Questioner: Namaskaram Sadhguru, My son requested that I ask you this question. He would like to know how to stay motivated and self-disciplined in day-to-day life?
Sadhguru: You should not be a motivated person. Generally, somebody… when we say someone is motivated, it means, they have an agenda of their own.
You should not be a motivated person
Life has no agenda. It’s for you to be a full fledged life. A grasshopper is trying to be a full fledged grasshopper. Earthworm is trying to be a full fledged earthworm. A bird is trying to be a full fledged bird. A tree is trying to be a full fledged tree. A human being should strive to become a full fledged human being. This is all our business is.
But each one of us start creating our own agendas, and doing all kinds of things. No, no, no – you are just a piece of life. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Because before you and me, countless number of people have come and gone. Yes or no? Where are they, all those people? You think they were all idiots? They were all idiots, and they died, is it? No, they were also like you – maybe they were also officers, maybe they were kings, more than you, all kinds of things. All top soil now. This will also become top soil.
A human being should strive to become a full fledged human being. This is all our business is
Just a little bit of time – life is a bit of a sparkle. How old is your son sir?
Sadhguru: 25. So, 27 years ago, where was he sir? So, if somebody is not here, we say they are dead, isn’t it? 27 years ago, he was dead. We will give him 100 years, sir. 80 years later, he will be again dead. Yes or no? So, 27 years ago, how long was he dead sir? Long time! So, 85 years later, or 80 years later, how long will he be dead sir? Very long time.
So, all of us will be dead for a very long time. We are alive just for a brief amount of time. Yes? Very brief amount of time. We will be dead for a very long time. I want you to look at it in this perspective. How long will you be dead? You can’t imagine – so let us say 10,000 years you are dead, or 100,000 years we are dead, or a million years we are dead, alright! How long are you alive, compared to that? Very very brief. What you call as life is a brief sparkle.
The only thing that you have to do is rise and sparkle, as a full fledged life. When something is needed around us, we will do that – naturally. Because, when you are doing wonderfully well, you will do what is needed, isn’t it? When you are miserable, you will be motivated. Yes! Tell me, when you are very happy, have you looked at yourself – how nice and wonderful you are. You are willing to do anything for anybody. Bend backwards if necessary. Yes or no?
When you are little frustrated – how difficult it is! So, don’t teach your children to become motivated about something. These are all nonsense that’s coming from the West. All those trashy self help books. Motivate yourself – build confidence – believe in yourself. You believed in God, and destroyed so much of this world. Now, you believe in yourself – what will you do? All this trash is coming from the West.
You don’t have to be motivated. You just have to see – how this is alive to it’s fullest possible level, right now. If it’s fully alive, it will do everything that it can do, isn’t it? What it can not do, anyway it will not do. If you watch a bird in the morning – there are birds here, you know. Where do you come from sir? Delhi? Tamilnadu? Chennai?
Chennai, maybe there are no birds, except kaka. So, here if you see a bird sir, little bird – in the morning it is doing everything that it can do, isn’t it? Hello? Everything that it can do, it will spare nothing. That’s all you have to do. Everything that you can do. What you can not do, perfectly ok. A worm can not do what a bird does. A bird can not do what an elephant does. An elephant can not do what we do. Yes or no? But, we must be doing what we can do. What we can not do, it doesn’t matter. What we can do, must happen.
For this, all that is needed is, you must understand, life is a very brief sparkle. Juts poo poo poo – and gone. Yes or no? Before you know what’s happening, you will be gone. Unless you are miserable. Miserable people have a long life. Only they feel life is long. If you are very joyful – poof – it will be gone, before you know what’s happening.
You will be dead for millions of years – you are alive just for a few
Have you noticed, a specific day, you are very happy – 24 hours – gone like that. Little miserable – 24 hours – feel like 10,000 years. Yes or no? So, time is a very relative experience. But, if you compare to how long you will be dead – you will be dead for millions of years – you are alive just for a few.. little bit. This time, don’t be motivated by anything. All that you have to do is you must become a full fledged life.
25 year old boy – he shouldn’t become a motivated human being. He must just be – burst of life. Then he won’t ask – how do I wake up in the morning, and be motivated? What are you motivated about? Nothing. If you are alive, you will bounce out of your bed, isn’t it? But now, the way we eat, the way we breathe, the way we do things, and intoxicants, and stuff, everything – generally the body wants to die. It doesn’t want to be alive.
People, you know, it’s all from the West, people created this culture, what is that – thank god it’s Friday. The statistics show that 70% of the Americans hate their jobs. Not dislike, hate! Five days if you do something that you hate, I don’t know how you enjoy the weekend. All that happens in the weekend is, you are knocked out. You are either drunk, or you are drugged, or you are indulging in something, ok. Beyond that no great shakes joy is happening, alright. Yes or no? 70% of the people hate their jobs. How do you live like this? Why the hell are you doing something that you hate, first of all? If you don’t love doing what you are doing, you shouldn’t do it. Always, somebody will do it. Hello!
Someone comes to me. He is heading a multinational company, global CEO. He comes in a distressed state – Sadhguru, I can’t take this. They are putting so much pressure on me everyday. Can’t take this. Then I look at him, raise my hands and say, may you be fired. Sadhguru! Sadhguru! What are you saying. I said, man you are suffering so much, what is the point? At least if you are fired, you can walk on the beach. Maybe somebody else will do this job little more joyfully than you.
You think you are spinning the planet or what! Hello! What is the hardship? Are you spinning the planet? Are you pushing it around the Sun? Everything is free, isn’t it? Hello! Everything is free. All you have to do is, be a full fledged life. Don’t constipate yourself with too many ideas, philosophies, belief systems. Stupid thoughts and emotions with which you get constipated and become less than who you are. No, you should not ever be less than what you can be, isn’t it? You don’t have to be as good as somebody else. And you can never be. Because everybody is different. But, you should not be less than what you can be. So, you don’t motivation for this. You need aliveness.
At 25, if you are not very alive, you need some cranking. Chennai! Chennai, usually is alive very early in the morning. It’s not like Bangalore. Bangalore wakes up at 10 o’clock. Chennai is alive at 5 o’clock in the morning. So, don’t motivate your children. It’s not necessary. You have to see, how they are joyful and alive. In this, there body and their intelligence will work at their best. Oh! will they just be happy, and not do anything? You tell me, are you willing to do more when you are happy., or are you willing to do more when you are unhappy?
When you are happy, you are willing to do anything that is needed
When you are happy, you are willing to do anything that is needed, isn’t it? You are willing to forgo your food, your sleep, and do what you need to do, when you are very happy, isn’t it? When you are unhappy – oh! how hard it is to get anything done from you! Yes or no?
So, a wife sent a telegram to her husband, who was on a three month training, IAS you know. She sent a telegram – start worrying, rest will follow in a letter. Don’t do this to yourself. At 25 you start worrying, rest will follow.