Kagiso Rabada: Hey Sadhguru. My question is, so many times in society you are often told what should make you happy, and in a way we are followers. I wanted to find out your opinion on what should make a person essentially happy? So what is it, or what does it mean to be truly happy?
Sadhguru: Namaskaram KG. I’m sorry to tell you that my April trip to South Africa has been postponed, riding on the virus! So, you know the situation.
But about happiness, I was just telling them this is mango season in India, and maybe in some parts of Africa also. But you can’t compare Indian mango to anything!
Well, now when we go near a mango tree – this is a time when all the young boys and girls are looking. Parrots are also here, they’re all looking up for the mangoes. This is the direction we’re looking, because that’s where sweetness is. Suppose you go under the mango tree and start digging, is there any chance of you ever eating a mango, I’m asking? Is it possible
No matter what – joy or misery, agony or ecstasy, pain or pleasure is caused from within us
So what we need to understand is human experience is caused from within us. No matter what – joy or misery, agony or ecstasy, pain or pleasure is caused from within us. But, we are trying to fix the world, so that we are happy.
See, we thought we are fixing it. Just a silly virus – our whole lives go into an upheaval. So, right now all our programs cancelled – and much financial loss all over the place, because we booked major event spaces. And so much has been done, volunteers have worked everywhere – now, it’s just up in the air. We can not even say when we will do it. This is the time we get into depression, because everybody says if things don’t happen the way you think they should happen, you must be miserable.
Nothing in the world will ever happen 100% your way
Nothing in the world will ever happen 100% your way. This one person [pointing to self] must happen your way, 100%. If this one [self] happened 100% your way, would you keep yourself blissful or miserable? That’s all the question is. I know what’s your choice. You’re asking this question, because as you said – people say this will make you happy, that will make you happy, fix this, fix that, fix that. Fix everything – still it will not happen because you are trying to dig mangoes from the roots. That’s not where it comes, it comes up there.
So what is within you, if you search for it outside, it’s going to be an endless search. This is why we are talking about Inner Engineering. You fix this one [self[. Being joyful is assured. Rest of the life, we have to do to the best of our ability. No two human beings can do outside life to the same extent. It’s never possible. No two human beings can ever do it the same way, when it comes to the world. But, if you are joyful, you will do your best, and that’s all that matters. In this life, are you’re doing your best in every possible way? You can only do that, if you’re happy and joyful by your own nature.
If your happiness depends upon what is happening around you – whether you get a wicket or not. You are just about to play Australia, is it? Hmm.. got cancelled? Oh, they are playing India! Now, I can’t even wish you luck!
Now, you can bowl and play your game to the best only when your physical body, and your intelligence cooperates with you. It doesn’t take any scientific understanding – if you make a sensible evaluation of yourself, you can clearly see that, your body and your brains cooperate best only when your experience of life is pleasant, which is what you are calling as happiness. Happiness is not some quantity. It’s just that you are feeling very pleasant, so you say – I am happy. Your pleasantness should be determined by what’s happening within you, not by what’s happening around you.
Your pleasantness should be determined by what’s happening within you, not by what’s happening around you
This is not difficult to fix. You see people who are miserable – or so many different ways – all kinds of people, who can’t laugh, who can’t sing, who can’t dance, who can’t do nothing sensible – they have a drink and suddenly [they start dancing]. So, I am saying, chemistry can change one’s experience. This being the most complex chemical factory – we can teach you how to be a great manager of this factory, so that you are always [dancing] absolutely blissed out. Now your body and your brains will function at your best.
Depending upon what sort of work you are doing, how much success you find depends on who you are playing the game with. Now, you are playing with India – cancelled, but if you did then whichever way you bowled, some of them hit it out of the boundary. The boys have become like that these days. There was a time, in 5 days, if once the ball crossed the boundary – without pitching, I mean – if it’s a 6, oh, the whole country celebrated. Now, in 5 mins if there is no 6, everybody is getting frustrated – what’s happening here! So, things have changed, bowlers get battered. But at the same time, because they are trying to go so fast, bowlers also have a good time. Because the pace is so high.
So, your happiness should not depend on how many Indian batsman get out. I don’t like that! Your happiness should be that you are just happy, because of that you are doing the best possible bowling that you can do. KG, all the best for you.
Oh! It’s a dangerous thing – talking to a South African player now.