How to deal with someone’s ego?

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It is just that we tend to attribute all our 'bad' behaviour to Mr. Ego. There is no ego. There is just you. Sometimes pleasant, sometimes unpleasant, sometimes beautiful, sometimes horrible. Only once someone realises this, they can move towards being pleasant, and the moments of horror will go down by itself.

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How to deal with someone’s ego?

The following is an unedited transcript of Sadhguru's video. For better readability, breaks and highlights have been added by the editors.

Questioner: I would like to ask about – how could one deal with the ego, especially somebody from the Western world.

Sadhguru: Somebody else’s or yours? Somebody else’s or yours?

Questioner: Me and the others. How could you get over it and. try to be a good yogi? Thank you.

Sadhguru: In a moment we can handle it. If you just show me where it is, I’ll just shoot it right away. Where is it?

Questioner: I don’t know.

Sadhguru: How do you know it’s there?

Questioner: In behavior.

Sadhguru: Maybe you’re just nasty!

Questioner: Actually, I don’t know.

Sadhguru: No. See, it’s like this whenever you behave in a pleasant manner – what’s your name?

Questioner: Baihan

Sadhguru: Whenever you behave in a pleasant manner you are Baihan. Whenever you behave in an unpleasant manner, it is Mr Ego. It’s a sure way to deceive yourself for the rest of your life. You just have to see, this is Isha yoga. You just have to see – if you’re pleasant it’s you, if you’re unpleasant it’s you. If you see this – you wouldn’t like the unpleasant part of who you are, you’ll deal with it. There’s nothing to deal with it. Are you unpleasant right now? No. You just have to stay like this, that’s all.

You just have to see – if you’re pleasant it’s you, if you’re unpleasant it’s you.

It doesn’t take anything. It just takes free breathing – that’s all. To be blessed, does it take some other commodity to become pleasant?

No, no, just oxygen, that’s all. Only when oxygen is scarce you could become, body can become unpleasant. Otherwise you can sit here and die pleasantly, you know. Really! Tell me what other ingredient do you need to be pleasant? Nothing.

No, it is only because you think there is some other entity which makes you unpleasant, like ego. It is just like saying I am possessed. When our people behave in unreasonable ways they think spirits have taken or taken over. No, they don’t want to see that they’re unreasonable people. That’s why they never get well. That’s why they never get straightened out. The first step that you need to see is this – if i’m pleasant, it’s me. If i’m unpleasant, it’s me. If i’m wonderful, it’s me. If i’m horrible, it’s me. If you see this, you will stamp out the horror quite efficiently. You can’t stay with it for too long. Because it is another spirit called ego, it’s an elf called ego, it goes on and on and on endlessly. See, this is a very good trick, you asked a question about ego. Now, I ask you where is it? You say, I don’t know. It’s a damn good trick.

There is no ego. There is just you. Sometimes pleasant, sometimes unpleasant, sometimes beautiful, sometimes horrible.

You don’t know where it is, but it acts up all the time, isn’t it? So it’s a trick. There is no ego. There is just you. Sometimes pleasant, sometimes unpleasant, sometimes beautiful, sometimes horrible.

If you see this, the moments of horror will go down by itself. You don’t have to do anything. You just don’t have to do anything. If you see, it’s me who is being horrible, it will start going down. You think I’m horrible because of my ego, or usually because of somebody, it’ll never ever go down. You will remain horrible the rest of your life. Or maybe beyond. And maybe beyond you know. You may find employment in hell.

That’s one, see that is one good thing about being horrible. If you torture yourself efficiently, and everybody around you, they may give you employment in hell. In heaven there is no employment because there’s nothing to do. They won’t choose me for employment in hell. I really have to get hard with people maybe then they will. But you will find employment. If you don’t stop deceiving yourself with this ego business. It’s better to be unemployed in hell, I’m telling you. Everybody will be good, if you’re unemployed in hell, isn’t it? So, please don’t start practicing here for employment in hell.

Don’t start practicing unpleasantness here, because you think you’re practicing for employment in future. After death at least let’s have a vacation. Lot of work right now.

People who have nothing to do right now, or people who are refusing to do anything worthwhile right now are seeking employment after death. No, no, do everything that you have to do now. After death let’s have a vacation. You must be so pleasant and useless that nobody should give you a job, out there.

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