do and do not do, then your child will be least impacted by you. And that is a good thing, because if you're so dead serious about your life, and you represent other vested interests of your money, or your status, or your prestige, or something like this, then it is best that the child is not impacted by these things. So if you're really concerned about impacting your child, what is it that your child want to be? Please become that to start with.
December 4, 2020
3:21
How to develop a child’s brain in the womb?
Transcript: The intelligence of the body is such, if you already do not know this, if a woman delivers a male child, the quality of the milk that she produces is in a certain way. If she delivers a female child, the quality of the milk is totally different. If she delivers twins, one male and one female, one breast will ooze certain type of milk, another breast will ooze another kind of milk. This is the level...
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... of intelligence invested in this body. We have to treat it with that much care. This is not some crude machinery. This is the finest piece of technology on the planet, isn't it? Yes or no? This is the finest thing. In the entire evolutionary scale, these millions of years of work that nature did to produce this. But, in our desperation for economic well-being, I think we are not paying the kind of attention that this needs. The kind of care that this needs so that this can function at the highest level. And, can also produce human beings for the future, who are of a certain kind. So how to develop the brain when they're in the womb. It's very important that the atmosphere in which the child is growing up is kept in a certain way. With least amount of disturbance, right kind of reverberations, right kind of sounds, right kind of food, everything. Today, they're barely nourished, the pregnant women in most part of the country. They're barely nourished, where is the question of right kind of vibrations, right kind of atmospheres? One thing we can do for this is, every home, if possible, every working place, we can have a consecrated space. Today, slowly they're coming up with instruments which can measure the reverberations of certain objects. We can create consecrated spaces, or we can create consecrated objects which, at least at that time, she can carry upon her body. So that, kind of, to some extent, it's not the best solution, to some extent it neutralizes the outside impact to whatever extent possible. Or if she lives in a home, the place where she sleeps and other things are taken care of. Some amount of respite can be there for that new life which is blossoming within the womb.
Transcript: The intelligence of the body is such, if you already do not know this, if a woman delivers a male child,...
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... the quality of the milk that she produces is in a certain way. If she delivers a female child, the quality of the milk is totally different. If she delivers twins, one male and one female, one breast will ooze certain type of milk, another breast will ooze another kind of milk. This is the level of intelligence invested in this body. We have to treat it with that much care. This is not some crude machinery. This is the finest piece of technology on the planet, isn't it? Yes or no? This is the finest thing. In the entire evolutionary scale, these millions of years of work that nature did to produce this. But, in our desperation for economic well-being, I think we are not paying the kind of attention that this needs. The kind of care that this needs so that this can function at the highest level. And, can also produce human beings for the future, who are of a certain kind. So how to develop the brain when they're in the womb. It's very important that the atmosphere in which the child is growing up is kept in a certain way. With least amount of disturbance, right kind of reverberations, right kind of sounds, right kind of food, everything. Today, they're barely nourished, the pregnant women in most part of the country. They're barely nourished, where is the question of right kind of vibrations, right kind of atmospheres? One thing we can do for this is, every home, if possible, every working place, we can have a consecrated space. Today, slowly they're coming up with instruments which can measure the reverberations of certain objects. We can create consecrated spaces, or we can create consecrated objects which, at least at that time, she can carry upon her body. So that, kind of, to some extent, it's not the best solution, to some extent it neutralizes the outside impact to whatever extent possible. Or if she lives in a home, the place where she sleeps and other things are taken care of. Some amount of respite can be there for that new life which is blossoming within the womb.
October 6, 2020
2:55
Do outside influences during pregnancy affect the baby?
Transcript: If you do not know this. Maybe Northern part of the country it's largely, almost gone totally, in South it's still little alive in the villages, but there also it's wiped out quite a bit. If you do not know this, from preconception to conception to various stages of pregnancy, and delivering, and as long as the mother is feeding the child, there's an entire established process in this country. As to...
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... how a woman should be, what should she do, what kind of people she should interact with, what kind of forms she should look at, what kind of forms she should not look at, what kind of sounds she should hear, what kind of sounds she should not hear. All this was very much there. But, we must also understand, life has changed. Today women are going to work. They have to get into that horrible bus, where they're pushed around. It doesn't matter she's pregnant. And all kinds of things. All kinds of fumes, all kinds of sounds, all kinds of noises, all kinds of abuse. Every kind of thing is happening to her. In some way, we're doing that to the child also. There is no job in the country, or in the world, where you can take off for one and a half years and get back to the job to fulfill this. For various reasons, we are not taking the business of manufacturing the next generation of people with sufficient care. We are not paying enough attention to it, for which we will pay a price. Over a period of time we will pay an immense price for that. But, we're definitely not taking enough care about it in the entire world, not just in this country. Because, we have got all kinds of social situations which do not allow that space for a woman to dedicate that kind of time and attention. See, being pregnant is not just about reproduction. We're literally manufacturing the next generation of people. Isn't it? Is it not important, of all the products that you produce on this planet, is it not most important that we produce wonderful human beings for the future generation? Is it not the most important? But, we have created a social situation, and an economic situation, where there is no such possibility to take care of these things. To whatever extent individual women, or individual families can take care of it, they can take care of it. But for the larger society, it is out of question because things have changed. You can't turn it back just like that.
Transcript: If you do not know this. Maybe Northern part of the country it's largely, almost gone totally, in South...
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... it's still little alive in the villages, but there also it's wiped out quite a bit. If you do not know this, from preconception to conception to various stages of pregnancy, and delivering, and as long as the mother is feeding the child, there's an entire established process in this country. As to how a woman should be, what should she do, what kind of people she should interact with, what kind of forms she should look at, what kind of forms she should not look at, what kind of sounds she should hear, what kind of sounds she should not hear. All this was very much there. But, we must also understand, life has changed. Today women are going to work. They have to get into that horrible bus, where they're pushed around. It doesn't matter she's pregnant. And all kinds of things. All kinds of fumes, all kinds of sounds, all kinds of noises, all kinds of abuse. Every kind of thing is happening to her. In some way, we're doing that to the child also. There is no job in the country, or in the world, where you can take off for one and a half years and get back to the job to fulfill this. For various reasons, we are not taking the business of manufacturing the next generation of people with sufficient care. We are not paying enough attention to it, for which we will pay a price. Over a period of time we will pay an immense price for that. But, we're definitely not taking enough care about it in the entire world, not just in this country. Because, we have got all kinds of social situations which do not allow that space for a woman to dedicate that kind of time and attention. See, being pregnant is not just about reproduction. We're literally manufacturing the next generation of people. Isn't it? Is it not important, of all the products that you produce on this planet, is it not most important that we produce wonderful human beings for the future generation? Is it not the most important? But, we have created a social situation, and an economic situation, where there is no such possibility to take care of these things. To whatever extent individual women, or individual families can take care of it, they can take care of it. But for the larger society, it is out of question because things have changed. You can't turn it back just like that.
October 3, 2020
3:05
How to be with your child?
Transcript: So whenever a child enters people's lives, they always think, it's time to teach. No. When a child enters your life, it's time to learn. Because, between you and your child, who is more joyful? So who should be a consultant for life? Definitely he's better qualified than you, isn't it? You have to teach him a few survival skills that he will learn anyway. You can also guide him a little bit. But when...
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... it comes to life, he's able to make any simple situation a joyful situation. So definitely he must be the consultant for life, isn't it? It doesn't matter how glum you are, if you have a child in your house, unknowingly you will laugh. Unknowingly you will play. Unknowingly you will dance. Unknowingly you will crawl under the sofa. These are not things you have done for a long time. So, the most important thing is, don't infect the child with what you call as adulthood. This is not adulthood, okay? This is just suicide in installments. With anything he can make a situation wonderful for himself. It doesn't matter what. You give him a piece of wood, with that he makes his life for the whole afternoon, isn't it? You have to learn to live like him. And, see when you were growing up, whatever problems you had, did you go to your parents or to your friends? Whom did you share it with? Friends. Why is it that parents, who have been with the children right from day 1, can't be good friends? You just have to get off your pedestal. That's the most important thing. And then be a friend. If he has anything, you should be the first person that they share with, isn't it? Yes? That's a very important safety net for the child. It doesn't matter what their problem is, if you leave that level of openness and friendship with them, if they come to you first, there is every possibility that they won't get lost on something, isn't it? Especially, in a society like this, where the moment the child steps out, you don't know what influences are going to catch him up. The most important thing is this, that parents should get off their pedestal and start treating them as equals. This has to happen right from childhood, you know. That he never sees you as somebody who is pushing him around or bossing around or all the time advising him about something. That you are very much a friend, he can talk to you and you talk to him as an equal. If this is maintained right from the beginning, when he is developing and there are possibilities and that he is taking wrong steps and things like that, you will be the first person he comes to. That is something we have to build, isn't it?
Transcript: So whenever a child enters people's lives, they always think, it's time to teach. No. When a child enters...
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... your life, it's time to learn. Because, between you and your child, who is more joyful? So who should be a consultant for life? Definitely he's better qualified than you, isn't it? You have to teach him a few survival skills that he will learn anyway. You can also guide him a little bit. But when it comes to life, he's able to make any simple situation a joyful situation. So definitely he must be the consultant for life, isn't it? It doesn't matter how glum you are, if you have a child in your house, unknowingly you will laugh. Unknowingly you will play. Unknowingly you will dance. Unknowingly you will crawl under the sofa. These are not things you have done for a long time. So, the most important thing is, don't infect the child with what you call as adulthood. This is not adulthood, okay? This is just suicide in installments. With anything he can make a situation wonderful for himself. It doesn't matter what. You give him a piece of wood, with that he makes his life for the whole afternoon, isn't it? You have to learn to live like him. And, see when you were growing up, whatever problems you had, did you go to your parents or to your friends? Whom did you share it with? Friends. Why is it that parents, who have been with the children right from day 1, can't be good friends? You just have to get off your pedestal. That's the most important thing. And then be a friend. If he has anything, you should be the first person that they share with, isn't it? Yes? That's a very important safety net for the child. It doesn't matter what their problem is, if you leave that level of openness and friendship with them, if they come to you first, there is every possibility that they won't get lost on something, isn't it? Especially, in a society like this, where the moment the child steps out, you don't know what influences are going to catch him up. The most important thing is this, that parents should get off their pedestal and start treating them as equals. This has to happen right from childhood, you know. That he never sees you as somebody who is pushing him around or bossing around or all the time advising him about something. That you are very much a friend, he can talk to you and you talk to him as an equal. If this is maintained right from the beginning, when he is developing and there are possibilities and that he is taking wrong steps and things like that, you will be the first person he comes to. That is something we have to build, isn't it?
October 2, 2020
3:12
How to become a good parent?
Transcript: Fundamentally we must understand, life needs nurture, atmosphere. Not fixing. Nothing to be fixed about it. It just needs an atmosphere where it will flourish best. What grows in Southern California will not grow in Minnesota, isn't it? That kind of life needs that kind of atmosphere, that kind of nurture. Only then it'll happen. So this is something that we have to pay attention to. There is no involvement....
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... We want everything ready-made, we are looking at a ready-made solution. There's no ready-made solution to life. Life can only happen with enormouse involvement. There's simply no other way to do it. Where there is no involvement, there is no experience of life. Isn't it? Hello? Whether it's a simple food that you eat, or something that you look at, or who you live with, or what you do, or at the highest level whatever you'll do in your life. Without involvement, there is no life. But right now, modern societies are trying to do life with information, not with involvement. This is a big mistake. You have no information about your child. You can go to all the variety of doctors and get all their ideas about what your child is. All they will tell you is that he is sick in a hundred different ways. Okay? No, you don't need any information about your child, you need involvement. With involvement, you will bring that life to its best. It need not be as good as somebody else, or as bad as somebody else, because it's a unique life. Is there one life like another? It's a unique life. But, right from day 1 we are comparing it to another life and trying to make it like that one. This is a very cruel process for the child. The child never understands what the hell the parents want. I never understood. Nobody ever explained to me, why the hell I should go to school. So I never went. Because nobody explained to me why I have to go to school. They said, no no, you have to go to school. Why? I'm doing fine. Why should I go to school? No, because we think information is going to transform us. No. Information facilitates a few things. But it's involvement which transforms us, isn't it? Absolute involvement in something, it doesn't matter what it is. Total involvement with something, suddenly you find that human being is of a different nature, isn't it? So, that's all it takes. Involvement.
Transcript: Fundamentally we must understand, life needs nurture, atmosphere. Not fixing. Nothing to be fixed about...
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... it. It just needs an atmosphere where it will flourish best. What grows in Southern California will not grow in Minnesota, isn't it? That kind of life needs that kind of atmosphere, that kind of nurture. Only then it'll happen. So this is something that we have to pay attention to. There is no involvement. We want everything ready-made, we are looking at a ready-made solution. There's no ready-made solution to life. Life can only happen with enormouse involvement. There's simply no other way to do it. Where there is no involvement, there is no experience of life. Isn't it? Hello? Whether it's a simple food that you eat, or something that you look at, or who you live with, or what you do, or at the highest level whatever you'll do in your life. Without involvement, there is no life. But right now, modern societies are trying to do life with information, not with involvement. This is a big mistake. You have no information about your child. You can go to all the variety of doctors and get all their ideas about what your child is. All they will tell you is that he is sick in a hundred different ways. Okay? No, you don't need any information about your child, you need involvement. With involvement, you will bring that life to its best. It need not be as good as somebody else, or as bad as somebody else, because it's a unique life. Is there one life like another? It's a unique life. But, right from day 1 we are comparing it to another life and trying to make it like that one. This is a very cruel process for the child. The child never understands what the hell the parents want. I never understood. Nobody ever explained to me, why the hell I should go to school. So I never went. Because nobody explained to me why I have to go to school. They said, no no, you have to go to school. Why? I'm doing fine. Why should I go to school? No, because we think information is going to transform us. No. Information facilitates a few things. But it's involvement which transforms us, isn't it? Absolute involvement in something, it doesn't matter what it is. Total involvement with something, suddenly you find that human being is of a different nature, isn't it? So, that's all it takes. Involvement.
September 27, 2020
3:13
How to bring up your children
Transcript: We must understand this, a child is not an industrial product. A child is a life, a fresh life. You are supposed to nurture this life. It's not that you put it through some kind of an industrial process called a school. It's like an industry. Everybody is taught the same damn thing, everybody is supposed to go through the same thing. And come out the same way and find a job and serve something, somewhere....
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... This is not what human life is about. There is an innate genius in every human being. Do we have the patience and the commitment and the dedication to pay the necessary attention to bring that out in a specific human being? That's a big question. Otherwise, you will produce dumplings. All the same. Okay? So, once you have a child, before you have a child, you must understand. A child means a 20 year project, full on. That is if they do well. If they don't do well, it's a lifelong project. Because it's a life. One life may blossom at 12, another may blossom at 40. Do you have the patience to nurture that life? Or have you already set the thing, by the time you finish high school you must be in this university, that university, you must be doing this or that? It's all fixed up. Common prescription for all life. This is what we're doing, this is supposed to be civilization. This is not civilization, this is just escape from life. We want to escape the fundamental process of life. In tribal societies and other traditional societies, even today, nobody expects a man or a woman has to become like this at a certain time. Depending on each life, how they progress, everybody is valued for who they are. If you plant this chrysanthemum in your house, in three months it's full of flowers. If you plant an oak tree, 80 years, 10 years, nothing happens. So you want to chop it down? Hello? None of them would be. If you went by these standards, see this one, how well it is doing, in three months how many flowers. You fool you're doing nothing. This is not the way to handle life, isn't it? This is not an industrial product.
Transcript: We must understand this, a child is not an industrial product. A child is a life, a fresh life. You are...
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... supposed to nurture this life. It's not that you put it through some kind of an industrial process called a school. It's like an industry. Everybody is taught the same damn thing, everybody is supposed to go through the same thing. And come out the same way and find a job and serve something, somewhere. This is not what human life is about. There is an innate genius in every human being. Do we have the patience and the commitment and the dedication to pay the necessary attention to bring that out in a specific human being? That's a big question. Otherwise, you will produce dumplings. All the same. Okay? So, once you have a child, before you have a child, you must understand. A child means a 20 year project, full on. That is if they do well. If they don't do well, it's a lifelong project. Because it's a life. One life may blossom at 12, another may blossom at 40. Do you have the patience to nurture that life? Or have you already set the thing, by the time you finish high school you must be in this university, that university, you must be doing this or that? It's all fixed up. Common prescription for all life. This is what we're doing, this is supposed to be civilization. This is not civilization, this is just escape from life. We want to escape the fundamental process of life. In tribal societies and other traditional societies, even today, nobody expects a man or a woman has to become like this at a certain time. Depending on each life, how they progress, everybody is valued for who they are. If you plant this chrysanthemum in your house, in three months it's full of flowers. If you plant an oak tree, 80 years, 10 years, nothing happens. So you want to chop it down? Hello? None of them would be. If you went by these standards, see this one, how well it is doing, in three months how many flowers. You fool you're doing nothing. This is not the way to handle life, isn't it? This is not an industrial product.
September 26, 2020
3:05
Go here for your next vacation – especially if you have children
Transcript: If you can find a place where there are no sounds of machines and your cell phone will not ting ting. Quietly if you can listen to the sound of the trees, the breeze, the water. Just the natural sounds. If you pay enough attention, tremendous things will happen to you. Many times I've been in the South Indian, you know, their kind of tropical rainforests. The longest I've been there, through the jungle,...
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... for about 23 days alone. No any kind of support, no cell phone for sure, those days, not even a torchlight. And fourth day I ran out of the food that I was carrying. So I lived off the forest. By about the eighth day, I lost my jacket and one half of my shirt because I was chased by some animals in that whole thing. I had half a shirt and pants. And, I walked through, this is elephant country, tiger country. I saw tigers, panthers, elephants, all kinds of, wild buffaloes. Various kinds of animals. Very close quarters. But, at the end of it, when you look back, what is the biggest impact on you? It's the insects. It's in the nights, the orchestra that goes on in the rainforest. Oh my god! It's unbelievable. And the timing. Everyday, night, 2:15, means one group will stop and the other group will start. Really. Their sense of time. Everyday, exactly, by the second. One group will stop, another group will start. And you don't know what they're talking about. They're definitely talking something that you don't know, for sure. They're not just making dumb noises. So if you just sit there and listen and listen and listen and listen, slowly, you start noticing there is a pattern and an organization to this. Which is far bigger than any human symphonies that you can achieve. Far more complex and far more intense. I think it's very important for every human being. Particularly if you have children, vacation need not be Disneyland. I'm not against it, but one trip is enough. All silly stuff which excites you. Vacation should be into nature. If you can take your children, walk in a jungle, not in a resort. Just live on a mountain, expose them to nature. I will tell you, you will bring up your children not only physically healthy, mentally healthy, far more sensible and accepting and wonderful kind of human beings if they know how to. Because once you go into nature, whose son you are, whose daughter you are, what are you in the city, doesn't matter. Okay? It's very important that everybody experiences that, otherwise you start creating your own illusions as to who you are. And you start believeing it for sure.
Transcript: If you can find a place where there are no sounds of machines and your cell phone will not ting ting....
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... Quietly if you can listen to the sound of the trees, the breeze, the water. Just the natural sounds. If you pay enough attention, tremendous things will happen to you. Many times I've been in the South Indian, you know, their kind of tropical rainforests. The longest I've been there, through the jungle, for about 23 days alone. No any kind of support, no cell phone for sure, those days, not even a torchlight. And fourth day I ran out of the food that I was carrying. So I lived off the forest. By about the eighth day, I lost my jacket and one half of my shirt because I was chased by some animals in that whole thing. I had half a shirt and pants. And, I walked through, this is elephant country, tiger country. I saw tigers, panthers, elephants, all kinds of, wild buffaloes. Various kinds of animals. Very close quarters. But, at the end of it, when you look back, what is the biggest impact on you? It's the insects. It's in the nights, the orchestra that goes on in the rainforest. Oh my god! It's unbelievable. And the timing. Everyday, night, 2:15, means one group will stop and the other group will start. Really. Their sense of time. Everyday, exactly, by the second. One group will stop, another group will start. And you don't know what they're talking about. They're definitely talking something that you don't know, for sure. They're not just making dumb noises. So if you just sit there and listen and listen and listen and listen, slowly, you start noticing there is a pattern and an organization to this. Which is far bigger than any human symphonies that you can achieve. Far more complex and far more intense. I think it's very important for every human being. Particularly if you have children, vacation need not be Disneyland. I'm not against it, but one trip is enough. All silly stuff which excites you. Vacation should be into nature. If you can take your children, walk in a jungle, not in a resort. Just live on a mountain, expose them to nature. I will tell you, you will bring up your children not only physically healthy, mentally healthy, far more sensible and accepting and wonderful kind of human beings if they know how to. Because once you go into nature, whose son you are, whose daughter you are, what are you in the city, doesn't matter. Okay? It's very important that everybody experiences that, otherwise you start creating your own illusions as to who you are. And you start believeing it for sure.
September 21, 2020
4:05
How much freedom should kids have?
Transcript: Full Transcript: See this idea that we have to raise our children is a very Western idea. You just have to allow them to grow. You should not raise them. You only raise cattle. You don't raise human beings. You just have to create an atmosphere of love, joy, and responsibility. In your question you used the word 'freedom'. Freedom is a bad word. You should never utter the word freedom. Nor should your...
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... children get used to the word freedom. You must always bring a sense of responsibility for their well-being, their health, their growth. And their ability to respond to every dimension of life. This must be brought into their life. If there is necessary, responsible existence, freedom is a consequence. This is the fundamental problem we have in the world today because we have become goal-oriented. We're interested in the consequence, we're not interested in the process. If you want flowers in the garden, you don't talk about flowers. If you're a good gardener, you will never talk about flowers. You will talk about soil, manure, water, sunlight. If you manage these things, wonderful flowers will come. Similarly if you manage the conditions necessary for a beautiful blossoming of a child, then children will blossom. But if you try to raise them according to the moulds that one may hold in their minds, every child will rebel because no life can fit into the moulds that you create in your mind. Life cannot fit into the moulds of the mind. Mind has to fit into our life. This must be understood. So let's not have big ideas about how to raise a child. Just maintain an atmosphere of absolute love, joyfulness, and responsibility. Above all, in their parents, let the children never see resentment, jealousy, frustration, depression, anger. You will see your children will blossom absolutely wonderfully because if you take care of the process, the results will come. But if you're focused on the consequence and not taking care of the process, your consequence, or the consequence that you desire, will just be a dream.
Transcript: Full Transcript: See this idea that we have to raise our children is a very Western idea. You just have...
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... to allow them to grow. You should not raise them. You only raise cattle. You don't raise human beings. You just have to create an atmosphere of love, joy, and responsibility. In your question you used the word 'freedom'. Freedom is a bad word. You should never utter the word freedom. Nor should your children get used to the word freedom. You must always bring a sense of responsibility for their well-being, their health, their growth. And their ability to respond to every dimension of life. This must be brought into their life. If there is necessary, responsible existence, freedom is a consequence. This is the fundamental problem we have in the world today because we have become goal-oriented. We're interested in the consequence, we're not interested in the process. If you want flowers in the garden, you don't talk about flowers. If you're a good gardener, you will never talk about flowers. You will talk about soil, manure, water, sunlight. If you manage these things, wonderful flowers will come. Similarly if you manage the conditions necessary for a beautiful blossoming of a child, then children will blossom. But if you try to raise them according to the moulds that one may hold in their minds, every child will rebel because no life can fit into the moulds that you create in your mind. Life cannot fit into the moulds of the mind. Mind has to fit into our life. This must be understood. So let's not have big ideas about how to raise a child. Just maintain an atmosphere of absolute love, joyfulness, and responsibility. Above all, in their parents, let the children never see resentment, jealousy, frustration, depression, anger. You will see your children will blossom absolutely wonderfully because if you take care of the process, the results will come. But if you're focused on the consequence and not taking care of the process, your consequence, or the consequence that you desire, will just be a dream.
September 9, 2020
3:02
The only real solution to phone addiction
Transcript: So, technology is not to be blamed. We have not addressed human compulsive nature. Human compulsiveness can only be addressed with consciousness. More conscious way of existing. To become conscious, there are many tools. We have not propogated this large scale in our society. It has to become a part of our existence. At a very early age, children should learn to live consciously. Once they are conscious,...
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... they know when to use what and how much to use. It's individual choice. About radiation. I want you to understand, most probably, it is like, you know, we initially used to think only those who are smoking are going to get affected. But then we realized passive smokers may be more affected than the smoker himself or herself. So similarly, somebody else may be using technology around you, there is wifi in your house. People are using telephones all around you. So you cannot escape that radiation. Yes, it has some consequences. But at the same time, the amount of life that it facilitates, we're willing to make a trade off with it to some extent. But, to what extent you wish to use technology must be your personal choice. Coming to social media. Social media is much easier to handle than a live society. When live society was there, your friends, your family, your mother-in-law, your husband, wife, this, that, everything. When they cling to you you can't switch them off. Social media, if you don't like it, you can turn off your phone. So I think this mode of interaction gives you much more freedom than the ancient way of interacting with society. Because if you went about the town making lot of friends, you got entangled in so many ways. Today you're making friends only by sending messages. When you don't want, you can keep your phone off. And, it's a done thing. So these are all wonderful conveniences that have come into our life. But, many people are making this also into a great problem and this is an illness in their lives. So the greatest things that are given to you can become your enemy if you don't learn how to use it responsibly. This goes for everything. Not just for gadgets in your hand. This goes for your car, this goes for your food, this goes for your everything that you're using in your life, including your brain. If you don't realize how to use it, if it becomes a compulsive process, then it can take your life.
Transcript: So, technology is not to be blamed. We have not addressed human compulsive nature. Human compulsiveness...
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... can only be addressed with consciousness. More conscious way of existing. To become conscious, there are many tools. We have not propogated this large scale in our society. It has to become a part of our existence. At a very early age, children should learn to live consciously. Once they are conscious, they know when to use what and how much to use. It's individual choice. About radiation. I want you to understand, most probably, it is like, you know, we initially used to think only those who are smoking are going to get affected. But then we realized passive smokers may be more affected than the smoker himself or herself. So similarly, somebody else may be using technology around you, there is wifi in your house. People are using telephones all around you. So you cannot escape that radiation. Yes, it has some consequences. But at the same time, the amount of life that it facilitates, we're willing to make a trade off with it to some extent. But, to what extent you wish to use technology must be your personal choice. Coming to social media. Social media is much easier to handle than a live society. When live society was there, your friends, your family, your mother-in-law, your husband, wife, this, that, everything. When they cling to you you can't switch them off. Social media, if you don't like it, you can turn off your phone. So I think this mode of interaction gives you much more freedom than the ancient way of interacting with society. Because if you went about the town making lot of friends, you got entangled in so many ways. Today you're making friends only by sending messages. When you don't want, you can keep your phone off. And, it's a done thing. So these are all wonderful conveniences that have come into our life. But, many people are making this also into a great problem and this is an illness in their lives. So the greatest things that are given to you can become your enemy if you don't learn how to use it responsibly. This goes for everything. Not just for gadgets in your hand. This goes for your car, this goes for your food, this goes for your everything that you're using in your life, including your brain. If you don't realize how to use it, if it becomes a compulsive process, then it can take your life.
September 8, 2020
3:13
If both parents are working, will the child be lonely?
Transcript: When I was growing as a child, both my parents were working. And there were times when I was feeling lonely and very miserable. Although, my parents did give their part of comfort to me, there were times I was feeling lonely on the inside. And, what can our future parents, or what can we do to our kids, to not feel the same way? Thank you. Well, in India, this is the first generation where women have...
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... stepped out to work. Professionally. Otherwise, because we were largely an agricultural community, women worked, but in and around the house. And if they went somewhere to the field, they took the children and went. So, always, like you see ducks and chickens, if the hen goes, behind that the chicks run. Like that children were always running behind women. So she was always doing her work, and still managing and tending to them. And they was a certain cohesiveness to that. But today women are going to the office, or to the factory, or to some other business. So they can't take their children there. This is the first generation of women who've stepped out. So in the society, we still don't have arrangements. Proper arrangements, where children can be properly tended to. That system, that facility, and that arrangement, is simply not happened in the society yet. I hope it happens quickly because it's very important. It doesn't mater whether it's a biological parent, or somebody else, but children need a loving, caring atmosphere. It's very important. Just putting nourishment into their stomach is not the only thing. They need some tending, attending to. Somebody should smile at them, somebody should laugh at them, somebody should do something with them, play with them. This is very needed. Otherwise, children will grow up little sick in their head. It is not necessary only a biological mother should do it, but there must be a committed person doing this. It's very, very important for the child. Unfortunately in this society, we still don't have those arrangements.
Transcript: When I was growing as a child, both my parents were working. And there were times when I was feeling...
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... lonely and very miserable. Although, my parents did give their part of comfort to me, there were times I was feeling lonely on the inside. And, what can our future parents, or what can we do to our kids, to not feel the same way? Thank you. Well, in India, this is the first generation where women have stepped out to work. Professionally. Otherwise, because we were largely an agricultural community, women worked, but in and around the house. And if they went somewhere to the field, they took the children and went. So, always, like you see ducks and chickens, if the hen goes, behind that the chicks run. Like that children were always running behind women. So she was always doing her work, and still managing and tending to them. And they was a certain cohesiveness to that. But today women are going to the office, or to the factory, or to some other business. So they can't take their children there. This is the first generation of women who've stepped out. So in the society, we still don't have arrangements. Proper arrangements, where children can be properly tended to. That system, that facility, and that arrangement, is simply not happened in the society yet. I hope it happens quickly because it's very important. It doesn't mater whether it's a biological parent, or somebody else, but children need a loving, caring atmosphere. It's very important. Just putting nourishment into their stomach is not the only thing. They need some tending, attending to. Somebody should smile at them, somebody should laugh at them, somebody should do something with them, play with them. This is very needed. Otherwise, children will grow up little sick in their head. It is not necessary only a biological mother should do it, but there must be a committed person doing this. It's very, very important for the child. Unfortunately in this society, we still don't have those arrangements.
August 21, 2020
2:33
Why should children learn Yoga?
Transcript: See everybody can drive a car today. But not everybody can hold the car on the road at 200km/hr. They'll fly off. Because for that you need a lot of understanding, of how the machine functions. Similarly, if you function at a rudimentary level in your life, everybody will eat, sleep, reproduce, and die. But if you want to raise a human being to a higher level of function, then there has to be a more...
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... profound understanding and perception of who we are and how we function. So this is what yoga is. If we bring this at an early age, free of all cultural trappings we can bring it. In such a way that it's purely scientific and logically correct way of doing things. If we bring this across the world into every child's life, you will definitely find a more peaceful and joyful adults as they grow up. Why is this important? There is substantial, medical, and scientific evidence that only when you're peaceful and joyful, does your body and mind function at its best. If you want to be successful, your body and your mind should function at its best. There's no question about it. This, at least this much must happen to every child. If this has to happen, it is important that children do not form strong ideas about anything. That their life remains a possibility to explore their life, throughout their life. The aspect of exploration should remain alive. The aspect of having a certain sense of wonder to everything that we see, must be there. By believing things, by attaching, or identifying with certain ideologies and philosophies, we become dead sure about everything. When we become dead sure about everything, if somebody else believes something else, then clashes will happen. The fundamental aspect of education is to expand our horizons. Unfortunately, it's just working the reverse way. Simply because we are putting set ideas into children's minds. So yoga will undo that damage. That it will not allow a human mind to become established in that way. This means. What this fundamentally means is, the nature of existence is uncertain. In this uncertainty, you're trying to create false sense of certainty. Either you simply, falsely believe that this ocean is going to be always calm like this, and I'm going to say lower this. Or, you learn to navigate through a violent, unpredictable ocean. You learn to navigate through that. Either you're equipped for it, or you're not. So yoga is that aspect which clearly celebrates the uncertainties of life. We are not trying to create a certainty. We're just trying to equip ourselves to handle uncertainty.
Transcript: See everybody can drive a car today. But not everybody can hold the car on the road at 200km/hr. They'll...
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... fly off. Because for that you need a lot of understanding, of how the machine functions. Similarly, if you function at a rudimentary level in your life, everybody will eat, sleep, reproduce, and die. But if you want to raise a human being to a higher level of function, then there has to be a more profound understanding and perception of who we are and how we function. So this is what yoga is. If we bring this at an early age, free of all cultural trappings we can bring it. In such a way that it's purely scientific and logically correct way of doing things. If we bring this across the world into every child's life, you will definitely find a more peaceful and joyful adults as they grow up. Why is this important? There is substantial, medical, and scientific evidence that only when you're peaceful and joyful, does your body and mind function at its best. If you want to be successful, your body and your mind should function at its best. There's no question about it. This, at least this much must happen to every child. If this has to happen, it is important that children do not form strong ideas about anything. That their life remains a possibility to explore their life, throughout their life. The aspect of exploration should remain alive. The aspect of having a certain sense of wonder to everything that we see, must be there. By believing things, by attaching, or identifying with certain ideologies and philosophies, we become dead sure about everything. When we become dead sure about everything, if somebody else believes something else, then clashes will happen. The fundamental aspect of education is to expand our horizons. Unfortunately, it's just working the reverse way. Simply because we are putting set ideas into children's minds. So yoga will undo that damage. That it will not allow a human mind to become established in that way. This means. What this fundamentally means is, the nature of existence is uncertain. In this uncertainty, you're trying to create false sense of certainty. Either you simply, falsely believe that this ocean is going to be always calm like this, and I'm going to say lower this. Or, you learn to navigate through a violent, unpredictable ocean. You learn to navigate through that. Either you're equipped for it, or you're not. So yoga is that aspect which clearly celebrates the uncertainties of life. We are not trying to create a certainty. We're just trying to equip ourselves to handle uncertainty.
August 14, 2020
3:25
Parenting Tip – You must spend dedicated time with your children
Transcript: Those who decide to have children must have dedicated time for the child. Not fitting in here, one ten minutes here, ten minutes there. You must have full fledged dedicated time because it is about making the next generation better than who we are. There is nothing special to be done, you don't have to buy a single toy. You just have to spend time. You just have to expose them to nature. You just have...
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... to expose them to various forms of creation. But, just to get rid of the child, you bought him an iPad when he's five. See, you buy him an iPad when he's four or five, don't think it's out of your love. You're being strategic, you want to get rid of him. Get rid of him means, he opens up something, and something something something is happening on the iPad endlessly. So you can go about your business the way you want. I don't think it is necessary for such people to have children. Unless you're willing to have dedicated time, you should not do this crap. Not necessary. Once you have, you must have dedicated time. And first of all, you must fix yourself. You must become that kind of a person the child will look up to and love to be with. Then, even time can be adjusted. If they're really looking up to you, five minutes is worth five days. Five minutes of contact is like five days. Nothing to teach, what's there to teach. What is their to teach? What do you know about life that the child doesn't know, I'm asking. Survival tricks, don't teach them too early. This is a serious problem. These days, I think it's little less than what it used to be before. Three year old child, they're asking, "What do you want to become?" "I want to become pilot." "I want to become commando." These days everybody, all the boy want to become a commando because that's the games they like playing. Because I see in these games, somebody's head falls off. They may become Jihadi Johns. Because right from childhood, they're taking off people's heads. So what do you want to expose your children to is something that every parent needs to think about because it is exposure, it is not moral teaching which is going to stick. It is the exposure that the child is exposed to which is really going to stick right through their life. You must expose them to all the positive, wonderful things. Positive things does not mean right versus wrong. Simply life the way it is. I think, if people want to have children, this may sound extreme, but I would say, at least for two months in a year, those who have children should withdraw into natural space. Not live in their city burrows, or those bird nests of apartments. They must go away at least for two months. It's alright even if you have to live in a tent somewhere, but they must live in nature, the children. Very, very, very important. If you want to have your children physically, mentally healthy and balanced, it is the most important thing.
Transcript: Those who decide to have children must have dedicated time for the child. Not fitting in here, one ten...
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... minutes here, ten minutes there. You must have full fledged dedicated time because it is about making the next generation better than who we are. There is nothing special to be done, you don't have to buy a single toy. You just have to spend time. You just have to expose them to nature. You just have to expose them to various forms of creation. But, just to get rid of the child, you bought him an iPad when he's five. See, you buy him an iPad when he's four or five, don't think it's out of your love. You're being strategic, you want to get rid of him. Get rid of him means, he opens up something, and something something something is happening on the iPad endlessly. So you can go about your business the way you want. I don't think it is necessary for such people to have children. Unless you're willing to have dedicated time, you should not do this crap. Not necessary. Once you have, you must have dedicated time. And first of all, you must fix yourself. You must become that kind of a person the child will look up to and love to be with. Then, even time can be adjusted. If they're really looking up to you, five minutes is worth five days. Five minutes of contact is like five days. Nothing to teach, what's there to teach. What is their to teach? What do you know about life that the child doesn't know, I'm asking. Survival tricks, don't teach them too early. This is a serious problem. These days, I think it's little less than what it used to be before. Three year old child, they're asking, "What do you want to become?" "I want to become pilot." "I want to become commando." These days everybody, all the boy want to become a commando because that's the games they like playing. Because I see in these games, somebody's head falls off. They may become Jihadi Johns. Because right from childhood, they're taking off people's heads. So what do you want to expose your children to is something that every parent needs to think about because it is exposure, it is not moral teaching which is going to stick. It is the exposure that the child is exposed to which is really going to stick right through their life. You must expose them to all the positive, wonderful things. Positive things does not mean right versus wrong. Simply life the way it is. I think, if people want to have children, this may sound extreme, but I would say, at least for two months in a year, those who have children should withdraw into natural space. Not live in their city burrows, or those bird nests of apartments. They must go away at least for two months. It's alright even if you have to live in a tent somewhere, but they must live in nature, the children. Very, very, very important. If you want to have your children physically, mentally healthy and balanced, it is the most important thing.
July 19, 2020
3:57
Parenting Tip – don’t prepare your child for something
Transcript: Let your children do something that you could not dream of. If you have achieved a certain level of success, you have taken care of bread for your children. So let them live a life where they don't have to think about their bread, that is, they don't live for their survival. They live to create something, that is wonderful for everybody. For himself, and for everybody else. This is the mistake, or...
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... this is a fundamental flaw in the education systems of the day. That we think we need to prepare people for something. No, we need to prepare people for nothing. We just have to make people flexible and sharpen their intelligence, sharpen their perception. Whatever is needed, do that. Only thing is, you have to make him an intelligence in such a way that it's flexible and it'll quickly grasp what is around. Perception is sharpened, intelligence is sharpened, but you don't become a concrete block that I'm an engineer, I'm a doctor, I'm this and that. You becoming a concrete block, you can't change yourself. Does it mean to say, no subject needs any training? Yes, it will need. Many subjects need expertise which needs a certain level of application and training. I'm not questioning that. But you don't have to do it early on. Right now, from the age of 3, 4, they're telling I'm going to become an IT engineer, I'm going to become a start-up. Now it's all start-up. Or a doctor, engineer. Everything was doctor at one time, then it became little engineer. Now computer, now start-up. How many start-ups are non-starters in the country? Too many, unfortunately. Because you don't need a start-up cuture, engineering culture, something like this. What you need is that you're a solution seeking generation.
Transcript: Let your children do something that you could not dream of. If you have achieved a certain level of success,...
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... you have taken care of bread for your children. So let them live a life where they don't have to think about their bread, that is, they don't live for their survival. They live to create something, that is wonderful for everybody. For himself, and for everybody else. This is the mistake, or this is a fundamental flaw in the education systems of the day. That we think we need to prepare people for something. No, we need to prepare people for nothing. We just have to make people flexible and sharpen their intelligence, sharpen their perception. Whatever is needed, do that. Only thing is, you have to make him an intelligence in such a way that it's flexible and it'll quickly grasp what is around. Perception is sharpened, intelligence is sharpened, but you don't become a concrete block that I'm an engineer, I'm a doctor, I'm this and that. You becoming a concrete block, you can't change yourself. Does it mean to say, no subject needs any training? Yes, it will need. Many subjects need expertise which needs a certain level of application and training. I'm not questioning that. But you don't have to do it early on. Right now, from the age of 3, 4, they're telling I'm going to become an IT engineer, I'm going to become a start-up. Now it's all start-up. Or a doctor, engineer. Everything was doctor at one time, then it became little engineer. Now computer, now start-up. How many start-ups are non-starters in the country? Too many, unfortunately. Because you don't need a start-up cuture, engineering culture, something like this. What you need is that you're a solution seeking generation.
July 10, 2020
2:22
Parenting Tip – How to discipline your child
Transcript: If you want your children to consider the suggestions that you are making, don't try to discipline them. If it works, if you try to discipline them and it works. Unfortunately it means that you have dumb children. If they're smart, it just won't work. Really. Isn't it so? You don't like this? If they're just dumb, helpless children, it'll work. Otherwise your damn disciplining won't work. Yes, here...
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... and there maybe you put your foot down a little bit. But that right also you get only because you've built a relationship. You've built a very close, friendly relationship. So somewhere, you can use your priviledge of being older than them and put your foot down in a few things. But you can't go about disciplining them. You must drop that idea from your mind. Because it won't work. If they don't like your discipline, it's just a few months away that they don't like you. If, a few years away, they hate your discipline, then you must know that much time away, they'll also hate you. No question about it. Isn't it? So don't get yourself into that situation. The most important thing is to provide him an atmosphere which is joyful, loving, and inspiring. Inspiring him to stand up and find his full potential. If this atmosphere is provided, you don't really have to worry about disciplining. Discipline wil happen byitself. Discipline does not mean control. Discipline means that you're focused towards knowing. The word discipline in English means learning, or to learn. So when you say I'm disciplined, that means you're always willing to learn. That you're not stuck in some mode. So discipline is not just doing something someway, you're willing to learn which way to do everything better. If you're constantly striving how to do everything better, you're disciplined. You're just doing something in a particular way, that's not discipline. If you bring yogic practices into a child's life, there is no way they cannot be disciplined. Discipline will happen to them.
Transcript: If you want your children to consider the suggestions that you are making, don't try to discipline them....
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... If it works, if you try to discipline them and it works. Unfortunately it means that you have dumb children. If they're smart, it just won't work. Really. Isn't it so? You don't like this? If they're just dumb, helpless children, it'll work. Otherwise your damn disciplining won't work. Yes, here and there maybe you put your foot down a little bit. But that right also you get only because you've built a relationship. You've built a very close, friendly relationship. So somewhere, you can use your priviledge of being older than them and put your foot down in a few things. But you can't go about disciplining them. You must drop that idea from your mind. Because it won't work. If they don't like your discipline, it's just a few months away that they don't like you. If, a few years away, they hate your discipline, then you must know that much time away, they'll also hate you. No question about it. Isn't it? So don't get yourself into that situation. The most important thing is to provide him an atmosphere which is joyful, loving, and inspiring. Inspiring him to stand up and find his full potential. If this atmosphere is provided, you don't really have to worry about disciplining. Discipline wil happen byitself. Discipline does not mean control. Discipline means that you're focused towards knowing. The word discipline in English means learning, or to learn. So when you say I'm disciplined, that means you're always willing to learn. That you're not stuck in some mode. So discipline is not just doing something someway, you're willing to learn which way to do everything better. If you're constantly striving how to do everything better, you're disciplined. You're just doing something in a particular way, that's not discipline. If you bring yogic practices into a child's life, there is no way they cannot be disciplined. Discipline will happen to them.
July 3, 2020
3:00
Parenting tip – Don’t live your dreams through your children
Transcript: Parents think all the things that they could not do, they must acheive through their children. So they should have bred race horses. They are not an extension of your ambitions, they are not. And they need not be. So this is because people think they own their children. No, they are not your property. I think these days they are telling you, older generation hesitated to say this. This generation,...
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... by the time they are ten, they are telling you, you've got no business to tell me what to do. So does it mean to say you don't say anythig to them? No, it's your business to see because if you don't guide them somebody else will on the street. Or somebody will do it long distance on the internet, all kinds of creatures are out there. Alright. So, yes to protect them, to nourish them, to allow them to explore their possibilities. It is your business to do that as a parent. But parents' concern may be, what will happen, what will happen, what will happen? Tell me when you go through fear, is it fantastic? Hello? It's one of the most terrible emotions you can go through. Why are we thinking that we should be fearful of our future. Not only of your future, of anything that you do, even God-fearing alright. Fearful about everything. What is the point? There is no such thing. There is no such thing that this generation should be an extension of the previous generation. This generation should do something that previous generation could not imagine. That is when there is a purpose to this generation. Isn't it? Otherwise what's the point? If you're going to do the same things.
Transcript: Parents think all the things that they could not do, they must acheive through their children. So they...
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... should have bred race horses. They are not an extension of your ambitions, they are not. And they need not be. So this is because people think they own their children. No, they are not your property. I think these days they are telling you, older generation hesitated to say this. This generation, by the time they are ten, they are telling you, you've got no business to tell me what to do. So does it mean to say you don't say anythig to them? No, it's your business to see because if you don't guide them somebody else will on the street. Or somebody will do it long distance on the internet, all kinds of creatures are out there. Alright. So, yes to protect them, to nourish them, to allow them to explore their possibilities. It is your business to do that as a parent. But parents' concern may be, what will happen, what will happen, what will happen? Tell me when you go through fear, is it fantastic? Hello? It's one of the most terrible emotions you can go through. Why are we thinking that we should be fearful of our future. Not only of your future, of anything that you do, even God-fearing alright. Fearful about everything. What is the point? There is no such thing. There is no such thing that this generation should be an extension of the previous generation. This generation should do something that previous generation could not imagine. That is when there is a purpose to this generation. Isn't it? Otherwise what's the point? If you're going to do the same things.
June 28, 2020
2:30
Parenting Tip – Treat your children as equals from early childhood
Transcript: If you are a parent - the important thing is, please don’t stand on a big pedestal. The only qualification you have is that you just came here a few years early. So this is the only qualification adults have, that they came here a few years earlier than the younger people. This doesn’t qualify you to advise about everything in the universe. It doesn’t. If you admit your ignorance with the youth,...
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... and especially with the little children they will become your close friends. Otherwise they look up to you because they have to, there is a hierarchy business. And of course, everybody hates that hierarchy. Looking up, neck hurts, you know. Nobody likes it. Because in trying to place yourself above, you are losing the possibility of being a good friend. If you are not a good friend, they are not seeking your advice. They are not just in the neighbourhood. Now, globally they seek answers. Okay? You don’t know where their friend is, their friend is in Timbuktu right now, not in the neighbourhood. A relationship is only possible when you are not on the pulpit, you are down on the ground like everybody else. On the same two feet. Then only it’s possible, then only there is a friendship. When there is a friendship, there is room for correction. When there is no friendship, you can say whatever you want, nobody is going to listen anyway. And if you go on giving advice after advice, they will just do the reverse, just to spite you. A whole lot of children do things just because it freaks the parents. Yes or no? They are doing it just to freak the parents, they just enjoy it because of this advice and advice and advice. Advice is sickening, nobody likes advice. But, if there was a bond of friendship, naturally they would listen. That’s what one should earn. The parents and teachers should earn the friendship of the new generation rather than thinking just because you came a few years early, you know the universe. There is no such thing. So just stop advising them. Just be friends with them, play with them, go to the cinema with them, listen to their kind of rap music, dance with them. You will see they will be fond of you. There will be a relationship. Once there is a relationship, you can do something, you can influence them.
Transcript: If you are a parent - the important thing is, please don’t stand on a big pedestal. The only qualification...
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... you have is that you just came here a few years early. So this is the only qualification adults have, that they came here a few years earlier than the younger people. This doesn’t qualify you to advise about everything in the universe. It doesn’t. If you admit your ignorance with the youth, and especially with the little children they will become your close friends. Otherwise they look up to you because they have to, there is a hierarchy business. And of course, everybody hates that hierarchy. Looking up, neck hurts, you know. Nobody likes it. Because in trying to place yourself above, you are losing the possibility of being a good friend. If you are not a good friend, they are not seeking your advice. They are not just in the neighbourhood. Now, globally they seek answers. Okay? You don’t know where their friend is, their friend is in Timbuktu right now, not in the neighbourhood. A relationship is only possible when you are not on the pulpit, you are down on the ground like everybody else. On the same two feet. Then only it’s possible, then only there is a friendship. When there is a friendship, there is room for correction. When there is no friendship, you can say whatever you want, nobody is going to listen anyway. And if you go on giving advice after advice, they will just do the reverse, just to spite you. A whole lot of children do things just because it freaks the parents. Yes or no? They are doing it just to freak the parents, they just enjoy it because of this advice and advice and advice. Advice is sickening, nobody likes advice. But, if there was a bond of friendship, naturally they would listen. That’s what one should earn. The parents and teachers should earn the friendship of the new generation rather than thinking just because you came a few years early, you know the universe. There is no such thing. So just stop advising them. Just be friends with them, play with them, go to the cinema with them, listen to their kind of rap music, dance with them. You will see they will be fond of you. There will be a relationship. Once there is a relationship, you can do something, you can influence them.
June 24, 2020
3:22
To be joyful or to be loving – what is more important?
Synopsis: In this short talk, Sadhguru says - "A child needs a stable, pleasant atmosphere to grow". Is it more important to be joyful, or loving? Sadhguru tells us, that first you must be joyful, once you are capable of holding your joy, then you can add some love! Children need love and attention only till 5-6 years of age. The most important thing is that you create a joyful atmosphere around them.
Synopsis: In this short talk, Sadhguru says - "A child needs a stable, pleasant atmosphere to grow". Is it more...
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... important to be joyful, or loving? Sadhguru tells us, that first you must be joyful, once you are capable of holding your joy, then you can add some love! Children need love and attention only till 5-6 years of age. The most important thing is that you create a joyful atmosphere around them.
June 14, 2020
3:23
Should Sex and Violence be banned in movies?
Synopsis: Is it Ok for movies / TV shows to show content which is extremely violent or sexual in nature? What should parents do to protect their children? Should governments clamp down and enforce a ban on such content? What is a society's role in all this? Sadhguru answers this question in a Q&A session during Conversation with Nani - a famous South Indian actor
Synopsis: Is it Ok for movies / TV shows to show content which is extremely violent or sexual in nature? What should...
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... parents do to protect their children? Should governments clamp down and enforce a ban on such content? What is a society's role in all this? Sadhguru answers this question in a Q&A session during Conversation with Nani - a famous South Indian actor
October 11, 2019
10:34
Are you a Good parent?
Synopsis: What are the three things I need to be doing as a Parent to ensure I am raising my children in the best possible way? Sadhguru answers a question from a working mother in most profound way....
Synopsis: What are the three things I need to be doing as a Parent to ensure I am raising my children in the best...
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... possible way? Sadhguru answers a question from a working mother in most profound way....
August 15, 2019
11:49
How Do I Make My Parents Not Worry About Me?
Synopsis: Responding to a young girls concern, that parents have 'tension' about their kids - Sadhguru tells us that we have created a world, where people are suffering everything! So, it is not because of children, or anything else, that they are stressed, it is because human beings have not figured how to handle themselves. Sadhguru shared his unique experience of school - and his and his fathers relationship...
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... with the mark sheet! He stresses that one should focus on living a joyful life where you have reached your full potential, rather than trying to just be better than the person next to you.
Synopsis: Responding to a young girls concern, that parents have 'tension' about their kids - Sadhguru tells us...
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... that we have created a world, where people are suffering everything! So, it is not because of children, or anything else, that they are stressed, it is because human beings have not figured how to handle themselves. Sadhguru shared his unique experience of school - and his and his fathers relationship with the mark sheet! He stresses that one should focus on living a joyful life where you have reached your full potential, rather than trying to just be better than the person next to you.
November 14, 2018
11:55
How much karmic influence do parents have on their children?
Synopsis: Lakshmi Manchu asks Sadhguru - "Namaskaram Sadhguru. I have a question. So, does the relationship that we have with our parents, impact the course of our life? If yes, how best our we to nurture this?" Sadhguru tells is that parents karmic influence on their children is till the age of 21 years.
Synopsis: Lakshmi Manchu asks Sadhguru - "Namaskaram Sadhguru. I have a question. So, does the relationship that...
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... we have with our parents, impact the course of our life? If yes, how best our we to nurture this?" Sadhguru tells is that parents karmic influence on their children is till the age of 21 years.
September 17, 2018
2:39
How To Bring Up Your Children?
Synopsis: In this short but powerful talk, Sadhguru tells us that we have made education into an industry, and a child into an industrial product. Each life is unique, and we should strive to provide an atmosphere where this life will blossom. Sadhguru tells, bringing up a child is a 20 year project, and one must have the commitment and patience to nurture a fresh life. There are no ready-made solutions - it...
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... needs total involvement. A must watch for all parents.
Synopsis: In this short but powerful talk, Sadhguru tells us that we have made education into an industry, and...
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... a child into an industrial product. Each life is unique, and we should strive to provide an atmosphere where this life will blossom. Sadhguru tells, bringing up a child is a 20 year project, and one must have the commitment and patience to nurture a fresh life. There are no ready-made solutions - it needs total involvement. A must watch for all parents.
December 19, 2017
6:10
Struggling to deal with teenage kids?
Synopsis: Every parent goes through trying times dealing with their teenagers. This is simply because parents have not equipped themselves on how to handle this situation. In this entertaining and highly insightful talk, Sadhguru advises on what parent must do to make it an enjoyable journey for both- the parent and the child. A teenage child is seeking a "Friend" and not a "Parent" and most parents are lousy...
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... friends because they don't work towards earning that title.
Synopsis: Every parent goes through trying times dealing with their teenagers. This is simply because parents have...
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... not equipped themselves on how to handle this situation. In this entertaining and highly insightful talk, Sadhguru advises on what parent must do to make it an enjoyable journey for both- the parent and the child. A teenage child is seeking a "Friend" and not a "Parent" and most parents are lousy friends because they don't work towards earning that title.
March 23, 2017
13:24
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Parenting Tips: How to parent a teenager
We have started looking at every situation that we cannot handle as a problem! Sadhguru says - "Whatever you cannot handle, you call a problem, rather than seeing it is only a situation and trying to equip yourself to handle it. The moment you call it a problem, unpleasantness is a natural consequence." He shared 5 simple tips for parenting a teenager. #1 Be a good friend. #2 Make them responsible. #3 Stop eulogizing helplessness. #4 Don't "own" them. Include them. #5 Do something about yourself.
September 16, 2020
9 min read
Should I Get My Child Vaccinated?
Many people today are advocating against getting your child vaccinated. In fact, anti-vaccination campaigns are gaining momentum, especially in developed societies. So, is it essential to get my child vaccinated? I am not comfortable injecting so many chemicals into my child. Sadhguru suggests that vaccines are definitely necessary, but perhaps the kind of vaccines and the spectrum that is being administered today may not be necessary. So what is the solution - Sadhguru suggests a pragmatic approach.
October 3, 2019
4 min read
How To Bring Up My Child?
We are trying to turn everything into machinery; into some use - human beings need not be useful. If one becomes joyless while striving to be useful, then the purpose of life is wasted. A normal child is a complete being; so do not try to make something out of him - just strive to nurture them to their full potential. Sadhguru says, for the entire time until the child become twenty one, you must feel like you are still pregnant - Just provide the right atmosphere and wait!
January 8, 2019
3 min read
Why Do We Form Families?
Why do some families turn out beautiful and other ugly? Sadhguru tells us that family is not about duty, it is not about dependence - rather it is a kind of partnership where both partners are constantly concerned about the other persons wellbeing. Above all it is essential for the nurturing, training and molding of a child.
December 2, 2018
4 min read
Do I Follow My Dreams Or Listen To My Parents?
Whatever we may want to do, there is a price to pay. Isn't it unrealistic to expect that every time everyone, including our parents approve of what we want to do? Sadhguru says, such a thing does not happen. So, first step is to try and convince them. If that doesn't work, then you need to see how deep and with what clarity is your desire and what is the price you are willing to pay.
October 25, 2018
2 min read
Laxmi Manchu – How Should Our Parents Influence Our Lives
Sadhguru tells us that as per the Yogic Sciences, the parents energetic or karmic influence upon us is only for the first twenty one years of our age. After that we should live in gratitude and love towards them - but not influenced by their patterns. We should not look towards parents nurturing us beyond twenty one years of age.
September 24, 2018
2 min read
VVS Laxman – Should Kids Have Freedom To Do What They Want?
This is a must read for all the parents. Sadhguru simplifies this complicated problem for all parents, in a way that ones perspective on freedom is completely altered! Instead of raising children, we should allow them to grow. "Freedom" - is not a word that one should utter, and the children should also not get used to this word. What is important is to bring into their life a certain sense of responsibility. Once the necessary responsibility is there, freedom will be a natural consequence.
September 7, 2018
3 min read
What Is ‘Right’ Parenting?
Though we are teaching the child alphabets, and mathematics, we are not investing any time in teaching them how they function from within. We have set wrong priorities in our education system. Sadhguru says - "A child needs an ecosystem. What kind of things are they exposed to, what are they doing with their lives, where are we trying to drive them?". Most parents, instead of cultivating the genius within the child, are driving them in a particular direction. Sadhguru says - "When the child was inside, you did nothing, right? Just nourished yourself well and waited. Just like that – provide the atmosphere and wait."
October 16, 2017
5 min read
How To Respond When My Child Asks For Advice?
Sadhguru says - "If you have something that has really worked for you – if it has brought much joy and life to you – you can tell them for sure. If you do not know something, tell them, 'I don’t know, let’s look at it.'...". If it is something important, then you must spend time with them looking at it. If you admit to them that there are things that you do not know, your child will become a seeker and not an asker!
February 2, 2017
4 min read
What kind of yoga should kids do, and at what age?
Many parents wonder what is the best way to introduce yoga to children. So, what is the right age to introduce yoga to children? Sadhguru says - "Seven years is generally considered a good age." In response to what kind of yoga should be taught to children, Sadhguru says - "There are simple forms of yoga that children can do after six or seven years of age. But it is very important that certain practices are not taught to them." Sadhguru says, children can start with Upa Yoga, Nada Yoga and Yoga Namaskar.
November 4, 2016
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We have started looking at every situation that we cannot handle…
September 16, 2020
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Should I Get My Child Vaccinated?
Many people today are advocating against getting your child vaccinated. In…
October 3, 2019
4 min read
How To Bring Up My Child?
We are trying to turn everything into machinery; into some use…
January 8, 2019
3 min read
Why Do We Form Families?
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December 2, 2018
4 min read
Do I Follow My Dreams Or Listen To My Parents?
Whatever we may want to do, there is a price to…
October 25, 2018
2 min read
Laxmi Manchu – How Should Our Parents Influence Our Lives
Sadhguru tells us that as per the Yogic Sciences, the parents…
September 24, 2018
2 min read
VVS Laxman – Should Kids Have Freedom To Do What They Want?
This is a must read for all the parents. Sadhguru simplifies…
September 7, 2018
3 min read
What Is ‘Right’ Parenting?
Though we are teaching the child alphabets, and mathematics, we are…
October 16, 2017
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Sadhguru says - "If you have something that has really worked…
February 2, 2017
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November 4, 2016
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