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How do you reconcile your own goals and principles versus the person you love? | Sadhguru at Columbia University | #8
Synopsis: Changing here slightly, I have a question submitted by the prolific anonymous. How do you, Sadhguru, decide between your principles/ goals/ priorities versus the person you like the most? The goals and principles both come from the same mind/ heart. And our anonymous used the word like but we can also use love in there too. But I guess the question is, how do you reconcile...
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Synopsis: Changing here slightly, I have a question submitted by the prolific anonymous....
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January 7, 2021
Water conservation | Sadhguru in Conversation with Matthew Hayden | #7
Synopsis: So I can assume that, with that philosophy, you’re extremely cause driven. And that Isha Foundation is obviously a huge vehicle for you to express that. But, I want to talk specifically about water. And what your vision for the conservation of water is. And some of the things that you’re pro-actively doing within the causes. And the relationships as well, with, in...
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Synopsis: So I can assume that, with that philosophy, you’re extremely cause...
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January 2, 2021
What is the right age to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? | Sadhguru at Christ University | #10
Synopsis: What is the right age to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?
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January 1, 2021
What is love?
Transcript: The moment people see you, even from a distance, there's a sudden outpouring of love. Complete outpouring of love. So let's talk about love. This is one kind of a love. What happens? Is there something, is it a release? That could be one thing for this and their own stress and emotion release. On the other hand, is there some kind of energy that you're transmitting to them? Is that energy possible...
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Transcript: The moment people see you, even from a distance, there's a sudden outpouring of love. Complete outpouring...
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December 7, 2020
What is the deepest form of love?
Transcript: Yesterday I went through this amazing experience with you, it was a collective experience. And then I saw your relationship with the meditators who were the volunteers in this incredible course that we did. And there was something that connected you. Now, I've heard stories about this. I've heard that as Jesus walked in, that he spread this love and we always wondered, how could he just spread love?...
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Transcript: Yesterday I went through this amazing experience with you, it was a collective experience. And then I...
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December 6, 2020
What is the opposite of love – hate or attachment?
Transcript: Generally, we are thinking love, hate are two opposite things. But it is not essentially so, they're just the flip side of the coin, you know. Two sides of the coin. So you can't hate somebody that you have nothing to do with. You're in love with somebody and it turns negative for some reason, that's when real hate, isn't it? So is hate opposite to love? In a way it is. But fundamentally it is not....
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Transcript: Generally, we are thinking love, hate are two opposite things. But it is not essentially so, they're...
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November 20, 2020
The ‘I love you’ mantra – a mutual benefit scheme
Transcript: See, people are talking about. They not only love people around them, they love god these days. Now, if you sincerely look at it, all this is just plain survival. Please you have needs to fulfill. Even if you love somebody, you have needs to fulfill, isn't it? Physical, emotional, psychological, financial, social, so many needs to fulfill you have. To fulfill these needs, 'I love you' is always a good...
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Transcript: See, people are talking about. They not only love people around them, they love god these days. Now,...
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November 17, 2020
How to handle an irritating spouse?
Transcript: This question is from Deepika. Sadhguru you said in one of the darshan that you are, you should treat everyone just as you treat me. Sadhguru you are a Karuna-avatar, but I have one inhuman, nasty creature in my home. It becomes difficult to see you in him. How to deal with him in this situation? In how many years of marriage does this evolution happen? Or it's a devolution. I'm sure he was a wonderful,...
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Transcript: This question is from Deepika. Sadhguru you said in one of the darshan that you are, you should treat...
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October 28, 2020
How do I know I’m in love? Have you ever fallen in love?
Transcript: See, the english expression you heard, falling in love. The phrase is significant. Falling in love, you don't rise in love, you don't fly in love, you fall in love. Because something of who you are has to go, something of what you think I am, should fall. Only then there is a love affair. You are willing to destroy a bit of yourself for the sake of the other. A bit. Because love means, essentially,...
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Transcript: See, the english expression you heard, falling in love. The phrase is significant. Falling in love, you...
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October 21, 2020
How to handle grief of losing someone dear?
Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that grief is always about loss. Loss means that we lost something. It is not about somebody's death. People can grieve loss of possession, positions, or even professions. So it's essentially about that an individual human being lost something. When it comes to people, if you lose them to death, the significance...
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Transcript: Let us understand this. This is not to belittle anybody's loss. But I want you to understand this that...
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September 12, 2020
PDA – Is public display of affection ok?
Transcript: You said, today young people have relationships. Unfortunately, you have come to a place where you think that a relationship means it must be body-based. There must be something biologically involved. Biology is a part of our life. The significance of becoming human, compared to other creatures is, they're complete biology. We are only part biology. We have other dimensions to us. We have an intelligence,...
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Transcript: You said, today young people have relationships. Unfortunately, you have come to a place where you think...
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September 7, 2020
Is love at first sight real?
Transcript: It means you're in a hurry. It means you're in a big rush. Well, you must understand this. There are many aspects to this. These terminologies come from another time. Love as first sight, what you're talking about, right? Right? Love as first sight was happening very commonly at one time. When the opposite genders would not have seen each other on a daily basis. You only got to see the girl when she...
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Transcript: It means you're in a hurry. It means you're in a big rush. Well, you must understand this. There are...
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September 5, 2020
Causal Sex – What is wrong with having casual physical relationships?
Transcript: So this body memory, traditionally in this culture we call this Runanbandan. That means, physical memory that you build. You can either consciously build your physical memory or you can simply take in wild amounts of memory and go through lots of physical confusion. Because, if I as much as touch this, this memory, it remembers. You try this with four of your friends. You touch their hands. Don't try...
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Transcript: So this body memory, traditionally in this culture we call this Runanbandan. That means, physical memory...
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August 30, 2020
What to do when my beloved betrays me?
Transcript: See somebody can betray you or you can think they betrayed you. Only because you have unrealistic expectations of them. Well, if they do what they want to do, why do you think they have betrayed you? They're doing what they want to do. You must respect it. If you say, they're beloved to me, I love them. If you love a person, should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want...
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Transcript: See somebody can betray you or you can think they betrayed you. Only because you have unrealistic expectations...
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August 29, 2020
What does it mean to love someone? | Sadhguru at University of Toronto | #4
Synopsis: So, love is like a universal topic. It’s in movies, songs, it seems like such a basic component of life. Yet, it’s really hard for us to define it. Really hard for us to truly know when we’re in love, to truly know if it’s the right kind of love. If it actually is love. If it’s just infatuation. If you feel really strongly, it must be love, because you can’t...
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Synopsis: So, love is like a universal topic. It’s in movies, songs, it seems...
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August 26, 2020
How do we maintain a balance between inter-personal promises and intra-personal promises? | Sadhguru at University of Toronto | #10
Synopsis: With respect to inter-personal promises and intra-personal promises, seeing that there are two types of promises that we make; to others and to ourselves. How do we balance both of those? Specially, considering, sometimes we have to keep the inter-personal promises at the cost of your intra-personal promises.
Synopsis: With respect to inter-personal promises and intra-personal promises,...
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August 26, 2020
Arranged marriage or Love marriage – which is a better?
Transcript: Marriage is not about how it happened, who arranged it. Your parents arranged it, or a commercial website arranged it, a dating app arranged it, or a local bar arranged it when you were fuzzy. Or your confused friends arranged it, or your confused self arranged it. Well, anyway, it's an arrangement. It is best it is arranged by responsible, sensible people. This idea, arranged marriage means some kind...
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Transcript: Marriage is not about how it happened, who arranged it. Your parents arranged it, or a commercial website...
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August 24, 2020
Are marriages made in heaven?
Transcript: Where all they've been saying marriages are made in heaven. But you're cooking hell within you. Marriage is made in heaven. That's why a lot of people want to go there soon. Because it's made there, they want to go there and settle it. No. You need to understand, to fulfil you needs. Physical, psychological, emotional, social, and various other needs. You're coming together. If you always remember...
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Transcript: Where all they've been saying marriages are made in heaven. But you're cooking hell within you. Marriage...
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August 23, 2020
Why should I have only one partner? Is one-partner a thing of the past?
Transcript: Well, monogamy and polygamy or whatever kind of gamy, if you want to see. The important thing we need to understand is, you know, we are all here. You and me are here. This means a man and woman came together some time ago. Maybe, you think, oh they're parents you know. They don't love, they don't do sex, they don't do anything. Just because a priest uttered a mantra, you were born, probably. No, it's...
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Transcript: Well, monogamy and polygamy or whatever kind of gamy, if you want to see. The important thing we need...
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August 17, 2020
What is the right age to get into sexually oriented relationships
Transcript: Now, you need to understand that this is a time of your life when you're at the highest level of energy. At this stage in your life, if you create a certain focus and balance within yourself, this energy will translate into something fantastic. But at this stage in your life if you do not bring focus and balance and you earn it, let's say when you're 40-45, you will not have the same energy. This is...
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Transcript: Now, you need to understand that this is a time of your life when you're at the highest level of energy....
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August 2, 2020
How do I handle conflict with my parents
Transcript: We see quite a generation gap between our generation and our parents' generation. And it sometimes so happens that we.. Not me. No gap between you and me. I'm much younger than you. It sometimes so happens that we want something out of our life and they don't necessarily agree with it. And we end up in a conflict. And we sometimes even curb our desires just to see them happy. So how do we deal with...
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Transcript: We see quite a generation gap between our generation and our parents' generation. And it sometimes so...
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August 1, 2020
Why are some relationships painful?
Transcript: The needs within a human being have risen. Because of a certain sense of incompleteness. People are forming relationships to experience a certain sense of completeness within themselves. When you have a good relationship with someone dear to you, you feel complete. When you don't have that, you feel incomplete. Why is this so? Because this life, this piece of life is a complete entity by itself. Why...
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Transcript: The needs within a human being have risen. Because of a certain sense of incompleteness. People are forming...
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July 30, 2020
I love you is not a cure for fixing your relationship
Transcript: There are two ways to enter into a relationship. One way is, because you want to extract something from somebody. Another way is, because you want to share something with somebody. These are two ways. If you're out to share, your life will be good. If you're out to extract, when they close the tap, it's going to get terrible and nasty. You have seen people who thought they're absolute lovers, how terrible...
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Transcript: There are two ways to enter into a relationship. One way is, because you want to extract something from...
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July 18, 2020
How to find true love? Is this the right person for me?
Transcript: So who is the right person? I don't want to take away all the romance in your life. But, let me tell you this, there is no right person on this planet. If you get into that kind of unrealistic mindset, I have found the right person. Oh, you will be soon disappointed. You must understand, there is no right person. First thing is to see whether, I am the right person. Yes? Am I the right person? And...
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Transcript: So who is the right person? I don't want to take away all the romance in your life. But, let me tell...
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July 15, 2020
My partner is never happy with me – no matter what I do
Transcript: Nowhere in the history of humanity, or today, or in anytime in future, will human relationships be absolute. Though every, every person who gets little romantic, believes that this is going to be an absolute relationship. There is no such thing about it. A relationship is a variable, always. You have to conduct it on a daily basis. One day if you don't conduct it properly, it may go somewhere. Yes...
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Transcript: Nowhere in the history of humanity, or today, or in anytime in future, will human relationships be absolute....
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July 14, 2020
Do we need to match horoscopes?
Transcript: Hello, this is Sumona Chakravarti. Namaskaram Sadhguru. Sadhguru, I want to know the truth about astrology. I mean I know it is a science, but you know when one has to match horoscopes before a wedding. Or a Manglik girl who is supposed to wed a tree first, you know, before she marries the guy. Or the fact that, you know one has to wear particular stones to help various things in life. So what is the...
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Transcript: Hello, this is Sumona Chakravarti. Namaskaram Sadhguru. Sadhguru, I want to know the truth about astrology....
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July 12, 2020
How to make couple relationships work – Why do they fail?
Transcript: Unfortunately today we have imbibed this, from the West again, that if you utter the word relationship, people are generally thinking of body-based relationships. Or in some way, it has to be between a man and a woman, or whatever else. But essetially, body-based relationship. No, relationships can be of many kinds. If they're body-based relationships, usually the excitement about each other's body...
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Transcript: Unfortunately today we have imbibed this, from the West again, that if you utter the word relationship,...
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July 8, 2020
Multiple heartbreaks will make you distrust people
Transcript: This serial heartbreak business can leave you paranoid about anything. About bonding with anybody in your life. Yes or no? You had serial heartbreaks. It looked like fun for some time, after some time you just don't actually trust anybody in your life. Because another human being is a problem always. Only when our emotions allow you to cross the problem, in some way they get included. But, if we have...
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Transcript: This serial heartbreak business can leave you paranoid about anything. About bonding with anybody in...
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July 7, 2020
How to find real love?
Transcript: We have one question from the social media, the Facebook. Amit Madhan wants to know, in this materialistic age, the real feeling of love is disappearing from our life. Most of the love we receive from others and express to others, is superficial. How can we reinforce the real feeling of love in our own life and in others? Forget about others. If you, if you learn to be loving by your own nature, not...
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Transcript: We have one question from the social media, the Facebook. Amit Madhan wants to know, in this materialistic...
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July 4, 2020
How can a modern woman become an ideal wife?
Transcript: So, your mother, your grandmother, how they made good wives. Largely it was believed the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Now today your husband will call Uber Eats and whatever quick picks and this and that and Swiggy and whatever. Alright? So you can't make a good wife based on how your grandmother became a good wife. You can't become a good wife based on how your mother became a good...
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Transcript: So, your mother, your grandmother, how they made good wives. Largely it was believed the way to a man's...
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July 1, 2020
Why do loving relationships turn bitter?
Transcript: There are four or five brains, four or five power centers in the home. And for it to be well coordinated, certain things have to be done. One way of doing it is with an enormous level of connectedness. Not emotional. Emotional connectedness just brings dependency. Emotion is something to be enjoyed, it is the juice of life. You don't make your emotions work, you should not make them work. You can make...
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Transcript: There are four or five brains, four or five power centers in the home. And for it to be well coordinated,...
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June 29, 2020
Are you a true friend?
Transcript: If you are a friend to somebody, you don’t have to nag them with what’s wrong with them. That’s not the point. But at the same time, you must have the courage to be unpopular with people. In just trying to be popular with people, just see how many stupid things you are doing with your life. In just trying to maintain some kind of pleasantness around you, see how much unpleasantness you have buried...
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Transcript: If you are a friend to somebody, you don’t have to nag them with what’s wrong with them. That’s...
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June 25, 2020
How important is marriage? Are you confused about marriage?
Transcript: See you need to understand the institution of marriage. It's about bringinga certain sanctity to the simple, basic needs that every human being has. There are physical needs, there are psychological needs, there are economic needs, emotional needs, social needs, variety of needs. To fulfill all these things we set an institution called marriage where all this can be conducted in a sensible manner....
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Transcript: See you need to understand the institution of marriage. It's about bringinga certain sanctity to the...
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June 21, 2020
In the times of Corona Virus – how to deal with lazy husband stubborn parents and bored children?
Synopsis: A lady asks Sadhguru - "Please guide the women of the country, who are dealing with lazy partners, stubborn parents and bored children on how to coexist compassionately amidst all the chaos. When household work load has increased and our work front identity has disappeared?" Sadhguru gives one simple way by which you can fix all this in one day!
Synopsis: A lady asks Sadhguru - "Please guide the women of the country, who are dealing with lazy partners, stubborn...
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June 16, 2020
How To Convince My Parents For An Inter-Caste Marriage?
Synopsis: Sadhguru tells us about the basis on caste system in India, and why people preferred marrying within the same caste. He also shares about how he got married, and how he announced it to everyone!
Synopsis: Sadhguru tells us about the basis on caste system in India, and why people preferred marrying within...
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January 4, 2020
What is the right age to have a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Synopsis: During a Youth and Truth event, a student asks Sadhguru - "What is the right age to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?"Sadhguru says, today it has become like this, that when we say 'relationship', by default everyone assumes that the reference is to a body based relationship. One can have beautiful relationships without involving with your body! Sadhguru says, when you are in college, your focus should...
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Synopsis: During a Youth and Truth event, a student asks Sadhguru - "What is the right age to have a boyfriend...
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May 30, 2019
Why Can’t I Have Multiple Partners?
Synopsis: In our society why is it considered inappropriate to have multiple partners? What are the social and spiritual implications if one has multiple partners? Sadhguru explains that in older times more Men died than Women. So, in all societies the ratio of Male to Female was skewed, and to fulfill the basic human needs the society ended up with a Man having multiple partners. However, today, the ratio...
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Synopsis: In our society why is it considered inappropriate to have multiple partners? What are the social and...
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December 27, 2018
Is It Natural To Be Jealous?
Synopsis: If your way of being is determined by how others are - then the only way you can be is 'a mess'. If you don't take charge of yourself, very easily you can fall back in the evolutionary scheme of things. Sadhguru says - don't be in a self defeating mode. Life is about you, not about someone else. If your joy, your happiness, your misery is determined by someone else, then chances of you being joyful...
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Synopsis: If your way of being is determined by how others are - then the only way you can be is 'a mess'. If you...
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December 17, 2018
Love – Decoded! Is Love a need? Is unconditional love possible?
This is a wonderful article in which Sadhguru explains what 'love' really is! Sadhguru says - "You fall in love, because something of who you are has to go.", you can only fall in love, not rise in love. Through three engaging stories Sadhguru tells us what us unconditional love, and is it possible; is there any relation between gratitude and love; is love a human need. Finally, Sadhguru tells us that 'love' is a very fragile dimension of life, and needs to be handled gently.
November 20, 2020
How to Deal with the Death of a Loved one?
Sadhguru delves into the essential nature of grief. In response to a question, "Having recently lost a near and dear one, how does one cope with the grief and distress associated with it?", Sadhguru tells us that grief is about incompleteness. Grief can happen even without someone dying. But, when someone dies, it leaves a vacuum in your life. This feeling of incompleteness is the source of grief.
August 26, 2020
How To Deal With Expectations In a Relationship?
In many ways, the quality of relationship one holds, determines their quality of life. Relationships are formed to fulfill various needs - physical, psychological, emotional, social, financial... Sadhguru says - "The needs within a human being have risen because there is a certain sense of incompleteness and people are forming relationships to experience a certain sense of completeness within themselves". This is the source of expectations. Sadhguru says - "If you are happy by your own nature, the relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness not to seek happiness."
March 23, 2020
I Face a Lot of Friction – What to Do?
Most people - when something fails - point fingers at others. If they don't find anyone to blame, they blame god, or even look for metaphysical reasons! It's important to understand, that if something is not working, it means it's not done well. If you are facing friction everywhere, obviously it means something is not right with you. You are the sandpaper! Sadhguru provides a simple ways to reduce friction in your life. And, of course if you meet 'sandpapers', you need some tact to handle them. This is a social skill which you need to develop!
May 6, 2019
Are Marriages made in heaven?
Does a perfect companion exists and has God already chosen the 'right' person already for you? People may seek a mate for physical, mental or emotional reasons- but it will be wise to recognise the limitations that exists between relationships and truly understand what 'Love' is. A 'Soul', which is complete and boundless does not need a mate. Sadhguru looks at the whole idea of 'Soulmate', love and why people come together.
February 14, 2019
Why Do We Form Families?
Why do some families turn out beautiful and other ugly? Sadhguru tells us that family is not about duty, it is not about dependence - rather it is a kind of partnership where both partners are constantly concerned about the other persons wellbeing. Above all it is essential for the nurturing, training and molding of a child.
December 2, 2018
Can Jealousy Be Used As A Motivator?
If a dog to run behind you, or your tail needs to be set on fire - for you to run fast - that's not a pleasant way to run! Of course you need to run fast, but it is equally important that your experience of running fast is pleasant. So, running is not the only important thing, how you experience it, and what comes out of your running is equally important.
October 15, 2018
Amish Tripathi – How To Deal With The Loss Of a Someone Close To Us?
Grief is about a loss - loss of possession, positions, professions and of course loved ones. If we lose someone to death, then it cannot be replaced - so the grief becomes more profound. Sadhguru says - the way we have defined "who we are" - is based on our possessions, positions and relationships. Relationships should not become an instrument to fill our lives - rather they should come from the basis of our completeness. This needs to be cultivated throughout life - this is what a spiritual process means.
September 10, 2018
Mouni Roy – Why Are Relationships Becoming Fickle Today?
Relationships can be of many kinds; but these days the word "relationship" largely connotes a body-based relationship. Once the relationship is body-based, usually the excitement about each other's body will die after some time. Once that happens, the relationship starts to fall apart. So you must look at relationships in terms of an expression of joy, and for that to happen you must first become joyful by your own nature. Once your relationship is not need-based, and you are naturally joyful, you can hold wonderful relationships with everyone!
September 1, 2018
I’m Addicted to Sex – What Should I Do?
Sex is natural aspect of the body. But Sexuality is psychological - it is your creation. If sex stays in the body, its fine; once it enters the mind, it becomes perversion. Sexuality has become very big now. This is so because somewhere we have not accepted our biology. As this continued over a period of time, sex has become a huge thing in people's minds. If you observe - more joyful you become, less is the need for pleasure. Sexuality is fine, there is nothing wrong or right about it, but it is only a basic aspect of life.
August 22, 2018
What Are The Qualities of a Good Friend?
Sadhguru tells is the qualities of a "Good Friend" and elaborates. Good friends aren't always nice; Good friends say what needs to be said; Good friends have the courage to be unpopular; Good friends aren't conditional.
August 20, 2018
How to avoid being selfish?
Is it possible to not be selfish? Is there such a thing as an 'unselfish act'? Is there a problem in being selfish? If not, then why is being selfish considered inappropriate? In this article Sadhguru shows us the way out.
June 29, 2018
What is Communication? Is it only about language?
What is communication really about? What does it take to be an effective communicator? Many communication trainers have emphasized that communication is not only about speaking effectively, but also about ones listening capabilities. But, is communication something even beyond language? Are there other ways you can communicate?
June 18, 2018
What Is Love?
What is love? And what is unconditional love - if there is such a thing! Is love just one more need, which has been glorified? Sadhguru narrates a beautiful and touching story of a king and his loving wife. He also elaborates on the science of 'mangalsutra', and how it is a tool for two beings to get entwined, and sadly how the science has been lost now. So, is love the goal of life? Sadhguru clarifies...
June 11, 2018
Love – Decoded! Is Love a need? Is unconditional love possible?
November 20, 2020
How to Deal with the Death of a Loved one?
August 26, 2020
How To Deal With Expectations In a Relationship?
March 23, 2020
I Face a Lot of Friction – What to Do?
May 6, 2019
Are Marriages made in heaven?
February 14, 2019
Why Do We Form Families?
December 2, 2018
Can Jealousy Be Used As A Motivator?
October 15, 2018
Amish Tripathi – How To Deal With The Loss Of a Someone Close To Us?
September 10, 2018
Mouni Roy – Why Are Relationships Becoming Fickle Today?
September 1, 2018
I’m Addicted to Sex – What Should I Do?
August 22, 2018
What Are The Qualities of a Good Friend?
August 20, 2018
How to avoid being selfish?
June 29, 2018
What is Communication? Is it only about language?
June 18, 2018
What Is Love?
June 11, 2018