How to overcome fear of suffering?

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You would step out into the world, and do whatever needs to be done, only if you have an assurance that no matter what you walk into, you will not lose yourself. You will walk full stride, otherwise you will only be half a step. Most human beings are half a step, because of fear of suffering.

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How to overcome fear of suffering?

The following is an unedited transcript of Sadhguru's video. For better readability, breaks and highlights have been added by the editors.

If you try to control the variety of situations that may pop up in your face tomorrow morning, all that’ll happen is, you will become a very limited life. You would step out into the world and do whatever that needs to be done, only if you have an assurance, no matter what you walk into, you will not lose yourself – you will walk full stride, otherwise you’ll only be half a step. Most human beings are half steps because the fear of suffering. If this happens, what’ll happen to me? If that happens, what’ll happen to me?

If you’re well-managed within yourself – you know how to manage your thought, you know how to manage your emotion, you know how to manage your body, your chemistry, your energy. If you know how to manage all this, what does it matter if you walk into hell, I’m asking. If you’re well-managed, if you are a heaven within you, what does it matter where you go? Hell also will be an interesting place to go!

But, if you’re ill-managed, then you want to be in a nice place all the time. You will not step out into anything. I’m not saying this is wrong. This is against nature – because in nature, every life is aspiring to be as much as it can be, isn’t it? Every life is naturally aspiring. This is not a philosophy, this is not an ideology that you must do this or that. It is natural and intrinsic for every life, that it will do as much as it can. From an earthworm, from a worm, to an insect, to a bird, to an animal, to a tree – every one of them is trying to be full-fledged life. If you go against this simply because of the fear of suffering, then all possibilities of exploring the nature of being human, the tremendous immensity of being human, is just lost upon humanity.

Today, you will see this everywhere, when people say, “I am only human,” they are talking about the limitations of being human. They’re not talking about the possibilities of being human, isn’t it? When… if we are the most intelligent species on the planet, if we are the most capable species on the planet, should we be talking about our possibilities, or should we be talking about our limitations? Whenever anybody writes or says, “Oh, we are human,” they are always referring to their limitations, never to the possibilities of being human. This is because the most fundamental things have not been taught in our education systems. How to handle your thought and your emotion.

Your psychological drama has gone out of control

Your psychological drama has gone out of control. It’s a badly directed drama, believe me! If it was a well directed drama, you would take it to the conclusion that you want, isn’t it? Because it’s a badly directed drama, just about anybody can take charge of it! Who is the director of your psychological drama – just about anybody, isn’t it? Anybody can make it into a tragedy!

The reason why people have not even learnt to manage their thought and emotion – by the time you’re 10 you should have learnt it. At 60, people still don’t know how to manage their thought and emotion. They’re standing up like ghosts in their life. They don’t need anybody’s help. They can go on endlessly creating suffering for themselves.

Now, suppose you did not know how…. you have normal hands, and you do not know how to use it. What would you call yourself? No – you tell yourself, don’t tell me – it’s ok! Whatever you think… If you have a normal process of mental faculty, and you do not know how to use it, it means the same thing! Yes or no? Does it mean the same thing or no? You don’t have a normal hand, then you can’t use it – that’s different. We will look at you compassionately.

But you have a normal hand, and you don’t know how to use it – whatever word you used to call yourself, don’t tell me! But the same thing goes if you don’t know how to use your thought and emotion towards your wellbeing, isn’t it? Because ill-managed…Because the fundamentals of life are not grasped. What is the nature of my existence – if you don’t know this, how do you manage? Only if you grasp the nature of something, then you learn to manage it, isn’t it? You don’t even see what it is – how to manage it? There is no way to manage it.

So, the first and foremost thing – that’s why – is called ‘realisation’. You must understand this – in this country, in this culture, we never refer to any kind of spiritual realisation as an attainment. We only said, it is a realisation. Realisation means – you simply saw what is already there. You did not invent anything. You did not climb the top of a mountain. You are beginning to see everything just the way it is. But that has become such a rarity – that it is being hugely valued!

Someone was asking me three days ago – I was in Kerala – Sadhguru, you seem to know everything! I said – see, there is only one thing I know. I know ‘this’ [self] one thing from it’s origin to it’s ultimate. I said, I know only one thing, and you are clapping your hands! I know only ‘this’ [self] one thing, but because the nature of human experience is such – you know everything only through ‘this’ [self] one!

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