Sumona Chakravarti: Hello, this is Sumona Chakravarti. Namaskaram Sadhguru. Sadhguru, I want to know the truth about astrology. I mean I know it is a science, but you know when one has to match horoscopes before a wedding. Or a Manglik girl who is supposed to wed a tree first, you know, before she marries the guy. Or the fact that, you know one has to wear particular stones to help with various things in life. So what is the truth about it? What is the reality of it all? I mean, because it is very confusing to our generation to understand because either we rebel, or you know, succumb to parental pressure. So if you could help us understand the truth about it, it would be wonderful. Thank you so much. Pranam.
Sadhguru: Namaskaram Sumona. Well, I like this idea of marrying a tree. I’m married to trees, you know. I think it’s a good idea. Very stable partner, rooted. In today’s life, getting somebody so rooted is a rare thing. It’s a really great idea.
See, horoscopes are being matched. What it means is stars are being matched. But how do you match these two idiots, it’s not possible. Nobody can match these two idiots. Only if they take responsibility for each other, if they show some sense of involvement, and invest their lives in each other, then something wonderful may happen.
If your life is about extracting happiness from somebody else, you will see it will become bitter over a period of time
If you match them, doesn’t matter how you match them, nothing is going to work out. This is why for most people, all love affairs and marriages are beautiful only for some time. After that it’s one big anxiety, or non-stop friction. Simply because people are trying to match each other. You cannot match people. No two human beings are same, it will not work that way. It is just that if you hold the other person’s well being above your own, then you will find everything works out.
If your life is about extracting happiness from somebody else, you will see it will become bitter over a period of time. If your life is about sharing the joy that you are, then everything will work out. It doesn’t matter what the stars say. Anyway, stars can speak what they want. Once you come here as a human being, you are supposed to create this life. This is the only creature on the planet, who can structure its own life. If you want to give that up and allow inanimate things like planets and stars to decide the future of who you are, it’s a tragic way to exist.
If your life is about sharing the joy that you are, then everything will work out
So please, you and whoever else is influenced by you, please tell them to take their lives into their hands. It doesn’t matter… and how silly is it that a third person, that you do not know, is going to tell you whether you will live happily or not with your husband or your wife. How vulgar is that. Take up this responsibility in your hand. It doesn’t matter what kind of fool you marry, you take up the responsibility that you will live well. And that’s the only way you will live well.